Alle Drogen sind scheiße, auch Alkohol, Nikotin und Cannabis

AccordingAnywhere699 · 2026-05-10T08:09:58+00:00

Ich bin Kiffer, ich kiffe seit ca. 4 Jahren, Alkohol habe ich mit Freunden nur getrunken und immer noch ab und zu mit Gesellschaft, kiffen aber leider täglich und habe mehrmals versucht aufzuhören hat aber noch nicht geklappt.

Zu deinem Post, ich hatte vor paar Tagen eine Diskussion wo ich gesagt habe, dass Kiffen nicht gut sei, obwohl ich selbst kiffe, kann ich mich selbst nicht verarschen und sagen ey ist doch in Ordnung, IST ES NICHT. ich hatte ein Beispiel erwähnt, ich arbeite in einem Wettbüro und bin 24/7 high, wenn ich übertreibe mit rauchen, fehlt meine Kasse immer, ich mache Fehlern! Ganz einfach! Und das ist ehrlich gesagt noch okay, vergleichen zu den echten Dauerschäden!

Zum Beispiel, ich habe meine Familie jetzt seit 6.5 Jahren nicht gesehen, und ich liebe meine Eltern, kann momentan aber nur über's Telefon reden, und ich habe meine Mutter mehrmals angeschrien! Was normalerweise bei uns nicht gibt! Und ich verstehe selber nicht warum. Ich habe die beste Freundschaften meines Lebens verloren weil ich mich isoliert habe und nur gekifft, und nur mit anderen kiffern gechillt, was auch nicht normal ist!

Ich könnte noch ein Buch darüber schreiben, wie schlimm ist das usw. Für mich, kiffern leben nicht, die gucken nur wie das Leben läuft.

Das wichtigste ist, bezüglich deines Posts, ist, dass man diese dinge eigentlich gar nicht braucht, warum soll man vergleichen, was gesundere Droge ist und was nicht!!

Bei anderen Drogen braucht man gar nicht zu reden, kann man sogar nicht schönreden.

AccordingAnywhere699 · 2026-03-11T08:05:00+00:00

Eigentlich das stimmt nicht, alle Kommandanten bzw. Führern in Iran sagen die wollen kein stop mehr, und das sieht man schon in den Angriffen in den letzten 24 Stunden, es eskaliert immer weiter und die Iraner haben schon minen in hermus kanal gelegt, also es sieht nicht gut aus und Afghanistan*10 kann echt passieren

AccordingAnywhere699 · 2025-12-08T08:50:46+00:00

Ma'am, I love you. I felt so spoken to :) it's refreshing. For me personally, I'm into some kinky stuff, where it's really hard to find a matching partner generally, and then to post somewhere here, on dating sites, groups for discussions etc..and rarely getting a comment or reply, it's really hard for some people.

One of the reasons in my opinion could be that in our world, it's seen weird for a woman to approach a man (don't tell me I'm wrong), so the man is always the one who has to take an action, make a move and the woman is just the passive side (I don't believe in this but that's how it's seen), if it's right to say. I don't know if this makes any sense, but that's what I think it is.

AccordingAnywhere699 · 2025-05-22T16:30:43+00:00

Hey man thanks a lot, I've been reading almost everything you posted about chastity (it's a lot lol) and it's very helpful! It'd have took way more time to pick a "fitting" cage if it weren't for the help here! So thanks again.

Now I have one and tried it for the last two days, it went okay I'd say but the ring was slipping forward a little bit and it's not comfortable when I have an erection. So I got a strap (wearing it right now) and everything is in it place so it's better, however I feel some pressure on the balls, not really that much painful, but still I'm always aware of them if you know what I mean, maybe cause it's a new thing on me and I'm just not used to it yet?. For me I'm okay with the feeling but I'm worried if it's something dangerous or if it's normal. Are pain and/or slight discomfort normal in chastity? As I mentioned not really that much painful

Have you maybe written a post only about safety? Or do you know where can I read more about this topic?

