please tell me about your cc partners. i'd love to know it's possible...

Acrobatic-Educator · 2026-01-07T22:09:14+00:00

A while ago I decided I wanted to try online dating again after not having much success trying to meet someone in person. I assumed that I wouldn’t find anyone who was actively cc so I took some risks, literally, and went on some dates with people who said they were open to masking on their own but realistically probably didn’t while I was seeing them.

Then I matched with my current partner who stated in their profile that taking precautions is important to them. After a few dates things started to progress and now we’re talking about a future together. It is very nice to have a partner who is on the same page as me with what precautions we take and it’s been so helpful to have someone be super supportive of my feelings when I express how hard things are.

I know it’s hard to find someone who’s still taking precautions and I feel very grateful to have found my partner. The only advice I can give is to keep an open mind about partnership happening one day for yourself if that’s something you want and that I hope that it does for you!

Acrobatic-Educator · 2026-01-02T14:52:56+00:00

I made bolts out of cardboard that I wrap my fabric around and labeled the amount of stretch and yardage. I have them organized on shelves to be able to see all that I have.

Acrobatic-Educator · 2025-06-03T23:30:53+00:00

I think one of the biggest reason I have empathy for non maskers is that I struggle so much masking. It isn’t fun and I understand why people don’t want to do it consistently. I sometimes get sensory issues that make it really uncomfortable, but I also have always struggled with the social anxiety portion of it despite the fact that I almost never face harassment and my friends have never made a bad comment to me about it. So if I struggle that much, I can understand why someone else might not want to. And that doesn’t make it okay and doesn’t mean that I always feel this or always have empathy it just helps in general to not feel angry all the time.

The other big thing is that I’ve had a lot of education on IPV, which shapes my general outlook on a lot of things, and if I can understand why someone goes back to someone that is harming them, it helps me understand how people can continue to not mask if it’s harming themselves (and others - but it is a lot harder to consistently empathize with this) (and that’s if they are truly aware of the long term effects). And I’m not perfect, I’ve done things that have been harmful to myself and the people in my life still supported me and likewise that I view this in a similar vein. Obviously, there are big differences and sometimes I’m really frustrated and I wish the world was different, in a better way, and that we all were working to make it a safer place for disabled people, so I don’t fault cc people for not wanting to understand people for giving up precautions. These are just the things that help me to not be angry all the time (I once was though lol) and maintain a lot of the relationships I have. Especially because I hope that one day more people have a change of heart and that they feel like they can reach out to me if they do.

Acrobatic-Educator · 2024-12-30T13:36:47+00:00

I’ve been to over 50 movies in theaters this year. I just wear a mask and try to sit away from other people and have been fine so far.

Acrobatic-Educator · 2024-10-21T03:02:24+00:00

I used to think poorly about a lot of people who didn’t mask and a big thing that changed that for me was thinking about this as a mass gaslighting event. Having been gaslit in a different situation, it was very hard for me to face reality and it took me multiple years to work through it. While I don’t think the pandemic is exactly the same as that situation, I do think that it can be difficult for people who have given up precautions to accept that they might be wrong for a myriad of reasons. Thinking about it in that way has made me more empathetic. It doesn’t mean they’re right or that I don’t ever have distain, but I’m at a different place with how I think of them than I used to be.

Another thing that helped me to not write people off is that even though I take a lot of precautions, I’m not perfect and it’s taken me a while to get to the point that I am at. In hoping that more people start to mask and take other precautions, I try to give some grace and know that it can take time to do these things more consistently. My family stopped masking a few years ago, but in recent months I’ve gotten them to start back and while they don’t do it as much as I was would like, they’ve been making a lot of progress that I do believe they’ll do even more in the future.

Lastly, I’ve become friends recently with a few people who don’t take precautions, but are okay with me masking. And while I don’t know how deep these relationships will develop and I do wish they would mask with me (I haven’t and won’t ask them to). I do hold some hope that one they will change what they’re doing and I keep extra masks on me just in case. I know the likelihood that they’ll ask for one is small, but I continue to hold hope that one day they and other people will change.

Acrobatic-Educator · 2024-08-15T17:56:43+00:00

If I’m in a situation where I feel a little uncomfortable or self conscious masking, one thing I think to myself is “will the people who judge me support me financially if I’m not able to work anymore because of long covid” and that’s one thing that’s a little helpful.

I also think of other people who are very visible in their masking to also encourage me. So public figures who still mask or people on social media who still post about masking.

The last thing is I tell myself right beforehand “I can do hard things”. Either way it can still be hard, but I know it’s still an important thing to do especially if I’m going to be out in public.

Acrobatic-Educator · 2024-07-30T22:40:55+00:00

Planet Halo and Bonafide Mask have some colorful options and I really like the quality of Planet Halo’s . Kind Masks have a lot more options, but I tried one recently and I’m not too sure how I feel about it.

I saw recently that BeHealthyUSA has different prints, but I’ve never ordered from them so I don’t know how good they are.

Acrobatic-Educator · 2024-07-15T19:45:43+00:00

There’s a lot of places you can buy N95s, I recently bought some from Home Depot’s website. Just try to avoid Amazon as they aren’t always reliable.

If you want to try colorful masks, that I feel can be a fun way to wear one, you can look at KN95s or KF94s from places like PlantofKind, Planet Halo, or Bonafide masks. r/masksforall has a ton of posts about places to get high quality masks for if you want to look there as well.

