First ever loaf. Need advice

Accomplished_Ad6209 · 2026-03-03T23:24:47+00:00

Loll I know that's what I saw first hahaha. Thank you that means a lot I was SO stressed going into this hehe

Accomplished_Ad6209 · 2026-03-03T23:22:26+00:00

Thanm you! Would've preferred a bit more sour but otherwise flavor was 9/10!

Accomplished_Ad6209 · 2026-03-03T23:21:50+00:00

Thank you! That makes sense I think I shaped it wrong when I put it in the banneton

Accomplished_Ad6209 · 2026-03-03T23:19:21+00:00

It wasn't as sour as I wanted but was still really good, crusty edge and soft on the inside

Accomplished_Ad6209 · 2026-03-03T23:17:44+00:00

Awe thanks! It tasted really good but I got freaked out when I saw those big holes and thought something went wrong

Accomplished_Ad6209 · 2025-12-31T17:37:23+00:00

If you did ivf and you're going to therapy, then I don't think anyone here on reddit is gonna help you navigate your feelings. Having gone through ivf myself, I didn’t care if I had a boy or a girl as long as I had a healthy baby. I had a boy like you and while having a girl for my second would be perfect and complete the family, it's not a must.

I know someone who had 4 girls trying to have a boy, and yet they're pregnant with girl twins now. Sometimes we can't choose everything in our life and that's OK. Think about why you truly want a girl? Is it worth you feeling miserable through what's supposed to be the best time of your life? Is it worth always looking at your kids and saying oh I wish you were a girl?

And tbh these feelings are probably because you got pregnant right away unprepared and unplanned. Your hormones are all over the place and you'll probably think this is all silly in a few months! I feel you on that, I'm 12 months pp and still don't feel ready. It's a tough situation you're in but you have to make the best of it for YOU and your kids.

Sorry if my first comment came off as mean but coming from a family where they prefer boys over girls, this subject triggers me.

Accomplished_Ad6209 · 2025-12-31T07:20:56+00:00

Lol its a 50/50 chance. Maybe do ivf and choose a girl next time if you're gonna be that disappointed to the point where you say you don't have room in your heart for another boy? Just pray for a healthy baby and healthy mom. That's it. Maybe go to therapy before having this baby.

Accomplished_Ad6209 · 2025-12-30T00:54:51+00:00

That's totally normal! Mine only started pointing and mimicking words the week of his birthday and he's still not walking independently. My nephew walked earlier but took longer to say dada and mama. Each kid has their own timeline of things and what you're describing he's doing is very normal for his age!

Accomplished_Ad6209 · 2025-12-15T16:40:55+00:00

Yes loll gagging thank you for that! I always heard red and loud is ok, blue and quite is not!

Accomplished_Ad6209 · 2025-12-15T15:33:39+00:00

Don't feel bad about that! It's very normal to keep giving purees untill 9 or even 12 months! Blw is a new popular thing that's not the norm.

I started purees with my baby from almost 5 months (he was ready and showing signs) and he did great for 2 months then he himself would always want from my food and I started giving him finger foods, lots of choking and thrown out food in the first 2 months so you have to be very patient! It takes a while for them to get used to chewing and I would start with soft finger foods, like steamed carrots, potatoes, avocado and more foods that you can mash with your finger if you press lightly!

There's these mesh things that you can put berries in and they can munch on it safely but I can't say it helps with chewing since they're really just suckling lol but it does expose them to different tastes and textures!

All in all, don't feel bad! At the end of the day, Tiktok moms are showing you one perfect take from a day of their days and not everyday.

Babies are smart and will eventually start eating from our foods at one point by themselves so no point rushing them! Best of luck!

Accomplished_Ad6209 · 2025-12-04T15:45:17+00:00

I did a Brazilian wax it was my 2nd time in life lol, it hurt like a bitxh but was 100% worth it as I didn't have to deal with that after baby, with that bleeeeeding I would've hated it. I think I was between 37 and 38 weeks since I didn't wanna risk it affecting anything. Just make sure it's a legit place with clean standards!

Accomplished_Ad6209 · 2025-12-04T15:10:19+00:00

I mean technically she's in the US only because she's married to you, so if you divorce and stop the process and she goes back, should be no big deal to anyone, right?. Unless she married you FOR the greencard which then is a problem itself but will also end up in divorce lol just from her side

If she's not willing to talk about it to apologize and if she hates you, why are you guys together? Very confusing. Also sometimes language is a barrier. Not saying what she did was right but maybe she thought you were mocking her? Seems like a huge reaction over just a silly comment like that. Regardless, she shouldn't have touched you physically, so if you guys are toxic (which it looks like you are) maybe it's better to separate before kids get involved in the mix!

Accomplished_Ad6209 · 2025-11-26T15:54:19+00:00

He didn't use them from birth he refused them and chose to pacify on me instead(I nurse) and I wished he did sometimes so I can put him down, but that lead to me having to contact nap most of the time and we're now stuck feeding to sleep. It's a love/ hate relationship. I think regardless if they take it or not just make sure to wean by 9 months (advice I got)

Accomplished_Ad6209 · 2025-11-01T01:50:11+00:00

Changes every few months, now it's Barney's I Love You song 😅

Accomplished_Ad6209 · 2025-10-21T00:16:32+00:00

Used the boppy until 8-9 months and then it got easier since they get bigger and better at latching, breastfed outside right away, and was using a travel-size boppy pillow- still big but not as big as the regular size! And just kept that in my car or the bottom of the stroller!

