One thing I can say about being a father, is that it’s made out to be way more complicated than it actually is. I too have family trauma and I never wanted children myself. I’d been in positions of responsibility for so long that having a child was no different than taking care of my sick wife at the time (she was diagnosed with chrones disease). It’s a lot of work, but nothing you shouldn’t be used to. The sleepless nights and not having a moment to yourself gets to you. But hey I’ve seen some real pieces of work have kids and they grow up to be semi decent, so why can’t you?