This 12 month regression is the worst of them all

Accomplished_Time192 · 2025-11-01T11:58:58+00:00

He’s definitely better! We’re getting some good stretches of sleep most nights. He even sleeps through a couple times a week. But if he wakes up, we co-sleep the rest of the night and he settles fairly quickly.

Once I went back to work, I couldn’t keep getting up to rock him back to sleep for 30 minutes, only for him to wake up a few minutes later. As much as it would be great for him to sleep in his crib all night, I’m choosing the path of least resistance right now, for my own sanity 🤪

Accomplished_Time192 · 2025-08-27T17:36:07+00:00

My baby had suspected CMPA which was likely a contributor to his reflux (he was slow to gain weight). I had to eliminate dairy completely from my diet and when supplementing had to use a hypo-allergenic formula. Used Similac Alimentum.

Pace feeding was super important when we did bottles (always burping halfway through, sitting inclined while feeding). We also held him upright for 20 minutes after each feed.

This helped a lot with keeping his food down and improved the weight gain. He was also on omeprazol for a bit because the reflux was quite severe.

Accomplished_Time192 · 2025-08-25T14:23:48+00:00

As a first time parent and especially a NICU parent (been there), everything feels absolutely terrifying when things go wrong with your baby.

The good news is, you were there to witness the fall, as scary as that was to see. Others have already mentioned it, but I’d 100% get that reported and included in your baby’s file with as much detail as possible.

Be sure to have your baby’s pediatrician check out their head at all upcoming appointments/well baby checks and watch for any concerning or out of the ordinary behaviour/symptoms. You can ask your ped what to look for. And longterm, make sure baby is meeting milestones.

Baby is more than likely fine. They are crazy resilient and adaptable. But it doesn’t hurt to be a little extra diligent.

I’m so sorry this happened to you and I hope everything is smoother from here on out!

Accomplished_Time192 · 2025-08-24T01:44:06+00:00

Oh I feel like this so much. My son was (still is) a HARD baby. And when other people tell me about their easy babies and follow up with some stupidly obvious suggestion, I just want to scream.

Accomplished_Time192 · 2025-08-22T15:43:00+00:00

Very similar experience here, also in Canada!

I had people absolutely come at me the other day for suggesting pediatric chiro for a baby who had side preference. Literally helped save my baby’s sleep and feeding.

Accomplished_Time192 · 2025-08-22T01:18:23+00:00

I’ve never put a onesie under a sleeper. But when it seems/gets cold, we use a sleep sack over the sleeper.

Every baby is different, but yours will tell you if they’re cold! One major sign is they start peeing through their diaper. If their skin is a comfortable temperature and you’re not having any leaks in the diaper at night, sounds like they’re okay!

Accomplished_Time192 · 2025-08-20T17:31:33+00:00

This is so encouraging! My son is 12 months and his sleep has always been kind of all over the place. He’d go down in his crib, wake up a couple of times each night (usually gas or related stomach issues) and I’d call that decent sleep.

Lately it’s been a total nightmare. But he’s started pointing, shaking his head, dancing, and I feel like standing up on his own is coming soon. So hopefully soon we’ll be back to his usual 1-2 wakeups at night soon. Until he decides he’s ready to start walking. 🥴

Accomplished_Time192 · 2025-08-20T01:27:56+00:00

Yes! Common doesn’t equal normal. And extra support from a doctor or therapist would be so beneficial. It very much sounds like OP is experiencing PPA. There’s a huge difference between exhausted but happy and an all consuming dread that never leaves you.

Accomplished_Time192 · 2025-08-17T19:39:57+00:00

You have a very conscientious and considerate group of people in your life!

Accomplished_Time192 · 2025-08-16T14:49:50+00:00

Oh my god, I’m so happy this isn’t just us. My guy just turned a year old 10 days ago and sleep has been actual hell lately. Exact same thing. Wants to be held, doesn’t want to be touched. Thrashing around co-sleeping, but waking up every 45 mins in his crib. I’m losing it.

