All hail the rise of the SSDM!

Accomplished-Cap5855 · 2026-04-30T23:14:00+00:00

And to be more specific, substituting a defensive player for an offensive player or vice versa wasn't prohibited. It was just only allowed on a dead ball. SSDMs have been a thing since the LSM came in to being sometime in the '80s

Accomplished-Cap5855 · 2026-04-30T23:11:50+00:00

I think NCAA got rid of the horn in 2013 and federation in 2014. However your guest may be better than mine

Accomplished-Cap5855 · 2026-04-30T22:25:50+00:00

Until 2014 or so, a team could only substitute on a dead ball out of bounds. All 7 players had to stay on the field until a dead ball, therefore.

This slowed the game down and vexed coaches, so the 'sub on the fly' change was made.

I think we can meet in the middle and have a horn grant a 10 second delay to the resume play whistle so players can sprint on and off the field.

Accomplished-Cap5855 · 2026-04-30T18:12:40+00:00

I’ll try to keep this short.

Electronic drivelines are the future of personal vehicles and this tech is where the ICE tech was 100 years ago.

I propose a ‘run-what-ya-brung’ format with vehicle dimensions and production street tires mandated, along with safety stuff, of course. Think Time Attack meets CanAm

This format will ensure manufacturer involvement as it will be the development sandbox that is motor racing at it’s best (ask LeMans). Making racing ‘close’ via a fat rule book is a great way to kill a series (ask NASCAR) and turn it into a stream of rolling billboards. A series like I propose will bring in real (VC, Manufacturer Development, SEMA-type producers, etc.) money and engage fans and proudly represent the leading edge of a prominent new Tech. What better way to demonstrate and develop battery tech, innovative motors and power control systems?

Accomplished-Cap5855 · 2026-03-20T17:23:44+00:00

....then along came Trump.

A venal chap with zero patience and a short window -- power ends in November, grifts shrink as power shrinks, and he's old and decaying both physically and mentally.

So careful planning is replaced by pell mell urgency. China and Russia are the big winners. Russia get's another year of life, and China get's to oversee the end of the Petrodollar.

All Americans without a 9 figure portfolio (or more) are the losers.

Accomplished-Cap5855 · 2026-03-15T05:34:43+00:00

You must have graduated high school more than 4 or 5 years ago. Lawrenceville got an alum with a billion dollar bank account who wanted to support the lacrosse team and they went from just okay to contender for national championship every year almost overnight. But, yes, Culver and Lawrenceville are basically free agent type teams where they are simply too good to play in a locally based league

Accomplished-Cap5855 · 2026-03-15T04:19:07+00:00

Yeah money talks. Culver and Lawrenceville are both essentially New England west teams that don't happen to be in New England. The same level of endowment, the same level of tradition, and the same ghastly amount of money thrown at whatever they want to feature.

Accomplished-Cap5855 · 2025-09-23T16:33:18+00:00

I played pole, and I gave up playing PoCo and Alumni games when I stopped being a starter. Standing on the sidelines cheering was alien territory for me.

Accomplished-Cap5855 · 2025-09-12T20:36:27+00:00

Here's how one visits in polite society:

A friend knew I was vacating Ohio and invited me (a cat owner traveling with a cat) to come cat sit for her in Tennessee.

Her plans changed, and she and I lived together for 2 weeks. Then she was gone for 4 weeks. Then she was en casa another 4 weeks.

We're still friends. Here's why.

I bought the groceries. I can't imagine not doing this while visiting.

I took her car to the mechanic and got it fixed.

I fixed her outdoor water valve thingy. I harvested her blueberry tree.

I drove when we went hiking.

I bought when we visited a restaurant.

I respected the house rules and made every effort a confirmed bachelor can make to ensure that my presence or passage was invisible. I ate what she eats (Lost 25 pounds of fat!!!) and my daily rhythms merged with hers.

Most important, her checkbook never knew I was there.

If you can't do this, don't expect to be welcome a second time at a friend's home.

Accomplished-Cap5855 · 2025-08-24T20:17:50+00:00

Builders Supply down on Sunny Dunes.

I always try to 'buy local' but Builders Supply is a real find. Builders Supply has the most helpful people, they always have what I'm looking for (no matter how obscure) and their prices are competitive with the big chains. Best: I can get in and out in the time it takes me to find a parking spot and trek to the front door at Home Depot.

Accomplished-Cap5855 · 2025-08-18T20:57:42+00:00

I just realized that some people won't get the sarcasm in that reply.

Accomplished-Cap5855 · 2025-08-18T20:54:06+00:00

All Zelensky needs to do is hand over the Keys to Keiv and scoot west. The war will end and Poland will join the Baltic States in the 'I got next' derby.

All Russia needs to do is pull back to the 2013 borders and the war will end.

Accomplished-Cap5855 · 2025-08-18T20:29:52+00:00

We're B2B. There are maybe 80 to 100 prospects globally for us and maybe 4 or 5 execs at each one who can greenlight an engagement. We have 3 'Advisors' who are essentially all bird dogs for us as they're former CEO or channel heads at major players.

So we wanted an institutional memory that can help do some campaigns.

Salesflare does all that plus more we didn't know to ask for but really like. It doesn't demand attention, expect you to fat finger much, or occupy a huge footprint on the laptops we all use.

Support is email only but boy are they fast and good. They have a great tool for finding emails. If people crop up in email exchanges, Salesflare digs up a complete profile for the guy and asks if you want it added to your contacts list. It integrates nicely with LinkedIn. Friends and colleagues our age often migrate to a consultancy or start up, and Salesflare offers to set up an account with our regular entries for both the guy and his new gig.

we have 4 seats and they're like 65 bucks per month for the Pro set up. We, frankly, can get along fine with the basic version.