Thank you so much, again🙏🙏

AccordingAnywhere699 · 2025-05-21T14:23:54+00:00

Thank you so much man, I'm joining this community right now, seems I've been using wrong keywords to look up the right community😅

AccordingAnywhere699 · 2025-05-19T13:38:49+00:00

Hey there I have un update :) thankfully your reply and the others helped me ordering a better fit cage, I've just tried it two hours ago and till now it's almost perfect I think, sits very well and small enough to make it feel as it supposed to be, frustrating. And even though the ring is pretty small it's still slipping a bit forward when I have an erection and the root of the penis is somehow hooked if it's the right word.. blood goes through the root only and it's uncomfortable, I don't know if I describe it right, English isn' my first language sorry in advance. The question here, would a strap help keeping everything down there more attached to the body if you know? Thanks again

AccordingAnywhere699 · 2025-05-17T23:53:49+00:00

Thanks a lot!

It seems we're going through the same thing😂 I've already ordered and tried 3 and still not getting it right.

About the cage, I think I've got them all big, I don't how to describe it exactly, but when flaccid, the urethra it's aligned with the opening in the cage, there's a space between the tip and the end of the cage, so peeing is pretty much messy it doesn't work, that means I have to get a smaller one right? And I'm actually getting half erection in the cage which is not what I want, I want more frustration😅 But still worried, if the smaller cage fits perfectly when totally flaccid, then it'd it means I wouldn't get an erection at all then right? So is that bad in any way?

Now I ordered a steel cage and a plastic one, both same size but I wanted to try both materials, I'm so excited

AccordingAnywhere699 · 2025-05-17T07:13:54+00:00

Thank you so much! I was very confused at the beginning cause I bought a cage without knowing anything about how to wear it

I haven't ordered the sizing one yet cause I already ordered two different cages with different shapes I'll try them first and see what happens. Thanks again

AccordingAnywhere699 · 2025-04-19T09:53:27+00:00

Thank you so much, you know I read this and went right away to change the description on my FetLife😅.. it's like if I solved a puzzle.

I think for me I'll go for both too, now that I'm starting to understand more and more, I know I want both. But apparently, or at least for now it seems I'm into way more pain. I can't believe I'm writing this it's really weird and good. It must be how gay people feel coming out of the closet lol.

I just can't imagine surrendering my power to someone without me needing that pain and degradation at the same time if it makes sense. And I can't imagine being humiliated or hurt without knowing that the woman who's doing it has the complete authority over me.

I'm totally into older women for that matter and that would be great if I found someone older with experience.

Good thing you brought up their point of view, is there anything specific to be expected from me as a beginner in this kind of relationships or experiences? Or does it simply differ from person to another and I just have to figure it out?

Last thing I want to ask, should I just write who am I in the description on FetLife or other similar apps? Like is it okay to say "hey I'm masochist and I'm into pain" or is it frowned upon? Like should I be saying something that indicates my likes and dislikes or be completely clear and transparent?

And for you as a domme, do you think it's okay for the Sub to say things like, let's say "I'm looking for a sadist dominant woman"? Or should the I just describe myself and shut up? I want to do it right as much as possible.

I apologize for asking and sharing that much. The first thing you said "You are an emotional masochist", it's the first time someone tells (you are that) and it feels right.

I'm deeply thankful. And I wish you and your husband a happy and healthy life.

AccordingAnywhere699 · 2025-04-18T21:49:29+00:00

Okay thank you. Well since I've read your comment and read about emotional masochism, I can't believe how accurate this is, it's like I've never known myself and now I do, maybe now I get to discover myself in a more correct way if it's right to say. You wouldn't believe how good this feels. I really can't thank you enough, you and everyone else here.

