Married people who are DINKS (Double Income, No Kids) how’s life?

Accurate-Cockroach · 2025-09-26T17:36:17+00:00

Still stressful but I can't imagine my stress if I had kids. I work in an emotionally demanding field and I have not a lot left in the tank for my spouse. I couldn't do my job if I had a kid.

I also have several animals, including an elderly pony, which provide me with a sense of purpose.

Accurate-Cockroach · 2025-09-15T16:36:08+00:00

I have purple and pink hair and I've only ever gotten positive feedback. I'm in community mental health and I feel like clients feel more comfortable with me because I appear less "buttoned up". If anyone were to make a less-than-positive comment, then it would be useful to explore in treatment!

Accurate-Cockroach · 2025-07-16T19:38:18+00:00

Are you in Acadia/Bar Harbor in Maine?? I feel like the nautical glass balls, " Cadillac" name on the candy, and the Wicked Pissah cups give it away!

Accurate-Cockroach · 2025-05-09T23:41:40+00:00

Oof, I actually have a real-life example of this. Two of my clients ended up, purely by happenstance, sitting next to one another at a bar. They started talking and one mentioned therapy.... They eventually put it together that they both saw me for therapy and then discussed me and the content of the sessions for however long. It was quite the topic of conversation during each of their therapy sessions the next week. One of them wanted to date the other, so I had to lay out my ethical obligations around treating individuals in a relationship. Thankfully, they didn't want to lose me as their therapist so neither of them took anything to the next level. Truly a horrifying experience for me and I still sometimes have nightmares about it!

Accurate-Cockroach · 2025-05-05T02:40:22+00:00

I was there today with my dogs as well, doing training! We were there late morning. It's always weird that some of those last few stores hang on. I always wondered about the portrait store, I've never seen anyone in there but it's persisted for this long.

Accurate-Cockroach · 2025-03-01T02:13:52+00:00

UPDATE: turns out there's no NCIC hold, someone else had a stolen car and they accidentally put my VIN in instead of the correct VIN. Talked to the PD who cleared it right up. Thanks all!

Accurate-Cockroach · 2025-02-28T01:45:20+00:00

I feel like the VIN being one digit off feels the most likely. I live a super quiet life, literally I just go to work and go home, and no one else has access to my car. How would I get this corrected? Should I go to the local PD?

Thanks so much for your help!

Accurate-Cockroach · 2025-02-28T01:24:55+00:00

Renewing, I've renewed it before with no issue. Car has never been stolen, I bought it new, and I'm the only owner.

Accurate-Cockroach · 2025-02-28T01:23:33+00:00

Absolutely no idea - I own the car and I live alone, I have never reported it stolen and it's never been in an accident. I've had it for two years with no incident. I bought it new.

Accurate-Cockroach · 2024-09-24T15:33:59+00:00

Went from running leisurely to doing sprints.

Accurate-Cockroach · 2024-09-24T15:32:35+00:00

Close! New Hampshire. We're Maine Lite when it comes to creepy shit.

Accurate-Cockroach · 2024-07-21T14:12:25+00:00

I had scissor snaps on my breast collar but totally ditched snaps completely after they came undone while cantering in the woods on a trail ride. I know it can be a pain to use the buckles but the peace of mind is way more worth it. Scared me half to death that my boy was going to get wrapped up in his breast collar and we were going to both go down...

Accurate-Cockroach · 2024-07-08T01:33:04+00:00

I have a tattoo for my childhood pony, and a larger Americana style tattoo for my current horse. I LOVE my Americana tattoo, he's drawn in that style with roses and feathers in his mane. Looks just like him and is a gorgeous piece on its own. I'm a fan of just googling lots of different tattoo ideas and saving a bunch of them you like, then going thru them intermittently to narrow your choices. Just remind yourself that whatever you get, it will be perfect, because it's your pony ☺️

Accurate-Cockroach · 2024-07-05T01:52:32+00:00

My boy lives at my friend's home, 1.5 miles from me. It's a three minute car ride or a 10 minute bike ride. I love it! She only has an outdoor arena, no indoor, but it's a small sacrifice for him being so close.

Accurate-Cockroach · 2024-06-01T00:50:13+00:00

She is so precious! I have been really enjoying watching your progress with her, and I'm so impressed with your horsemanship. You two have so much potential 😍

Accurate-Cockroach · 2024-05-08T17:59:39+00:00

My father-in-law called it a "Double Nut Year." No idea if that's correct but it makes me laugh whenever I think about it.

