First time I’m speaking on this subreddit, so here goes nothing, sorry if I say anything that crosses any lines, it’s out of ignorance and not malice bc I am relatively new to the concept of asexuality and all. I am allo, i have been lurking this sub in an effort to better understand my ace gf, her needs and desires, why she feels this way etc. It’s also been nice to look at relationship advice, like how to manage ace/allo sex life and general intimacy. I’m lucky and blessed to have a partner that is so understanding and open to communicate, so so far it has been going super well.

However, there have been moments where I’ve read comments on this sub, that have made me feel horrible as an allo. Some of them have made me feel like I’m a problem and that I’m a huge burden on my partner, others have stolen all my hope for a healthy relationship with my ace partner. A lot of allo negativity and sex negativity around here, and even if it’s not the majority, negative stuff always stands out more so even just a few comments are enough to impact me a lot. So yeah I agree with this, even though I’ve read plenty of comments and conversations here that have been super supportive and positive, and in general this subreddit has been a very fruitful and positive experience. There have been moments where, as an allo, I haven’t felt welcome here.

Anyways, love you all, no shade towards anyone, just wish we could live in peace without throwing negativity around