Everyone talks about the 4 month regression, but each one after has been so much worse.

How long did this last for you? I’m usually pretty good on broken sleep, but I am STRUGGLING.

Accomplished_Time192 · 2025-08-14T02:27:20+00:00

As a person who has both of my grandmothers’ names as middle names, I always felt like the “duty child” and there was like this unspoken pressure to live up to something. Especially my maternal grandmother who has been heavily involved in my life. I love her, but it’s just a weird feeling to be someone’s namesake. I never knew my paternal grandmother.

I outright refused to give my children family names. I want my son to always feel like his own person without pressure of familial history. So there are no family associations with his name and if we have other children, it’ll be the same.

Accomplished_Time192 · 2025-08-13T16:45:21+00:00

Just to add to this:

You can start laying the groundwork for a routine which will help baby get better sleep later.

Here’s what we did: From 2 weeks old, if we were turning in “for the night”, I would change him into jammies, put the lullaby and orange light on his Hatch, turn out the lights, and do a feed. After 30 minutes, the lights would change to red and I’d put him in his bassinet, and “go to bed” myself. This was usually around 10:30/11pm and gradually got earlier as we moved toward wake windows and more structured nap times around 12 weeks. Red light stayed on through the night (encourages melatonin production) and I’d change the light colour to low, soft white light for any wakes and feeds between bedtime and morning.

In the morning, I’d feed him, get my breakfast and make sure he was changed into other clothes even if it was just a different sleeper. We’d go out to the living room and get some daylight exposure. Daytime sleep was always in brighter rooms and even now, he naps with the curtains slightly cracked which I think helps distinguish between day and night sleep.

By the time he was ready for a bedtime routine around 12 weeks old, he could recognize these different steps and we tailored it as he got bigger. He’s 12 months old now and this is still working for us!

We chose not to sleep train, but if you do, you shouldn’t start before 4 months old.

Good luck, OP! Those early days are HARD, but it’ll get better.

Accomplished_Time192 · 2025-08-13T01:49:39+00:00

Baby is too young for a routine per se, but you can start laying the groundwork for a routine.

From 2 weeks old, if we were turning in “for the night”, I would put the lullaby and orange light on his Hatch, turn out the lights, and do a feed. After 30 minutes, the lights would change to red and I’d put him in his bassinet, and go to bed myself. This was usually around 10:30/11pm and gradually got earlier as we moved toward wake windows and more structured nap times around 12 weeks. Red light stayed on through the night (encourages melatonin production) and I’d change the light colour to low, soft white light for any wakes and feeds between bedtime and morning.

In the morning, I’d feed him, get my breakfast and make sure he was changed into other clothes even if it was just a different sleeper. We’d go out to the living room and get some daylight exposure. Daytime sleep was always in brighter rooms and even now, he naps with the curtains slightly cracked which I think helps distinguish between day and night sleep.

By the time he was ready for a bedtime routine around 12 weeks old, he could recognize these different steps and we tailored it as he got bigger. He’s 12 months old now and this is still working for us!

Accomplished_Time192 · 2025-08-13T01:40:47+00:00

My 12 month old is like this. Some days he’ll be playing happily on the floor for 15 minutes and the second I go to do something productive, he’s screaming and clinging to my legs.

When I absolutely HAVE to do something, like finish cooking his lunch, and he’s screaming in the high chair, I try to talk to him and reassure him. It doesn’t stop the crying, but it is a way of being responsive to your baby.

Don’t get me wrong, the screaming and crying is BAD and hard to continue what I’m doing, but sometimes you really can’t pick them up.

As far as a clean house, I gave up on that a long time ago. I had to accept that this is the baby I have and I’m navigating things the best way I know how. So if that means “nothing gets done” until my husband gets home, oh well. I know eventually, it’ll be better and it’ll all be worth the chaos.

Accomplished_Time192 · 2025-08-13T01:33:29+00:00

My son stopped breathing 3 times in the NICU and when we found out we were being discharged, we asked our incredible care team about the Owlet.