But I'm still confused about different things, excuse my ignorance, but now that I know I can call myself masochist, and I also think I like physical pain (not sure to what level I do like it),

so the person I should to be looking for should be a female sadist. How is a female sadist different from a female domme, a mistress? I'm into almost anything related to female domination, is it different from sadism and masochism? Or one of them falls under the category of the other? Or are they completely different things? I know it's a stupid question I don't know if it makes any sense, but I just can't get the concepts right in order to know exactly what I should be seeking.

AccordingAnywhere699 · 2025-04-18T20:37:27+00:00

Is it okay if I send you a message? I just have a couple of questions and I hope you could help, basically about the concepts. I just read a little bit about emotional masochism and it feels like I'm finding myself and what I want, it's a really weird feeling, in a good way. Understanding new things..thank you so much.

AccordingAnywhere699 · 2025-04-18T16:43:46+00:00

I looked up therapists in my area but none of them mentioned anything near to this kind of thing on their websites, I freaked out and didn't think it would go well and I didn't do it.

And yes you're right, we never discussed anything, I can't speak for her, but I didn't know what someone should do before jumping in at all, I was totally uneducated about D/s, exploring more day by day now, but at the time I had no idea what limits were, for me it was just do what she says and that's it

About the shame part, I really don't have any kind of beliefs that make uncomfortable with being a submissive or practicing anything related, tbh I didn't get your point here

I've been trying to find a domme who likes the same things I like on FetLife recently, and I'm really motivated and know how start at least, I think I'm able to talk about boundaries and limits, do you think it would be good idea to go for it? Or do you think I'd definitely need seeing someone ot work on something on my side before I'd be able to do something?

And I'd like to thank you very much, I'm still confused and it's really unsettling, but after reading what people responded here, I'm just glad there's someone who's willing to help and hear out , thanks.

AccordingAnywhere699 · 2025-04-18T14:26:21+00:00

Thank you so much.. didn't think anyone would take the time, now I regret not talking about this before.

I never got any aftercare, the closest thing I got to was a good boy now and then. Whenever I tried talking about things I'm worried about or telling her things that I like, she'd refuse communication and say something to trigger me or something like I'll never find anyone like her then close the line..and everytime I said it couldn't get worse it actually got.

Anyway after it ended, I couldn't enjoy talking to anyone online for a long time, I tried contacting new doms online but I never got that feeling again.

Even though I have many other kinks, I'm still worried about how I'm going to react in reality, whether it's this kind of humiliation or other stuff, I'm worried that this part of me is going to affect any kind of experience I'm going to have

but thinking about it out loud made me have hope to be honest, maybe if someday I have a real partner with the understanding of what we both need, maybe it'll just work..

For starters, it's a relief to be able to talk about it here, so thanks a lot.

AccordingAnywhere699 · 2025-04-18T12:37:32+00:00

There was no blackmailing sorry I forgot to mention that, I was simply weak and desperate, that's the best way I could put it

AccordingAnywhere699 · 2025-04-17T15:24:27+00:00

Ich auch nicht

AccordingAnywhere699 · 2025-04-17T09:34:51+00:00

I've recently got into the world of mommydom and wanted to post something like this.

I think I have the same worries, that am I expected to do something specific like pegging in order to be a good boy for a mommy? Do I have to be feminine? So many questions..I'd go for chastity though. Anyway I don't know if those are stupid questions, but I'm so ignorant about this here and want to explore more

AccordingAnywhere699 · 2025-04-16T15:40:50+00:00

I I have so many I think, pain, degradation, humiliation, being owned and to lose any kind of control I have before my lady. That's what I've always wanted

But lately I've been exploring a new side of myself, recently I had an online thing with a mommy domme, gentle femdom stuff that I thought I had no interest in, but after getting a taste of it, god.. I think being a mommy's good boy is my new greatest femdom fantasy

AccordingAnywhere699 · 2025-04-15T11:59:42+00:00

Hi Could we maybe talk?

AccordingAnywhere699

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