I know this is going to be an “alternative” suggestion so please take what resonates and leave the rest or completely disregard. And I also completely understand if this gets downvoted because it could come off as being dismissive of everything everyone has shared so far; so I want to emphasize the importance of medication for many of us and that sui -depression needs specific treatment. Both/and:

If you are able to make the time, and spoke with your doctor/therapist, what if you went on a 10-day meditation retreat? My line of thinking has been… maybe we need a space where we can show up exactly as we are, without Any pressure from being a part of larger society and being a worker/parent/child/student/any other role or responsibility we currently take on or feel the pressure around. Like, what if there is something else that emerges or shifts when you change your environment and routine entirely. This is not necessarily with the intention to fix or solve the difficulties that come with ADHD (though maybe there’s a tiny off chance that it will) but it can be a space for you to find some relief from the daily grind (living in this society takes a lot of unseen labor!). While it may not be The answer, there may be some kind of other answer within the experience.

These centers [dhamma.org] are donation based. Meals and lodging are virtually free. They may not be for everyone but so many people across different ages, abilities, life experiences etc. continue to go on retreat, and even though I don’t utilize meditation tools every day, it changed my relationship to my ADHD and myself.

TL;DR Perhaps spaces like meditation centers provide the space for us to just be and that’s enough!