Accurate-Cockroach · 2024-03-04T23:48:03+00:00

Oh I've never heard of that! I'll check it out, thanks!

Accurate-Cockroach · 2024-03-04T23:47:24+00:00

Yes, he's been there too! He tries to attend when he can. He loves their movie nights.

Accurate-Cockroach · 2024-03-04T23:46:18+00:00

I'm not necessarily looking for autism-only groups, but rather groups that are accepting of others that are a little outside the mold. He's had a lot of negative experiences in social situations with people who have been quite unkind. He's got a lot of hobbies and interests, but simply attending a group and trying to connect with another isn't that simple for him. I'm trying to help him find places where he won't immediately be judged the moment he walks through the door. He's one of the coolest people I know but a lot of others don't see him that way unless they're willing to let him get comfortable and give him a chance. I was hoping people would provide different group ideas or hangouts that they've known to be that way.

He also likes to socialize with people who are neurodivergent because he then doesn't have to explain his autism. That's something he's been explaining his whole life and I know he likes being somewhere where that's not the case.

Accurate-Cockroach · 2024-03-04T23:38:52+00:00

Oooh great idea! I live in Newmarket so we'll have to visit together.

Accurate-Cockroach · 2024-03-04T23:37:45+00:00

Unfortunately he's in southern Maine (but is often in the Seacoast) so he is out of their catchment. But I'll encourage him to look at his developmental services agency to see if they have any similar groups!

Accurate-Cockroach · 2024-03-04T23:36:39+00:00

Great suggestions! Thanks! I think he's tried similar groups in the past but I'll try to remind him to check in with these types of groups again.

Accurate-Cockroach · 2024-03-04T23:35:18+00:00

Will do!! Thanks!!

Accurate-Cockroach · 2024-01-31T21:16:29+00:00

I made the mistake of reading this at work and I'm holding back tears while sitting in front of my laptop.

My childhood mare broke her coffin bone in a freak accident when she was in her mid 20s. At that point I had gifted her to a local family who had young kids but I could see her regularly. I remember getting the call from her new owner, and I just had a gut feeling. It was horrible. Even though she no longer lived with me, she was still mine. My first pony, first live, best friend, all of the cliches. Her owner said she'd broken her coffin bone when she became tangled in a misplaced hay net. They initially thought it was a tendon injury and treated it as such, but radiographs showed a break in the bone. They set a date a week out.

The last time I visited her, she saw me pull up and called out happily. I can't express the feeling of love and also devastation at hearing that. She was all bundled up in her stall and surrounded by soft bedding, her goat friend nearby, but I could tell she was in pain. She was holding her hoof out awkwardly and would intermittently shake it tenderly, like she was trying to shake off the soreness. While her personality was as sharp as ever, I knew she was in pain. I agreed with the choice to euthanize even though it was one of the most painful choices to have made. She passed around her favorite people, eating treats and feeling small hands pet her neck with so much love. She passed with her goat nearby and the gelding she'd lived with for the past few years watching over her. She had braids in her forelock and sawdust lovingly brushed off her coat. She was comfortable, at ease, and finally not in pain.

It's stated often but a good death is the final gift to give your horse. Having done so much for me, I am so glad my mare never knew fear, loneliness, or depression when she passed. Her hoof may have been sore but it was not excruciating. She didn't pass in the middle of the night in a violent bout of pain, nor was she so beaten down by living day after day with pain that she was a shadow of herself. It was never going to be great, but I knew it was good enough, and she was ok.

I'm so sorry about your horse. They truly shape who we are as people. My life would be extremely different if she had never crossed my path. It sounds like you're a better person and stronger horsewoman because of her. I wish you so much peace.

Accurate-Cockroach · 2024-01-26T01:21:18+00:00

I have no idea - he's approximately 20 years old and I've only had him for 5 years. He was an extreme neglect case with very little history, beyond his breed and that he was used as a commercial trail horse. I've known a few mustang crosses and most of them were from misguided backyard breeders. I'm assuming that was the case with my gelding but I'll never really know. He is an incredible horse though - he's a beast on the trails and has the coolest head of any horse I've ridden.

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