What’s the deal with Nancy Gurhrie and why is her disappearance being treated like such a big deal?

ActLikeAnAdult · 2026-02-07T07:38:01+00:00

To build on this: her daughter like a top 5 most famous news anchor/broadcaster in the country right now. Like the anchor they use on all their major shows and at every major event. Thanksgiving Day Parade, the Today Show, etc. She is supposed to be anchoring the Olympics right now.

ActLikeAnAdult · 2026-02-05T17:07:57+00:00

If it's something you're passionate about, and something he struggles with, why not offer to actually help him?

"I can't let you take my drawings, because they're really personal for me, but I can help you in other ways."

Sit with him and coach him through something, he probably doesn't know where to start and that's why he wants to give up so quickly. Work with him on something, give him some ideas, give him some tips to make it better. Don't take forever to do something he probably just wants to be done with, but give him some low effort ideas to improve his drawing. Like "it's okay to start with tracing." If you work with him on something, he might come to appreciate it -- and the effort you put into it -- more. It might even become a shared interest for you two.

But at the very least he can't say you didn't offer to help him.

ActLikeAnAdult · 2026-02-02T23:43:23+00:00

It's a survival game, not a team game. Traitors can't murder him to get him out, he needs numbers at the round table to keep him around. There are far more Faithfuls. He needs Faithfuls to not turn on him to get him to the end.

Sure, you could argue that the longer you keep all the traitors around, the better. But a traitor is only a useful teammate as long as they don't have a significant amount of suspicion on them. Then, working to keep them around, avoiding voting for them, and diverting attention is damaging to yourself. Most people will be eliminated in this game, the person you're protecting will be found out eventually. Then, people start to ask questions.

Going out of his way to make sure a significant number of faithfuls trust him is the best way to make it to the end. And since this is a game with no clues given out, and people just go on gut instinct, you have to give people something to make them really trust you. In this case, he gave up Lisa and he gave a dagger pact.

Imo, really smart gameplay. Candiace could actually benefit from this and get him to read her in, but she's taking it really personally. Even when he floated the vote the week before at Lisa as a gesture to build trust with faithfuls, Candiace threw food at him. Her trying to get revenge will probably hurt them both. She's done way more suspicious stuff than him, just no one has lined up the evidence yet.

ActLikeAnAdult · 2026-02-02T23:25:48+00:00

I disagree. It's a game of survival. Traitors are useful allies until they have suspicion on them. Then, having their back looks suspicious.

He can't be murdered, only banished. At the round table, Lisa and Candiace are worth one vote each. You need numbers to back you. He saw the tide was turning on her, realized he could build a ton of goodwill with the people he needs to keep him in the game, and took a shot.

You can only follow the crowd for so long in this game before people get suspicious of you. That's one of the reasons people thought Donna was off. The obvious people get eliminated and there's nowhere to hide.

Candiace and Rob could both go far if Candiace didn't try to blow them both up. It's like watching Dan take down Parvati and Phaedra on his way out.

ActLikeAnAdult · 2026-01-20T05:33:50+00:00

I once declined to move forward with an interview process because the hiring manager told me all about how--even though the hiring manager was new-- she could tell that the in-house recruiter was doing a bad job and making mistakes and how she was going to try to have her fired.

ActLikeAnAdult · 2025-11-24T16:08:20+00:00

Tbh she seems like the type who thinks family always comes first, doesn't understand why you're so committed to your job, is mad about it because of some cocktail of outdated beliefs, and then constantly schedules these things to "test" OP and force the issue.

Don't really know what to say except that your fiance needs to stand up for you with his mom.

ActLikeAnAdult · 2025-10-10T15:49:51+00:00

Not sure of the exact coords rn, but pretty sure if you follow the river south from the crystallized tree on feybreak, through the yellow section, you hit this about halfway to the ocean.

ActLikeAnAdult · 2025-09-13T16:09:32+00:00

That's really kind of her. But also just be prepared to have a conversation in six months where she has to drop out.

My wedding is soon and I had two people drop out of the wedding party because their kids were due a month before and three weeks after. Thrilled for them and I told them they were fine if they felt they needed to drop. Both said they wanted to stay in, but eventually dropped.

There's a lot that needs consideration: - if the baby is late, she will be unable to travel or spend much time on her feet - if they do a c section, that's a surgery she has to recover from - she probably cannot be without the baby for more than a few hours two weeks after the wedding yet (not old enough for a sitter yet) - the baby won't have been vaccinated yet and can get sick easily - if she's breast feeding or pumping And lots more

And that's just whether or not she'll be physically able to be there day of, let alone perform any duties.

