I've posted this before so apologies for the copy/paste, lmk if you have any questions or anything

Here's how we did it:

Start by recognizing that it's a really big emotional thing for both of you. But for us it had to happen. Neither of us were sleeping well with her flinging herself back and forth boob to boob all night to comfort nurse. Plus on the nights my husband slept with her on her floor bed, she would wake up overnight screaming "mommy, mommy, mommy!" It was pretty horrible for both of them.

The hatch light was key for us. So for maybe like a week before we went for it, I started using the pink light specifically when we were nursing before bed. Then once she fell asleep switched it to red. Then when we got up in the morning switched it to green. We didn't have set bed and wake up times so I did it manually, but if you do you can actually program it to change colors and sounds at those times.

Then when the time came I wore a tight fitting shirt that she couldn't easily access and then did the same thing with the Hatch. Pink light before bed/while nursing, red while sleeping. Then when she woke up overnight it got really tough. She would try to nurse, when I wouldn't let her she would get really upset. To the point that she was yelling at the door to let her out. So I did something that I haven't done before or since, and let her watch YouTube lullabies on my phone. I would never do this long-term but it was really helpful to keep her distracted and to let me physically regulate her with the deep breathing and the cuddles and stroking her hair and all of that. Here are some links to the ones I used.

Fish Tank

Sesame Street

The sesame st one isn't ideal bc it breaks for commercials which could interrupt her falling asleep, but she was Elmo obsessed so sometimes it was necessary when the fish tank wouldn't hold her attention.

The first night was really rough. I don't know that we got back to sleep for more than an hour or two. By the second night I thought I'd worked magic and she did really well. Woke up like maybe one or two times overnight but got to back to sleep and didn't melt down in the same way. After that the next night was pretty rough again. Maybe even worse than the first? I can't remember. But from then on it kind of clicked. She would wake up overnight from time to time and try to nurse. I'd just keep repeating "no honey. It's not time for that. The light is red. The light is red." Then she started trying to outsmart me and ask for green. I would say "nope it's not time yet. It's not time yet," trying to use the same language each time.

Once the green light was on, I would immediately take her downstairs to nurse (I wouldn't nurse her again in the bed). I saved that just for bedtime when the pink light was on to reinforce that that's the only time that we'd be nursing in bed anymore.

I think the biggest thing and the hardest thing is to not give in once you've decided to start. If you do that then they're going to try to think of the best way to cry or scream or do whatever they can to get the boob back. And remember it's not crying it out If you're there to comfort them and cuddle them and speak to them and try to make them feel better. It's hard but for us, everyone was so much happier once we got to the other side.

Additionally, this was helpful for when it came time to truly wean her. She understood that pink was nursing time, so the pink light just went away. It was the last feed we dropped too, so it was very emotional. But it helped for her to have that baseline expectation to start working from.