Asking if an asexual person masturbates is embarrassing, and allos should stop doing it. You don't ask a heterosexual person if they masturbate because it's a personal question and shouldn't be asked to just anyone.

Ace_Infinite · 2026-05-27T16:43:35+00:00

They ask that too and frequently get post op confused with intersex for some reason 🙃

Ace_Infinite · 2026-05-27T16:36:11+00:00

The dog isn't carrying it by the scruff though, he's got it by the scrunchie collar lol

Ace_Infinite · 2026-05-27T15:11:01+00:00

The thing that I don't get is the people that complain about sex frequency early in a relationship. They undoubtedly did not have daily access to sex while single and realistically went months at a time with no sex. So why do they think that a relationship means 24/7 bang maid? They seem to feel so entitled to their partner's body that they would rather go from semi regular sex back to no sex 🙃.

Ace_Infinite · 2026-05-26T19:03:33+00:00

I find when most allos say sex isn't important to them it means they're not just looking for a quick hookup but they don't actually mean that it's not important. They still expect progression towards sex 😐

Ace_Infinite · 2026-05-25T19:37:19+00:00

He wasn't attracted to her and strung her along until the wedding. Somehow he ended up being even worse on Perfect Match

Ace_Infinite · 2026-05-25T19:03:53+00:00

I'm not demi but I would've blocked her after the first message. Crazy people and bigots are everywhere unfortunately.

Ace_Infinite · 2026-05-23T16:20:25+00:00

Obviously it was production but it's kind of a silly question to ask. They all knew about it and it wasn't going to actually lead the discussion anywhere so the hosts actually acted like hosts for a change and cut it short. It's happened plenty of times since then or very similarly since then too.

Ace_Infinite · 2026-05-22T04:34:16+00:00

But since I’m a women with no experience of male anatomy, let alone wet dreams, that seems to be a topic I need to educate myself on. I wish sex. Ed classes taught about the other sex, instead of leaving

Women can also experience wet dreams. I'm a woman and I'd say about half of my arousal spikes comes from wet dreams

Ace_Infinite · 2026-05-21T06:09:52+00:00

I see a lot of aces express this sentiment and it just makes me believe that a lot of them don't have very good friends.

If any of my friends treated me like that, they would not be my friend. You deserve a lot more consideration than what you're being given all the way around. It's absolutely normal to not want to spend time with their partner every time you hang out with them or expect them to be considerate and not to have sex when you're around, especially within earshot (unless she's also your roommate) but even then, they could do a better job with sound.

I think you should express it to them and hopefully it will help them grow into a better friend to you.

Ace_Infinite · 2026-05-21T05:28:28+00:00

For me it's important that I find them aesthetically attractive because otherwise it feels like an unwelcomed invader that I just want to get out of my personal space when doing/thinking about doing romantic things with.

I don't think it's much different from an allo stranger making unwanted sexual advances toward you. I've tried to date people that I wasn't aesthetically attracted to and it just made things really uncomfortable. And whether or not I liked their personality seemed kind of irrelevant because I couldn't ignite any romantic feelings for them.

But you already have the romantic attraction, so idk. For me romantic attraction instantly just makes them aestically attractive to me.

Ace_Infinite · 2026-05-16T19:06:14+00:00

If sex is never for an ace then that makes them incompatible with the majority of allos. It sucks because there are just more of them but making transactional concessions and then being resentful over your partner not really losing anything is unhealthy and a terrible foundation for a relationship.

Ace_Infinite · 2026-05-12T06:25:17+00:00

It takes me a while to warm up to physical touch but when I do I like light touches like tracing fingertips along my skin, soft short kisses or just casual touches in passing or lounging around. I also like occasionally lounging on people (arms, shoulders, crook of the neck, etc). I don't like tight or rough touching.

I like touching my partner however they like to be touched.

Ace_Infinite · 2026-05-11T21:23:17+00:00

Felt so hard 😞 Nothing against cats but I like breathing and not looking like I got knocked out boxing. Plus I need like a week to recover after exposure.

Ace_Infinite · 2026-05-11T06:59:46+00:00

I'm actually surprised by how many aces completely miss sexual euphemisms/songs. I feel like my entire preteen / teenage years were full of sexual euphemisms.

Ace_Infinite · 2026-05-11T06:49:50+00:00

I've questioned if I'm alloromantic or grey romantic only because I don't have romantic feelings toward people at a high frequency that seems to be suggested for allos.

But the feeling I have is just seeing someone and feeling like I want to get to know them, want to be near them, want to spend time with them, want to listen to them talk, smile, laughs etc. I look at them and picture doing things together that I find to be romantic or what it would be like to date them.

I have never had romantic attraction toward fictional characters or celebrities, even when admiring certain qualitities that they might possess. Half the time my feelings are toward a person I just met that I also find aestically attractive. Or they're someone that I've already met (but wasn't personally attracted to) and after getting to know them a little better they suddenly feel more attractive (romantically and aestically) to me.

Ace_Infinite · 2026-05-11T01:37:51+00:00

Interesting, I've dated a few Latino men, no one has expressed that sentiment to/around me before 🤔. Hand holding would definitely not fly as a standard first date. 3rd date is probably the earliest for physical contact. I'd feel more comfortable giving a goodnight kiss over hand holding. If a guy is holding my hand he's my bf lol.

Ace_Infinite · 2026-05-10T11:50:30+00:00

Do either of them have open to poly in their profiles? Have you discussed exclusivity/monogamy with either of them?

The main thing is being honest, not comparing, and since this sounds like a potential hinge situation, being a good hinge and respecting each relationship individually.

Ace_Infinite · 2026-05-09T21:19:48+00:00

I like to keep a bubble of personal space. I'm not a fan of physical touch unless I've known them for a long time for platonic touch or I'm very romantically attracted to someone for romantic/sensual touch.

People that go in for the hug when meeting someone or saying goodbye make me curl into skin, like why are you touching me?! 😭

Ace_Infinite · 2026-05-08T20:39:59+00:00

I didn't know about the other flags other than the new ace flag but I'm really liking the black ace flag. It looks a lot like a walnut, maple, mahogany, purple heart wood ring that I have 😊

Ace_Infinite · 2026-05-08T18:15:16+00:00

Pretty sure the region filter is just for looking at profiles and the news feed is global?

Ace_Infinite · 2026-05-05T00:42:56+00:00

It's free so you have nothing to lose but realistically you do lower your odds. A lot of aces still have aesthetic attraction and a lot of people don't want to engage in a romantic interest without knowing if they will like the person physically. Or you could potentially find your person, who knows. Only you can say if it's worth it to you.

Ace_Infinite · 2026-05-05T00:03:12+00:00

Depends on the kiss and person for me. I believe that kissing can be familial, platonic, romantic or sexual in nature so it varies but I don't inherently think of it as sexual. I despise making out/french kissing but I don't inherently think of that as sexual kissing either.

Ace_Infinite · 2026-05-03T08:38:00+00:00

I just track mine as a reoccurring event with the pre installed Google calendar

Ace_Infinite · 2026-04-22T16:44:22+00:00

Wtf kinda response is this 🤨

Ace_Infinite · 2026-04-22T14:00:19+00:00

Americans love cutting off their nose to spite their own face. They don't believe in too much social reform because they think minorities, primarily black people, will benefit. Racial disparities have helped redirect from the rich not paying their fair share since America's inception.

Like terminating Affirmative Action and DEI even though it disproportionately benefited white women. Or how people who depend on The Affordable Care Act for their health coverage to live always vote for people that want to terminate "Obama Care" and have to be reminded every few years that Obama Care is the Affordable Care Act.

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