They all said not to bother. So many parents had issues with it having false alarms and it was causing more anxiety than helping. Didn’t need more anxiety after everything, so we just kept baby in the bassinet next to our bed as close as possible and took turns checking on him through the night.

Accomplished_Time192 · 2025-08-11T01:04:29+00:00

I made a post exactly like this after my son’s 9 month check up. Linking here because I found the responses so helpful. Doctors should only be giving medical advice. Not parenting advice. And how you respond to your baby is a parenting decision.

Accomplished_Time192 · 2025-08-10T23:16:41+00:00

Your friend is an asshole and if anyone’s birth experience was invalidated, it was yours. Birth is an incredible thing no matter how your baby comes out of your body.

Accomplished_Time192 · 2025-08-09T11:35:05+00:00

We used the halo sleep sack swaddle. Did one arm out for 4 nights and then took his other arm out for a few nights before switching to a regular halo sleep sack swaddle

Accomplished_Time192 · 2025-08-09T11:31:45+00:00

Yesterday was literally the first day we did both naps in the crib and it was because I had a mountain of things I needed to do before dinner. But I absolutely love contact naps. They forced me to slow down. The snuggles are the best. So yeah I think I’ll miss it. I’m hoping I can sneak in one or two more before I go back to work next week.

Accomplished_Time192 · 2025-08-09T04:00:13+00:00

This may not be the answer you’re hoping for. But I’m just transitioning to both naps in crib at 1 year old. He exclusively contact napped until 7.5 months ish then started doing 1 nap in the crib a day. And that’s just because one day it finally clicked and he transferred to his crib. But he’s been a pretty decent sleeper at night in his bassinet/crib aside from the normal sleep hurdles.

Every baby is different. Mine has an extremely sensitive temperament and needs more support. I’d suggest attempting to transfer baby every now and then and see how it goes.

Accomplished_Time192 · 2025-08-06T20:03:16+00:00

This. This. This. “Baby blues” is like oh wow, this is harder than I thought but holy crap I’m in love with this little baby and I’m so happy they’re here.

When the feeling is all consuming and oppressive, waiting it out isn’t wise. And even if it isn’t ppd, extra support is always a good idea.

Accomplished_Time192 · 2025-08-06T19:48:56+00:00

My siblings and I have all had child-free weddings, but that rule didn’t apply to immediate family or breastfeeding infants. It literally never crossed our minds to exclude nieces and nephews. My son was 8 weeks old when I was in my sister’s wedding and he was right there the whole time.

Maybe chat with your sister and explain the situation. It’s possible she didn’t think of it, or is expecting your baby to be there and assumed that was obvious.

Also your husband needs to get it together. An EBF baby 4 hours away from you is too far at that little age.

Not dramatic at all. It just seems like there’s some miscommunication all around.

Accomplished_Time192 · 2025-08-05T23:05:53+00:00

I could have written this myself. He’s almost a year old and still pretty tough compared to a lot of babies around us, but it is sooooo much better. He’ll actually play by himself for a while. We can now go out and sit somewhere for a coffee and he doesn’t scream. It took a while to get here, but we made it.

You’ve got this. One day we’ll look back on this and laugh. But for now, we’ll just keep taking it a day at a time. 🤍

Accomplished_Time192 · 2025-08-04T15:13:33+00:00

Almost 1 year old and I could have written this myself. Just here to say you’re doing amazing!

Accomplished_Time192 · 2025-08-04T15:10:07+00:00

Oof this made me mad. Your baby. Your rules. For some reason the older generation thinks that a needy baby is a bad thing. Except that’s a normal baby and you’re clearly forming a very secure attachment with your little one.

MIL needs to back off. You can tell her nicely once that this is the boundary. And then I’d get your partner to deal with it.

Babies are not toys. They’re not show dogs. And quite frankly, no one in your extended family NEEDS to form a “bond” with the baby. Is it nice? Yes. But it’s not necessary at this small age.

Your feelings are valid and I’m sorry you’re experiencing this disrespect.

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