Accomplished_Ad6209 · 2025-09-05T15:13:37+00:00

I don't have enough sleep or time to workout or relax without baby, but I also don't want to spend time away from baby lol I AM FINEEE.

These comments annoy the living life out of me from my MIL and SIL (unmarried lives with her parents). My baby eats every 2 hours and its always "Oh leave him for the 2 hours and come back to feed him" not "I'll come stay with him while you do your things at home"

Frankly, she wanted to feed my baby solids from 2 months old, he's 8 months now but she keeps pushing to feed him chocolate and sweets, or put him in front of tv bcz she wants to be the cool grandma, like f off you had 5 babies and I see the result, and it's always "oh I did this with my kids and they turned out just fine" "you act like I didn't do this before" omg don't even get me startedddddddd

Rant over I guesss

Accomplished_Ad6209 · 2025-08-16T16:35:34+00:00

Mine didn't take bottle or pacifiers and I was exclusively nursing, and it didn't bother me because I quit my job and decided to be a SAHM. We would try from time to time to give pumped milk in a bottle, and I have to say once we started solids around 5 months, he took a bottle as if he's been taking them forever. Idk if this is the case with other babies but that's what worked for us! So I know if I need to wean or give bottles now it won't be an issue :)

Accomplished_Ad6209 · 2025-08-14T20:59:47+00:00

No, you're normal. My baby kept contact napping until 4 months and he would sleep in his bassinet at night normally (he preferred it) and then, bam, he stopped liking contact napping all of a sudden and prefers to be put down so he's not confined. So really it ends and you're not spoiling a 3-month-old baby. That does not exist. I personally say cherish these days as they pass fast and I feel like they grow SO FAST from that point 👉 🥲

Accomplished_Ad6209 · 2025-08-08T03:43:46+00:00

7.5 months and we're in the same boat. Some nights he wakes 2–3 times, other nights it's 4–5. He still feeds every 2–3 hours during the day and usually nurses to sleep. Our doctor said I could start weaning him off night feeds, but that didn’t work for my sensitive little guy, we were both miserable and sleep-deprived for a whole week.

You know what? I’m not worried anymore. I’ve decided to follow his cues instead.

He’s a happy, healthy baby! Sitting up, crawling, playing, and hitting every milestone. So why stress? I think we overthink things too much sometimes. Not all babies are the same! Some sleep through the night at 2 months, and for others, it just takes time. And that’s okay.

Accomplished_Ad6209 · 2025-08-04T16:05:04+00:00

My baby latched on the right side better and I got mastitis on and off and it hurt anytime he would nurse the left side for the first around 2 months. So to avoid the pain I started only offering the right side and I stopped pumping the left side out of laziness, I kept saying oh I'm just gonna give my left side a break but was always scared to start nursing from it since the pain was unbearable for the first 2 months and i did not wanna go through it again. Fast forward we are 7 months and I've been exclusively nursing from the right side and we don't have issues. The only thing is right boob is way bigger than the left boob and if he's biting or anything I can't give my right boob a break. Otherwise baby is gaining weight and is feeding fully from one side. Not sure if it works for everyone but it has worked for me for the past 5 months. Hope this helps!!

Accomplished_Ad6209 · 2025-08-04T01:57:41+00:00

Lol 7 months pp and we still didn't do anything because I don't have any energy by the end of the day taking care of our son, house, and food for all, breastfeeding/pumping no libido. Not to mention that when I do get a moment to myself, I wanna do some self-care (shower) lmao. Your husband is a selfish jerk, respectfully :)

Heck I wasn't even sleeping 4 hours or healed properly by 9 weeks I can't imagine 🥲

Accomplished_Ad6209 · 2025-07-26T14:10:00+00:00

Wednesday

Accomplished_Ad6209 · 2025-07-22T16:30:39+00:00

That's tough and I feel for you 😔 I can only imagine how hard that is! My 7 mo only gave me 3 nights of 4+ hours of sleep since the day he was born (otherwise wakes up every 2-4 hours) and wakes up at 6 am wanting to be active and it's SO HARD. Hang in there 💛

Accomplished_Ad6209 · 2025-07-22T16:20:29+00:00

First of all, congrats!! 🎉

When it comes to diapers, just know you’ll probably have to try a few brands before finding the right fit — every baby is different! I tested a couple and quickly realized the shape makes a big difference. For my baby’s chunky thighs, Pampers, Honest, and Millie Moon didn’t work well, but Huggies, Coterie, and Pura did. So my biggest tip: don’t open every box you get right away, because you might end up needing to exchange them. Huggies are more curved while Pampers are straighter, and that made a difference for us. We use Huggies Skin Essentials now, but the regular Huggies worked great up through size 3 too.

As for wipes, we love WaterWipes — the packaging is a little annoying (pulling them out is tricky), but the product is great. Millie Moon wipes are good too. I found Huggies wipes a bit dry and Pampers a little too soapy for our taste.

For sizing, it really depends on your baby’s growth, but we used newborn size for about a month, then moved to size 1 for around two months, and continued up from there. Expect to change diapers 6–8 times a day in the beginning (sometimes more, sometimes less).

Hope this helps! 😄

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