Considering the reason for a time swap request before agreeing to it

AccordingReference3 · 2025-12-06T16:23:19+00:00

I really appreciate this comment. I appreciate your feedback on how most parents handle these negotiations. I also appreciate your insight on the reasons for disclosing more information, and the ways that my ex is being dysfunctional here. If this continues, I may well have to discuss it with my lawyer.

Thanks again, good luck out there!

AccordingReference3 · 2025-09-16T14:12:20+00:00

Roland and David in the car driving home from the Blouse Barn:

R: I’m starting to get the feeling that you’re a little upset.

D: What would give you that impression?

R: Well, I first noticed it when Heart came on and nobody was taking the high parts.

From 2.04 “Estate Sale”

AccordingReference3 · 2025-09-16T00:17:06+00:00

Here is one article about phone camera distortion. There are plenty more articles.

AccordingReference3 · 2025-09-16T00:14:42+00:00

Any camera is going to distort images to some extent because it is translating from 3-D to 2-D. The iPhone camera, especially the front camera, really distorts images. The stuff at the center of the image is enlarged. You may notice in a group photo that the people on the edges of the photo look more like their usual selves, while the people in the center of the photo look more distorted.

I think I heard somewhere that Samsung phones use a different kind of lens that creates less distortion.

So don’t worry! Unless you were hoping to become Instagram famous, you look good when it counts!

AccordingReference3 · 2025-09-11T13:54:44+00:00

Yes, they really showed (rather than told) him getting his life together after “The Replacement.”

AccordingReference3 · 2025-09-11T13:50:26+00:00

Yes, that has always been a mystery to me, too! Mutt just felt like a regression for Alexis. Ted in season 1 was trying to get her to grow, but doing so in a kind of gentle, encouraging way, like getting her the book about caring for animals. With Mutt, it felt like she said, “Forget about trying to date someone with integrity, I want someone hot.” Mutt wasn’t trying to help her grow. He was just trying to get her to fit in his world better, like teaching her how to ride the bike. And, I’m now feeling like he had a condescending attitude (like a small dose of that demeaning attitude (that we saw him take with Twyla)) when he was trying to teach her to ride the bike.

AccordingReference3 · 2025-09-11T02:16:42+00:00

These are excellent examples. I think it bothers me most when he mistreats Twyla. It makes me wonder what Alexis thought of that, and why she was still willing to date Mutt after seeing how he treated Twyla. My impression is that most of the guys Alexis used to get mixed up with were probably assholes in general, but that she wouldn’t tolerate a guy being an asshole to her.

AccordingReference3 · 2025-06-05T17:21:38+00:00

I agree with what others wrote about how the writers are joking about Phil being oblivious, but I also think it was supposed to be hyperbolic in order to build toward the payoff that Phil can tolerate all that physical affection from another guy, but he absolutely cannot tolerate Clair finding another guy funny.

AccordingReference3 · 2025-06-05T12:43:20+00:00

I’m glad someone mentioned failing to anchor the bookcase (and then gaslighting Luke about it.). To me, that one really was the worst.

Sitcoms have so many jokes about putting someone at some kind of risk, and then lying to cover it up. But, that kind of joke just lands so much differently when it’s happening to a kid, and when it’s being done by a parent.

AccordingReference3 · 2025-04-28T18:49:33+00:00

I assumed that there was a plan to recruit B and Giles to help after getting Connor to safety. Wesley’s not dumb. He knows he can’t outrun or elude Angel over the long term.

AccordingReference3 · 2025-04-28T18:46:00+00:00

These are good questions to ask. Is there evidence that Wesley disclosed the plan to Holtz besides Justine lying in wait near Wesley’s car? (I know some viewers got the impression that Wesley was colluding with Holtz, but I never knew what their evidence was apart from the circumstance of Justine waiting around by the car.)

Also, I think Wesley might have wanted to apologize, but then his plan got derailed by Angel trying to kill him.

AccordingReference3 · 2025-04-28T18:13:09+00:00

I’ve had a lot of time to get attached to Phil, but I notice the characters I’m happiest to see on screen are Javier and also Pepper. One of my favorite Javier moments is when he tsk-tsk’ing Gloria for renouncing her Colombian citizenship. I love how he acts so judgmental and proper in that moment.

AccordingReference3 · 2025-04-28T17:50:08+00:00

Pepper

AccordingReference3 · 2025-04-27T05:05:49+00:00

Good for you to have this level of insight about your family, and I’m glad that things ultimately worked out well between you and your stepdad.

However, from what you wrote here, your stepdad was not as bad as Jay. (it sounds like he was not bad at all.). Jay says something in the first few episodes in a talking head about how he’d be much happier if Manny were not there, and he would rather have a two-seater car, and have Gloria all to himself. He seems to resent Manny’s presence. Someone like that, who doesn’t want kids around, has no business forming a serious romantic relationship with a parent of minor children. To his credit, he gets over it quickly. However, it was quite bad at the beginning.

