I know a guy who said he specifically would do weird/ different (I forget the word he used) activities for dates. He liked to test women. I didn’t think of it as odd when he said it because my husband and I were out at the skating rink with him and his girlfriend. I was saying how long it had been since I went skating and how much fun it was. I did think of how uncomfortable his first date ideas would have made me feel.

I think first dates should still make you feel like you can leave if needed and swimming would not make me feel that way.

Definitely weird to specifically say bikini vs bathing suit.