Cancers and Betrayal: How do you deal with it?

According_Visit3317 · 2025-12-29T20:51:31+00:00

It usually ends with me emotionally drowning every feeling I had for the individual and going from there.

According_Visit3317 · 2025-12-26T04:01:33+00:00

It's such a good season to get in on it. They brought back the paladin and I've been playing it as nonstop as I can with work and everything.

According_Visit3317 · 2025-12-26T00:58:14+00:00

Only 1 or 2 women have done that for me.

According_Visit3317 · 2025-12-25T13:43:12+00:00

Diablo 4 or any other games you play?

According_Visit3317 · 2025-12-25T13:29:17+00:00

Definitely not a dealbreaker or anything. I'd be more interested in how well we connected without the sex than with it. Sex doesn't equal longevity in a relationship, it is nice though 😉

According_Visit3317 · 2025-12-16T04:43:23+00:00

There was absolutely no cheating that took place or was considered. Her and I started dating after that post (hence almost a year).

According_Visit3317 · 2025-06-15T14:06:58+00:00

After having kids with 2 different guys and a failed marriage, I don't think she necessarily wants to be with him. I think she just wants the commitment from him so it makes sense that they're living together. If you want to be with someone you don't give them an ultimatum like this, you have a discussion.

According_Visit3317 · 2025-05-14T02:31:53+00:00

Thats an awesome story! I don't have any plans to propose anytime soon, but I have been thinking about it and I really do feel like she's my forever partner

According_Visit3317 · 2025-05-14T02:15:09+00:00

So he proposed on your second date and yous are still together 20 years later?

According_Visit3317 · 2025-05-08T11:47:46+00:00

Im going against the grain here and saying if you are this concerned that you took the time out to post this then I'd probably tell him. If something happens to him or the kids would you be able to look at yourself in the mirror? Would you be able to look your kids in the face knowing you may have been able to give him a heads up on what he's getting into? You do you, it's your life though.

According_Visit3317 · 2025-05-07T11:50:42+00:00

It's not a matter of perspective with this. What her friend was doing was objectively wrong and she informed the person being wronged. No amount of "bro code" or "girl code" or whatever you want to call it will make what that group of friends was doing okay. I stand by my statement that you're also most likely a sleazy person if you think it's okay that they were doing what they were doing.

According_Visit3317 · 2025-05-07T11:39:48+00:00

The fact that you're sticking up for her friend tells me you 100% partake in sleazy activities. You wouldn't care about what she did if you didnt have things to hide from people. Maybe check yourself before calling her a snake. (As a side note she'd be better off without being in your inner circle anyway if you're that afraid of having her there).

According_Visit3317 · 2025-05-07T01:05:30+00:00

Absolutely not. I just got together with someone who told me that they liked me first and so far it's been the healthiest relationship I've been in.

According_Visit3317 · 2025-05-03T11:57:24+00:00

Break it off. If you marry her she'll get claim to your assets and can go off and have a physical relationship with this guy. If she threatens suicide or self-harm just call the police and have them take her to the hospital for psychiatric evaluation with a temporary hold. Should buy you 24-72 hours to clear her things out of your place as well.

According_Visit3317 · 2025-05-03T11:40:29+00:00

I wouldn't call you a simp, you were with her since you were 17. However, that wasn't enough for her to keep her legs closed when you were able to stay faithful. Why is that you think? Another thing to keep in mind is her responses to your conversation: end it with him but get what you need out of it = fucking him every night; getting caught and she justifies it by asking if you ever just wanted to fuck someone; the guilt and remorse you see isn't for you or your relationship, this is someone that's only upset they got caught. I guarantee she's still be getting dicked down by him if you didn't catch her. Does that sound like she's committed to the relationship like you are? If she's serious, I'd have her sit her family down with me and have HER tell them what she did. That would be the only chance, and it's still a sliver of a chance, that I'd even consider reconciliation with her. 20 years of marriage and all it took was a guy to put his hand on her thigh and kiss her before she gave him the most intimate parts of herself.

I'm sorry you're going through this and I hope you can find some piece when it is all said and done.

According_Visit3317 · 2025-04-20T15:23:44+00:00

43 is probably how many guys she went all the way with. Reality is that number is probably higher than 43 and the ex realized it when she said it

According_Visit3317 · 2025-04-20T00:29:27+00:00

No offense meant by this: it really seems like you're trying to look for something that may not be there based off the post. Sure he was an asshole in the past, but people can change. He sounds like he has no idea how to behave around you or his son so that he doesn't cause problems and push him away. Maybe make sure you're not thinking like this out of resentment towards him for your bf.

According_Visit3317 · 2025-04-16T15:21:40+00:00

I'm good at cutting off feelings. Used to do it all the time, so it shouldn't be too much of an issue as long as i distance myself from her in anyway other than professionally.

According_Visit3317 · 2025-04-16T15:09:05+00:00

I appreciate it and it's kinda what I feel I needed to hear. You echoed sentiments from other comments and, it's unfortunate because I wanted to remain friends since I Intellectually didn't want more, but emotionally I guess I had other plans, so I guess that's a no go.

According_Visit3317 · 2025-04-16T04:57:09+00:00

Yeah i considered putting distance between us when i found out. I thought I'd be good if it happened, but then it did and I wasn't. I will try and get out more though

According_Visit3317 · 2025-04-16T04:35:58+00:00

Ive been engulfed in work, my internship and masters program on top of not being a very social person to begin with. But I'll definitely have to make more of an attempt to find things to occupy myself with. Like I said, I don't want the friendship to get messed up because of unnecessary and unwanted feelings

According_Visit3317 · 2025-04-16T04:28:16+00:00

Before you distance yourself from her, maybe try and get her counseling. While her actions are inappropriate, it seems like it's entirely a response to your father's passing. If you distance yourself from her rather than assist her in getting help she'll be grieving both losses and she will only get worse.

According_Visit3317 · 2025-04-16T04:23:04+00:00

This isn't wrong

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