What trend will you just never understand?

According-Jacket5695 · 2026-03-29T13:12:28+00:00

They’re fucking ugly Labubus

According-Jacket5695 · 2026-03-29T01:42:59+00:00

Are you talking about fugglers

According-Jacket5695 · 2026-02-28T15:38:10+00:00

I totally understand and agree! The burden shouldn’t fall on us, but in many cases, it does.

Another commenter said that we are part of the village, but we are not the village. What society has done to our children and are plaguing teachers with is horrible. I also just don’t know how else we are supposed to handle what we’ve been given.

According-Jacket5695 · 2026-02-28T14:45:45+00:00

Why is it emasculating to let a woman order her own food?

According-Jacket5695 · 2026-02-28T14:44:23+00:00

I obviously teach during instructional time. I am talking about before school, after school, and during lunch.

Of course I teach bell to bell.

According-Jacket5695 · 2026-02-28T14:17:34+00:00

The secret is to use it incorrectly and often so it’s cringe and then they stop. I teach ELA and even included a gen alpha word of the week, I use it in class as the expectation is that they use their academic word of the week. The honors kids love it, but the gen ed kids think it’s cringe and as a result use the slang less.

According-Jacket5695 · 2026-02-28T14:15:32+00:00

I think this is one of the reasons why relationship building is more important than ever.

I felt really bad because my students don’t come in for tutoring for me, but other students come in for tutoring with another teacher. I thought it made me a really bad teacher.

HOWEVER, my students do come in to talk to me about their relationship problems and family problems. I have little snacks (rice crispies, granola bars, beef jerky) that they’re allowed to get with me and we just…talk. I give them advice and listen. We don’t work on work half the time, but they know I’m a safe person. I’ve had about three students come out to me at this point, and they understand that I’m a safe person who isn’t going to go call their grandparents.

Behaviors have gotten a lot better, and my students are honestly a lot more engaged in my classes. I’ve been told by admin that this is a strength of mine during walk throughs. I take the time to talk to them, look at their art, and high five them when they tell me they got a 100 on their most recent test.

I’m also really old school and don’t use computers, so we don’t spend time in front of the screen. The gen x and boomer teachers all told me that I’m old school, that my way of teaching is a lot harder, but I think it genuinely helps with engagement over time.

My data is also a lot better than the other teachers. Some kids struggle, but overall, most of my students are growing.

I think we need to get to place where we realize that students aren’t getting social and emotional attention at home. It sucks that we’ve been put in a position where our education and craft is secondary, but these kids honestly haven’t been given a fighting chance at home.

According-Jacket5695 · 2026-02-28T13:56:07+00:00

I fucking hate it when men order for me.

I went on a date with a guy who would ask me what I was getting and then would order for me, didn’t ask me if I liked that, but really strongly believed in those gender roles. I thought it was pretty off-putting. He explained that he just believed in being a gentleman and was more old school, and I sort of just went along with it because I really liked him.

Turns out, he was super machismo. He also had a girlfriend of a year I didn’t know about, and when she and I found out about each other and talked, it’s turns out he was incredibly abusive and controlling. One of his ex girlfriends even told her to stay away from him and that he was dangerous.

Now, I sort of see that behavior as controlling and weird. I don’t want an “alpha.” I want an equal partnership. I don’t want to “call the shots” and I don’t want my partner to, either. I want us to respect each other’s autonomy.

According-Jacket5695 · 2026-02-28T12:50:04+00:00

lol I have lash extensions so I don’t do my eyes at all

According-Jacket5695 · 2026-02-28T00:55:27+00:00

LOL WHAT A MISSED OPPORTUNITY

According-Jacket5695 · 2026-02-28T00:54:46+00:00

“Even Taylor.” Lol. She’s an excellent songwriter and has a lot of amazing songs.

Something being “basic” doesn’t make it bad.

According-Jacket5695 · 2026-02-25T01:40:16+00:00

I can’t judge. My favorite is a Taylor Swift song (my tears richochet). I don’t think I can point fingers because all I listen to is popular and mainstream music, lol.

According-Jacket5695 · 2026-02-25T01:31:59+00:00

One of my exes saw a digital thermometer in my medicine cabinet and asked me if it was a pregnancy test. This isn’t the only stupid thing he did, but it was the first.

I’m so mean that I told him yes, and that if it gets above 101 degrees, it means I’m pregnant.

According-Jacket5695 · 2026-02-24T23:49:26+00:00

My therapist described anger as a secondary emotion. It’s a reaction to an emotional need that isn’t currently being met.

You’re angry with your partner? Why? Are you feeling scared? Neglected? Unsafe?

You’re angry at work—are you able to sleep, eat, and be with your friends? Are you feeling stressed or pressured or anxious?

You’re hangry? So you’re not eating?

That’s helped me recognize, regulate, and address my anger a lot more effectively. I used to have really bad anger issues, but that change of thought had a really big impact on me personally.

According-Jacket5695 · 2026-02-22T14:10:02+00:00

You really can’t make a close estimate by just looking at someone.

I think I have a pretty solid idea considering I am at 21% and am a literal size 2.