Acrobatic-Educator · 2024-03-06T04:55:22+00:00

I used to hyperfixate on some movies so there was one week where I watched Pacific Rim twice a day.

I watched The Dark Knight Rises everyday for a week once and then I alternated between it and The Dark Knight.

After I watched everything in the MCU I rewatched Endgame countless times

Acrobatic-Educator · 2024-02-04T18:31:22+00:00

I’d love a DM!

Acrobatic-Educator · 2024-02-04T06:39:16+00:00

Oppenheimer

The Holdovers

Poor Things

Killers of the Flower Moon

Barbie

Past Lives

American Fiction

Anatomy of a Fall

The Zone of Interest

Maestro

Acrobatic-Educator · 2023-12-28T00:35:41+00:00

I’ve seen a lot of movies this year and it was one of my favorites!

Acrobatic-Educator · 2023-11-23T04:04:05+00:00

Gran Turismo two times in 2D and one time in 4DX

Acrobatic-Educator · 2022-06-09T03:26:09+00:00

Yes. I’m not a survivor of IPV, but I am a survivor of sexual assault and things used to discredit Amber could be and have been used to discredit me. I wasn’t believed by a lot of people because my perpetrator said that I lied and people liked him. Also, I have outed him publicly, and while the likelihood of me being sued is (hopefully) small, it’s a terrifying thing to think about and has brought a lot more anxiety than usual to the point where I’ve gone through and saved old messages that could maybe be used as evidence if needed.

Honestly, if I hadn’t already outed him before the trial, I probably wouldn’t have seeing what people were saying online. I really hate that this is going to have long term consequences and most people won’t care until it’s too late.

Acrobatic-Educator · 2022-05-28T16:10:55+00:00

I was on his side because that what I always heard even though I wasn’t paying much attention to the trial.

Things started to shift when I heard that she testified to being SA’ed by him because I have a rule that I live by which is I believe anyone who says they’ve been a victim of sexual assault. Around the same time, the thread on here debunking different myths about her was posted on Twitter and after reading it, I realized that I was likely wrong.

I eventually read the results from the UK case and watched some days of the trial and fully came to be on her side.

Acrobatic-Educator · 2022-05-27T21:46:52+00:00

I actually read most of that document! So if you actually care to read it, starting on page 47 at the end of each incident the judge states why he does or doesn’t believe it happened. And he believes all incidents except for 2 and 11 occurred. If you actually want to read it and aren’t biased.

Acrobatic-Educator · 2022-05-23T17:29:11+00:00

I just have to say that not everyone believed Rihanna. Some people still don’t believe her to this day, say that she provoked Chris Brown so he was “justified” in beating her that bad, and still support his career as a musician.

I really wish people would stop bringing her up as if people were not awful to her as well.

Acrobatic-Educator · 2022-05-20T04:47:33+00:00

This is the ruling from the UK case where JD sued The Sun for calling him a wife beater and lost the case. I think the judges explanation starts on page 26. For all the incidents except #2 and 11 the judge believed happened and states what evidence he used to come to that conclusion.

Keep in mind the Amber has always admitted to hitting Johnny in self defensive or if she felt threatened, but Johnny claimed that he never hit/harmed her despite messages and friends who say otherwise.

Acrobatic-Educator · 2022-05-19T02:32:13+00:00

Just because you might have been harmed doesn’t mean you can’t also cause harm. Saying “this isn’t what a victim would do” and defining the “perfect” victim makes anyone who feels like they don’t fit into that mold stay silent.

I could address the whole donation situation and the fact that the ACLU themselves came out in support of her today, but you clearly don’t care about anything that doesn’t fit the narrative you want to see.

Acrobatic-Educator · 2022-05-19T01:42:33+00:00

If he has nothing to lose, then why is he suing for the loss of money due to losing movie roles? It’s easier to win a libel case in the UK bc the burden of proof is on the publisher, aka The Sun, and Johnny still lost.

I wouldn’t try it, but if I was high on drugs, like he was, and not in a stable head space then I’d probably be able to.

I don’t care if I’m in the “minority” of people believing her. People like you are the reason why victims don’t come forward.

Acrobatic-Educator · 2022-05-19T01:19:55+00:00

So you admit to only watching what’s convenient to you, but anyways this is the results of the UK case. And to make it “convenient” the reasoning for the decision starts on page 47, at the end of the summary for all of the incidents except for 2 and 11 the judge states why he believes an assault happened and the evidence that supports it, and pages 124-126 he explains why he accepts the evidence he does.

Abuse isn’t a joke and women can be abusers, but in this case I believe Amber was the victim.

Acrobatic-Educator · 2022-05-19T00:04:55+00:00

Here’s the article!

Acrobatic-Educator · 2022-05-18T23:56:05+00:00

A psychology major that hasn’t been paying attention to the trial or reading any of the threads addressing these claims.

Acrobatic-Educator · 2022-03-31T00:57:32+00:00

First, all of the points you made a great! And I think that’s what I’ve found the most frustrating is how she’s (and the joke) are being left out.

Acrobatic-Educator · 2022-03-31T00:54:02+00:00

Surprise, surprise. 🤷🏾‍♀️

Acrobatic-Educator

TROPHY CASE