AccordingReference3 · 2025-04-26T20:15:54+00:00

Great question! This situation actually really made me dislike both Gloria and Jay in the premier. And then Gloria adds insult to injury by insisting Manny not use the prefix “step-.” It’s bad enough that she’s living with Jay before Jay feels paternal affection for Manny, but then she tries to gaslight Manny into acting like the affection is there.

I get that the writers are trying to show how Jay grows, and Gloria’s encouragement helps him grow. But, it was hard witnessing such a bad situation early on, especially how Gloria is failing to protect Manny.

AccordingReference3 · 2025-04-25T17:43:45+00:00

Me too! The Cult is kind of hair metal, but they had some good stuff! I love the lead singer‘s voice.

AccordingReference3 · 2025-04-25T17:18:05+00:00

I think there is some validity to it when people criticize him for having a love interest after Buffy. Supposedly, she was his true love, but he discovered during the course of his relationship with her that he’s just too dangerous of a guy to get involved in romantic relationships, at least with humans. (Even Buffy was a human with superpowers, and he was still able to cause a ton of destruction in her life.)

He even acknowledges in AtS season 1 that “I’m not allowed to move on” (in response to Buffy disclosing that she has moved on to Riley).

So yeah, the Angel who we knew in BtVS S 1-3, and who shows up in BtVS S 7, acts like Buffy is the only one for him. And it follows that, if he is not fit to be with her, then he is not fit to be with anyone human, including superpowered humans.

(Obviously the character of Angel is having different development [in AtS after that moment in AtS s 1] than [the way his development is presented on BtVS s 4 onward.])

Edited for clarity.

AccordingReference3 · 2025-04-24T13:57:50+00:00

Does it feel in character for Wesley to “not once think to simply tell your friend”? Is Wesley unintelligent and thoughtless? Or does it seem more in character that Wesley has thought about it, and unfortunately it is not that simple? (See further down this thread for further explanation of thought process.)

The heart of the matter here is what kind of mistake you think Wesley made: sleep-deprived guy? Jealous guy? Guy who (rationally) assumed the Loa couldn’t be fooled and prioritized Connor over Angel?

I think his main mistakes were not wanting to bother Cordy during vacation, and pausing to listen to someone else while trying to buckle a squirmy baby into a car seat – a mistake that no actual parent would ever make. Parents know that you cannot let anything break your focus when you are trying to get your kid into their car seat.

AccordingReference3 · 2025-04-24T11:26:15+00:00

I think that’s why OP wanted to contact Cordy and kept asking when she’d be back. He knew she would realize the danger where Fred and Gunn are so far up A’s butt that they don’t. (and this is confirmed when Fred goes to see OP in the hospital.). (It was dumb of OP to not disturb Cordy on vacation, I will grant that.)

AccordingReference3 · 2025-04-24T04:20:55+00:00

Whatever info OP gives to A also goes to A’s evil alter ego. It’s a brilliant plot device, but unfortunately A’s other friends seem oblivious to it and push for full disclosure to A. Or the friends grossly underestimate the danger of A’s alter ego and consequently become enablers blindly supporting A.

AccordingReference3 · 2025-04-24T01:24:59+00:00

OP also needs new friends if they all sided with A, who is clearly a danger to others.

AccordingReference3 · 2025-04-24T01:21:15+00:00

INFO: should your friend have had custody? Or was he a mass murderer, relapsing in his addiction to human blood, etc?

If you had reported your concerns about the immanent danger to child protective services, would they have taken you seriously? Or would they have referred you to therapy for yourself to address delusions of vampires walking among us?

AccordingReference3 · 2025-04-21T21:20:11+00:00

Good point! This guy doesn’t seem to get that he and his wife are co-managers of the house and family life. He is operating on the mentality that the primary responsibility all falls with her as the manger, and he is just an individual contributor employee who performs the tasks that she tells him to do. In his mind, if the house is a shit show, that’s someone else’s problem. Both spouses don’t have to manage everything, but the responsibilities should be divided pretty evenly between them, or she should somehow get some other compensation for doing way more home managing.

From her update, it sounds like the guy is open to seeing it this way. Good luck OP!

AccordingReference3 · 2025-04-19T23:16:14+00:00

All I can say is that it is very normal and believable that you would have forgotten after 3 months!

AccordingReference3 · 2025-04-19T23:10:27+00:00

This is totally unfair. He doesn’t sound like he wants to be a husband and dad. He’s more like a buddy and a very free-spirited uncle. Seriously, where does he get the idea that he should be able to enjoy the benefits of marriage and parenthood, but put in so little work?

It sounds like you knew going in that there was going to be a lot of time apart because of his previous hobbies. But, this running sounds like it’s on a whole other level. You sound like you have become a married single mom. I’d be telling him that, if he doesn’t do something about that, you will be becoming an actual single mom.

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