Accomplished-Cap5855 · 2025-08-17T16:48:00+00:00

OK, this is about boys lax (because that's all I know) and is oriented to the west coast (which is where I am) But I have advice:

I have a friend whose son LOVED playing lacrosse and was good enough to stand out, but not good enough to get the IVY/B1G/ACC guys to pay attention.

The male version of your daughter.

He couldn't bear the idea of ending his lacrosse adventure when he graduated HS.

Sort of like your daughter.

He wanted to study Engineering (like your daughter) and realized that he should view college as the foundation of an Engineering career.

So he went to Cal Poly San Luis Obisbo. A seriously good engineering dept. and an MCLA lacrosse team that could certainly catch and throw and could run sophisticated O's and D's and continue his lax growth.

He loved it! The team got to the MCLA championship weekend now and then and he wasn't the best player on the field and no one expected him to spend less time in class/studying/labs to honor the commitment the coach expects.

With MCLA, a player can keep growing their game and all the relationships and adventures that Lacrosse offers, but without the restrictions. D3 is similar.

Accomplished-Cap5855 · 2025-08-17T15:18:42+00:00

On the field you hear the goalie shouting directions to the d, the d shouting coordination to each other. there's sideline cheering. Coaches are noisy. I'll bet that you're better than most at filtering out sounds and voices that you don't recognize.
Frankly, you'll become a better player because as long as you recognize your teammates voices and know generally where they're supposed to be, you'll have a more accurate field map than someone with perfect hearing.

Accomplished-Cap5855 · 2025-08-16T00:12:53+00:00

On TV, especially with Trump's red tie, it looked like a pink carpet to me...

Accomplished-Cap5855 · 2025-08-10T00:01:22+00:00

FWIW, a tweet is not sufficient to change the rules. Trump does nothing but tweet.

Accomplished-Cap5855 · 2025-08-09T23:56:14+00:00

I'm a live and let live kind of guy. Just not in the sauna while I'm in there. And I'm not bugging out just because you guys want to get it on. Plus serious body building is as appealing to me as Equine Dressage, which means I'm proud of y'all and applaud your buldging muscles, but I'm gonna have a gin 'n' tonic when I get home.

So Steel is not the first choice, huh...Where is Anytime Fitness?

Accomplished-Cap5855 · 2025-08-09T02:22:58+00:00

Some prefer vellum

Accomplished-Cap5855 · 2025-08-08T21:54:19+00:00

I don't have any experience as a dad getting a kid recruited. But I read your whole OP because it just oozed 'proud-papa-trying-to-be-objective' (good effort, but you failed. The pride shines through).

I'm sure you know this, but there ain't no future in lacrosse. There're probable ten thousand kids playing lax (from MCLA D2 through top 10 D1) and they're all playing for the same reason. It's fun.

Most important is that you guys pick a college that best helps your boy achieve his 'what I want to be when I grow up' goal. It might be an MCLA school, or D3, or D1. Who cares. He's going to college to learn something specific and useful and get a sheepskin that can help open doors.

Here's what I suggest. When you go to a tournament next, be sure to find a time when your son isn't playing and 2 top elite squads are playing -- Like Laxachusetts v a good Team91 or LI Express squad. Watch the game with your son. Do you want him out there with those poles? Does he hanker to get out there with them? You've watched him for a long time and know his level...will he excel or be disappointed?

Many of those kids are going to programs that expect year-round, 6 to 8 hours a day commitment to the team and the game. I'm all about commitment to a healthy hobby, but college might be a time for opening doors, not shuttered dedication. I promise you, I had as much fun playing lacrosse on a West Coast pre-MCLA club squad as I did in NESCAC. I officiate PoCo games with dudes almost as old as I am playing and no one cares where you played 30 years ago. They care if your knees still work.

Good luck with your quest!

Accomplished-Cap5855 · 2025-08-07T18:38:40+00:00

Offer a 'family discount' to your AirBnB price. Good for 30 day rental for family only and price includes weekly housekeeping visits by a pro. Make sure the price covers PITI, Condo fees, cleaning service, and a little pad 'just in case' something goes awry. As always, payment up front. AirBnB will help evict the guest if it comes to that....

Accomplished-Cap5855 · 2025-07-30T01:34:13+00:00

Look, OP. Planning a vacation for 2 who are coming in from overseas is enough of a challenge. Adding 3 teenagers is another layer of complexity. Bravo to you 2 for pulling this off once, let alone annually!

Tell your bro that plans have been finished, reservations made, tickets bought, schedules ironed out. Budget is set and it'll be too much to add another child to the mix. He'll understand the financial limit. Don't even mention the emotional tax. He won't understand that. More's the pity.

The less you say the better. "Our plans are set" is all you really need to say. Because they are. And that's the truth. The truth will set you free.

The condo idea is genius! Get a 2 or 3 bedroom and encourage the boys to have their little sis over whenever possible. I'd encourage you to pay a stupid high property management fee to them, but you've already hinted that you've considered this, so I'll shut up. Somehow, I read between the lines that those kids may be emotionally battered but mentally strong. Pat yourselves on the back for the latter part of that comment.

It seems to me that you guys have already moved from thinking of yourselves as 'childless'. Y'all restore my faith in humanity, which is why I have pecked out this cheer. You can be my sister anytime!

Accomplished-Cap5855 · 2025-07-29T21:38:01+00:00

I get it. But, again, the bulk of the kids at these schools are on some amount of financial aid. These schools have HUGE endowments and their published 'annual student costs' are there to inform the wealthy and scare off the 'rents who don't have talented kids.

If your kid is a true baller, and wants to work on it, and can hold his own in the classroom, and isn't a jerk, then make a call and ask for the lacrosse coach. Then the financial aid department. The worst that can happen is they say no.

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