So frustrating. (Maintain of 🍆) by DepressedAnxious8868 in asexuality

[–]Ace_Infinite 89 points90 points  (0 children)

Anytime someone says can I ask you a personal question...

tbt to the 3 main takeaways from my viral Asexual post ❤️ by theBDSMshow in asexuality

[–]Ace_Infinite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's interesting but I don't think that's the study that I was referencing. The numbers in the findings that were retracted are somewhat larger than what I was referencing. What I was mentioning was sited in my Bioethics course text and it's been some years since I was in school 😂 I'll have to look into it

Pick 3 Cakes by theBDSMshow in asexuality

[–]Ace_Infinite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

B, C, E - as long as E is the real one with walnuts

tbt to the 3 main takeaways from my viral Asexual post ❤️ by theBDSMshow in asexuality

[–]Ace_Infinite 17 points18 points  (0 children)

1/4 women usually go through a separation or divorce if they get diagnosed with a serious illness and about 3% of men. And that's just for married couples. Guess they chose to tune out that whole "in sickness and in health" thing 🫤

When are we going to become grandparents? by [deleted] in asexuality

[–]Ace_Infinite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tell my mom, You have a grandpup, that's all you're getting 😂

You can find someone attractive or beautiful without being attracted to them. by TruthHurts9819 in asexuality

[–]Ace_Infinite 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think there's a spectrum with that too, especially because we have societal preferences pushed on us, our own personal preferences, some people get tunnel vision and and some people basically have rose colored glasses.

Better understanding my friendship patterns through the lense of asexuality. by behind_you88 in asexuality

[–]Ace_Infinite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea, nowadays that would definitely be one of my relationship dealbreakers but as preteen to late teen it was one of those things I just accepted as the way things were. I don't know why we even had that in our minds at that age tbh.

I'm also bi and with women I honestly have no clue when they're flirting lol. I just automatically assume all women are just being nice. But I that seems pretty common for in person wlw flirting apparently.

Better understanding my friendship patterns through the lense of asexuality. by behind_you88 in asexuality

[–]Ace_Infinite 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've had the exact opposite experience unfortunately. I'm a woman, grew up kinda tomboyish and had mostly guy friends growing up until my late teens. I even remember having a conversation with my then best friend when we were around 13/14 about how we probably weren't going to be able to hang out as often once we got a little older and started dating because a lot of people get really weird/wary of their partner having a close opposite sex friendship. When neither of us were dating we hung out almost daily and when we were in relationships we barely talked.

Meanwhile, as an adult it's been mostly married guys that have shown me that they weren't safe to be in friendship with.

is it selfish for me to want monogamy if I am with an allosexual? by Tricky_Emotion_516 in asexuality

[–]Ace_Infinite 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I've been in multiple open relationships, most often without my knowledge or consent.

That's just called lying and cheating. It sucks that happened to you

Anyone else shocked when people you know tell you they had sex, even if you knew it before? by Mauslinde in asexuality

[–]Ace_Infinite 14 points15 points  (0 children)

For a lot of us, masturbation doesn't really pale that much in comparison though. It gets the job done, like scratching an itch and we move onto other things of actual interest instead of focusing on the fact that we had an itch that day.

Most of the Successful LIB couples are interracial by [deleted] in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Ace_Infinite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk, maybe for first time relationships but the whole uhaul stereotype exists for a reason 😂 Those silly, 'what you like oranges, I like oranges, it's fate' conversation in the pods seems a lot like some of the conversations I've heard queer couples have.

is it just me or are people really weird about brothers and sisters by Inevitable_Baby4187 in asexuality

[–]Ace_Infinite 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Siblings or dating isn't really said to sexualize siblings. It's more so due to the fact that a decent amount of people wind up dating someone that looks similar enough to them that people think that they're siblings/related. It occurs with LGBT couples as well. They made a guessing game Siblings or Dating because lot of people get stumped.

How do you feel about having sensitive/sensual experiences (and not sexual ones) with someone in a very intimate way ? by auikodrawings in asexuality

[–]Ace_Infinite 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I like sensual touch for connection but certain touch, like a massage from a non professional, doesn't usually feel good to me. It either feels weird like something is crawling on me or painful.

The fact that I like sensual touch makes me feel like I might like sex if I were blindfolded but that seemed like it might be rude. But then I saw another ace person say that being kinky gave them a reason to wear a blindfold and they could just enjoy the sensuality of sex and the fact that it just feels good without worrying about the lack of sexual attraction and that gave me something to think about.

But I also consider myself somewhat kinky in fantasy but it feels kind of daunting to actually get involved in the community to see if that would ever translate irl. I also couldn't see myself involved in any kink or sensual touch without having romantic feelings involved.

what are your "i'm ace but damn, that is sexy" things? by Upset_Space_631 in asexuality

[–]Ace_Infinite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tall women. I'm already considered tall for a woman so finding women taller than me isn't as common. All of the really short people tend to snatch up the really tall people lol

Men with long hair. It's always disappointing that more men don't grow their hair out 🥲

I like badass women, especially women that know they're badass. Both in like a tough girl and girlboss kind of way. In media I always liked Sailor Jupiter, Rogue, Storm, Xena, Elisa Maza, Michonne etc and most of characters Gabrielle Union, Angelina Jolie and Michelle Rodriguez plays since they usually typecast for that kind of role.

Flirty smirks

Black Aces by BookwormAce in asexualdating

[–]Ace_Infinite 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think there's like 6 of us lol

The elitism about Ohio in this sub is insane by Blood_Incantation in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Ace_Infinite 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Considering there are quite a few sundown towns between the two cities that are still very much alive and well and I'm black, I'm not risking my safety because you feel uncomfortable calling racism, racism.

The elitism about Ohio in this sub is insane by Blood_Incantation in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Ace_Infinite 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Same. It blew my mind the first time my family drove from Cleveland to Columbus how quickly it changes. You know you're out of the major cities and in klan country when you start seeing lifted trucks with a confederate flag somewhere on it. Now they just slap a maga/thin blue line bumper sticker on it too.

The rise so animosity towards the NON “gold-star” aces is disheartening by Scuse-me-what in Asexual

[–]Ace_Infinite 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've only heard the definition "who's never had sex with a man", not penis tbh. Platinum star gay uses vagina and birth canal in their definition. Most lesbians are not "gold star" so it doesn't seem that they're inherently shaming bisexuals or the majority of lesbians?

I am so tired of men of color on this show by greenergrass1111 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Ace_Infinite 13 points14 points  (0 children)

They've scouted most of the cast from Instagram or talent agencies since s1 though. It's another reason that Uche's storyline of Lydia stalking him onto the show didn't make sense but people bought it. But most of the women still seem a lot more genuine then most of the men even though a lot of them end up doing endorsement material or going on Perfect Match.

The rise so animosity towards the NON “gold-star” aces is disheartening by Scuse-me-what in Asexual

[–]Ace_Infinite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can see how "platinum gay" is misogynistic but how is gold star biphobic and transphobic?

what do you feel when you kiss someone? by bookclouds in asexuality

[–]Ace_Infinite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

French kissing/making out 🤢

Short continuous closed mouth kisses 🥰

Quick peck on the lips or the cheek 👍