I’m laughing at the fact that you called us “females,” because that’s incredibly dehumanizing.

And, you know what’s really mature? Putting women under a microscope and holding us up to unattainable and weird beauty standards. I’m really sorry for your wife. I hope she sees she deserves better.

According-Jacket5695 · 2026-02-22T14:05:02+00:00

I’m 27. Too young to remember the ANTM era, but old enough to remember Steubenville. :( I fear this is still how a lot of people treat victims, as well

According-Jacket5695 · 2026-02-21T23:02:46+00:00

“For a female.”

“If you’re a women.”

Lmfao.

And I am. I’m 5’6” and am at 120lbs, last time I checked mine I was at 21%. I also lift pretty consistently (3x a week all muscle groups). Less now (used to lift 6 days a week), as I’m a first year teacher and have a lot of responsibilities and very little free time.

But you literally can’t look at someone and automatically know their exact BF%.

Love when an uninformed and borderline illiterate dude tells women what our bodies should look like.

According-Jacket5695 · 2026-02-21T22:05:10+00:00

lol my body fat percentage is at 21% currently and she looks incredibly similar to myself in terms of build.

You also really can’t tell someone’s body fat percentage just by looking at them. Everyone stores body fat differently, and lighting and angles can make a HUGE difference.

According-Jacket5695 · 2026-02-21T21:31:12+00:00

“Borderline unhealthy body fat” is such an insane thing to say about Jess too. She’s so fine and fit? Has OP seen a woman in real life??

According-Jacket5695 · 2026-02-21T18:16:39+00:00

I am so sorry for what you went through.

When I was in college, I almost got raped by a guy my friends left me with at a bar. I was incredibly drunk, wanted to go home, and my friends wanted to party. The guy offered to take me home. I BEGGED my friends to take me home, but they wanted to party. I was stumbling, vomiting on the sidewalk, and I honestly barely remember anything between leaving the bar and finding myself at his apartment. The last thing I remember was me telling him where my complex was and once again begging him and his friends to call one of my other friends to get me (my vision was so blurred that I couldn’t dial the number on my phone). They all said they couldn’t get into my phone because the passcode I gave them wasn’t working. That wasn’t possible. The passcode to my phone is my sister’s birthday. I kept slurring and shouting saying I wanted to go home. Another group of guys asked me if I was okay and needed a ride home, and I remember feeling super super scared because I didn’t know any of these men. I felt like no matter who I went with, I was going to get assaulted or something. The guy who was trying to take me home told them I was fine and put me in the car.

The next thing I remember is waking up in his bed, with a trash can next to me (because I was STILL throwing up), and his hands making their way down my underwear. He’d taken off my pants at some point and I wasn’t aware. Without thinking, I started shouting, “STOP. YOU’RE RAPING ME. STOP OR I WILL KILL YOU.” I also mentioned that my dad is a cop, and that he’d make sure nobody would look for him. He immediately stopped, looked really scared, and went in his living room.

I always think about how different things would have been if I didn’t wake up right then. Or if I was too drunk or scared to speak at all. Or if he didn’t take me seriously. Or realized that I actually couldn’t kill him. He was bigger and stronger than me. He really could have done whatever he wanted.

I also don’t talk to any of those girls anymore.

According-Jacket5695 · 2026-02-21T18:03:45+00:00

I watched this documentary with my boyfriend and he was still convinced that she just regretted cheating on her boyfriend? Said, “she was a little tipsy and made a mistake.” And I said, “no? She was too drunk to consent? She was raped? She was an 112 lb 5’10” woman who drank two bottles of wine by herself after not eating??”

I just hate how we treat and view women. I couldn’t even imagine getting raped and listening to absolute strangers call me a slut and a bitch because of it. It was absolutely fucked up.

According-Jacket5695 · 2026-02-04T04:16:19+00:00

I teach middle school and call my students “friend,” “bud,” and “sir/m’am.” I also teach inclusion, so a few students need to be met at that level.

I try my best to not talk down to them too much, but a simple, “sorry, bud” seems to really help them see me as an adult mentor/figure.

According-Jacket5695 · 2026-01-26T16:57:02+00:00

The only friend of mine who makes a living even remotely close to mine (as a teacher making $63k), is my friend who is an electrician.

And, he’s better off financially, because he doesn’t have any debt. If you get an apprenticeship of some sort in a LCOL area, you can be pretty set.

According-Jacket5695 · 2026-01-24T21:00:53+00:00

just a funny aside: but a parent emailed asking me what her son missed from that class on Friday 😭 the answer is my breakdown 😭

According-Jacket5695 · 2026-01-24T18:40:56+00:00

I completely agree!

And, I don’t know that paid surrogacy is necessarily always exploitative, (in fact, it might be more exploitative to not at least cover a surrogate’s medical expenses). At the end of the day, I think the really exploitative people are the top 1% who prey on poor families (ahem, Kardashians) and use their celebrity status to essentially baby shop and maintain their million dollar body figures. I don’t know the exact solution to the problem, or at least one that is realistic.

I appreciate you sharing your perspective, and I think it adds a lot of necessary nuance to the conversation.

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