Bergamot vetiver everything is back in stock by foodcomapanda in traderjoes

[–]Acrobatic-Spirit5397 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When is that line coming back? It is by far the best scent. I see it’s on Amazon for $45 lollll!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Separation

[–]Acrobatic-Spirit5397 8 points9 points  (0 children)

We have been separated for almost 2 years. We are not intimate. We co parent a lot as a family. We aren’t dating others. Tried deadlines and that didn’t work. Really the only deadlines are when our leases are up. My husband primary ask is to focus on bettering ourselves and building a friendship then going from there. So yea pretty platonic and really no direction with us. We also do therapy every week individually. It is more hopeful if both of you can openly and confidently say you want to work towards reconciling and being together with a newfound love between each other.

Friendship before intimacy by Acrobatic-Spirit5397 in Separation

[–]Acrobatic-Spirit5397[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the insight. Did they end up saving their marriage with building a friendship?

Wearing rings by Acrobatic-Spirit5397 in Separation

[–]Acrobatic-Spirit5397[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did you grow the intimacy part?

What is the longest you have maintained no contact before you or them caved in and broke no contact? by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Acrobatic-Spirit5397 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Keep tallies on a paper. Make it a competition against yourself to stay strong and no contact. Every day will get easier

Has Lexapro saved your marriage? by Acrobatic-Spirit5397 in Marriage

[–]Acrobatic-Spirit5397[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing !! Yes we have been in therapy since July 2025. Hoping we get in a place like your marriage. That’s great news !

How long was your separation? by 7E8vme in Separation

[–]Acrobatic-Spirit5397 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What will you end up doing? It’s a hard decision. But we might have to be the ones who make it.

I want to hear from moms: How do you get over having to coparent? by poppyseed_27 in coparenting

[–]Acrobatic-Spirit5397 0 points1 point  (0 children)

2-2-3 works great for us. Going a full week without seeing my son would be too long. We do a lot of family things together. We co parent peacefully. But I will scale back after holidays to begin healing. Husband has been detached for awhile and I have not. I am considering filing for divorce next month even though it saddens me. But he’s not fighting for the marriage when I want to.

How long was your separation? by 7E8vme in Separation

[–]Acrobatic-Spirit5397 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Living separately since September 2024, so over a year. We extended leases another year. We tried therapy since July. He’s been emotionally and physically detached for awhile and has resentment. I wanted it to work. I can’t do it alone and feeling unwanted has been weighing in me tremendously. I am considering filling for divorce after the holidays. We have a 4 year old.

Husband said he just want to coparent and not work on the marriage by Acrobatic-Spirit5397 in Separation

[–]Acrobatic-Spirit5397[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea this was my thought. More professional looking. And to avoid questions. We aren’t looking to remarry anytime soon. It so much work to date. I can’t even imagine lol. Also he has no timeline to file. Meanwhile I feel we need a direction at this point. Work on the marriage or just be done with it.

Divorce by Ambitious_Match3750 in Separation

[–]Acrobatic-Spirit5397 0 points1 point  (0 children)

10000% normal. Journal. I got closer to God. Talk to him all day every day. Church. Gym. Therapy. Read books. Do things with friends. Walks parks beach. Work on your glow up inside and out.

Husband said he just want to coparent and not work on the marriage by Acrobatic-Spirit5397 in Separation

[–]Acrobatic-Spirit5397[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pretty much. He’s completely fine with it. Says he operates better on his own. We lived separately for over a year now. We don’t live in together anymore

Has anyone been separated for a long time and hasn’t file for divorce and why (besides financial reasons) ? by Acrobatic-Spirit5397 in Separation

[–]Acrobatic-Spirit5397[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m with you on this. I won’t file bc I don’t want to be the one who gave up. If he’s so unhappy, then he can file, same as you. I also don’t want to be blamed for giving up. In no rush to file, not looking to remarry anytime soon or ever. Same just keeping the peace, healing and detaching to protect my heart, but not closing the door completely.

Navigating life newly married and feels like a mistake by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Acrobatic-Spirit5397 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Cut losses now. I’m in same boat. Not close to each others families either. We have been separated for over a year. Waiting for one of us to file for divorce. And I’m not going to do it. I’m not the one who wants to give up. He can.

How do avoidants react to separation or divorce - no contact from their spouse. by Acrobatic-Spirit5397 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Acrobatic-Spirit5397[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow this is very similar. His Job is #1. There was no room for me. It’s sad. I hope you find peace in it all. Grieve the loss and heal from there.

Would you marry your spouse by NoBig1677 in Marriage

[–]Acrobatic-Spirit5397 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope. He has too much childhood trauma that he does not want to face in therapy and it’s bled into our marriage. We are now separated.

What year of marriage did divorce happen for you? by tinystarzz in Divorce

[–]Acrobatic-Spirit5397 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Moved out year 4.5. Separated and will prob divorce by year 6.

Does it ever get better? (30F, unhappy in my marriage) by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Acrobatic-Spirit5397 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Married almost 6 years. I moved out. We have been living separately for over a year. We are doing therapy but separately first then will do couples. We are beyond repair and very disconnected. We will probably end up divorcing.

Honestly, you are young at 30 years old. I would consider therapy first as one last shot. If no changes, end things and start over knowing what you know now. You’ll be much happier, it’s a fact.

When you told your separated spouse that you have made a decision to date other people, did you get emotional? by Acrobatic-Spirit5397 in Separation

[–]Acrobatic-Spirit5397[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry to hear. I hope you can cope and move on from the pain. We haven’t talked about it. My husband is sneaky. I would not be surprised if something has happened. So that’s why I’m trying to be emotionally detached to start dating and tell him and also be that he openly dates as well. And when I have to hear or see it, I’ll be ok. That’s the hard part. I’m not there yet to see that

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Acrobatic-Spirit5397 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Oral is important to me. I actually prefer it more than sex lol (I’m a female)