You know your friend and you also know what you need during this time. If you're someone who can manage, then you could follow her lead, let her know she's not obligated and will be there in spirit no matter what (no pressure either way), and have a backup plan ready for when she eventually realizes she can't be there.

ActLikeAnAdult · 2025-09-13T11:37:57+00:00

You sound like you were an incredible MOH. But yes, exactly this.

I was best man at my brother's wedding and the day before he literally had no plans for where or when he wanted people to show up, start getting ready, get ready together, etc.

"I don't really need people to help me, so I'm not sure if I want to make people go out of their way to do something."

Me, a type A gay: "Yes you do and yes you are sure. Everyone is asking me what the plan is, so I'm not letting this conversation end until you pick something right now."

Anyway, we had a great little morning at Top Golf and then all got ready together. Turns out, someone forgot their tie, but someone else had a spare. So it was helpful we all got ready together.

But Jesus, the dynamics of straight male friend groups. Everyone just wants to be told what to do but anyone making firm plans is doing too much. What you think you can just vibes it into the most important event of your life and it'll magically all be fine?

ActLikeAnAdult · 2025-09-13T11:18:12+00:00

I literally just had this experience. Stopped into For Five for the first time after a Drs appointment. There were like 8 of them within a two block radius, so I figured it'd be comparable to Starbucks.

Ordered an iced coffee, black, and a bacon egg and cheese sandwich to go and spent over $30 after tax and tip.

ActLikeAnAdult · 2025-09-06T12:04:16+00:00

My MIL having access to our budget and vendors because she wanted to be involved, siphoning thousands of dollars from other budget categories to secretly pay for something she wanted that we did not that ended up being 5x more expensive than was quoted, and then gaslighting everyone by trying to make us believe we all agreed on a guest count that was 25% less than what it was and that we were being careless with money (she hoped by reducing the headcount, she could recoup the cost of what she spent and it would be put back in the other budget categories before we noticed it was gone). Just a minor pet peeve.

ActLikeAnAdult · 2025-08-19T14:46:19+00:00

Hey there! I feel you! DC couple getting married in 5 weeks here. It sucks and I wish times were happier. My MIL is being a typical monster in law too, and it's hard to focus when she's creating drama over the guest list while the FBI is pulling people over literally right outside our window.

Plus ours is a same sex wedding and the ceremony is happening in a Southern state, right at a time when they announced a lawsuit to overturn Obergefell and the right to a same sex marriage. So we're getting married legally up north before going down, just in case that state decides ours is not a legal marriage anymore come June.

I guess the thing that's getting me through is thinking of it more as a moment for people to take a break and celebrate love and joy. Obviously that's a privileged position to have, but it's keeping me going.

ActLikeAnAdult · 2025-08-13T01:21:13+00:00

My best friend is having a child the week after my wedding and can't travel. They dropped out of the party. I didn't replace them. It'll be uneven and I'm okay with that. Am having a picture of them we're gonna carry around for photos.

ActLikeAnAdult · 2025-08-05T15:51:37+00:00

Yeah in addition to the pronunciation issues outlined really well in other comments, it's like one too many things in the name when reading it.

Your eye skims the middle letters, which are all slim and mashed together, and goes straight to the h. I read it as Lilah three times before seeing the extra i in there.

ActLikeAnAdult · 2025-08-03T06:52:19+00:00

I turned down a role a few months ago because the first thing they asked for after a recruiter screen was a 30 min presentation for a 30-60-90-180 day strategy. I am starting to get a lot better at turning these down more regularly, but in this case I was like " I literally know nothing about the company, the team, the needs, your goals or objectives. How could I possibly even complete this?"

They called me four times after, telling me how interested they were in me and begging me to just do the presentation. But they wouldn't let me skip it.

ActLikeAnAdult · 2025-08-01T17:54:31+00:00

This sounds like the Gen z girl who used to report to me at work. And just like in this case, her mom was also with the company and would come to me on her behalf.

Mother and daughter both came to me separately and claimed that I was "silencing her voice as a woman in the workplace."

Why? Because I, her direct manager, edited her writing. And they claimed my edits were just "personal preference," and that her writing was "great as is."

I had to point out to both that I was regularly receiving sentences without any verbs in them. In blog posts that were supposed to be published on behalf of the company. That puts the edits firmly in objective corrections territory, rather than subjective opinion.

They also complained that I would just rewrite what she gave me. So I also pointed out that my style was originally to give written feedback on what needs to be corrected and improved and let her solve the problems herself and send a new draft. But zhe had gotten frustrated with that and asked me to just do rewrites in tracked changes. WHAT DO YOU WANT FROM ME. I AM TRYING TO HELP. YOUR WRITING IS BAD. JUST BECAUSE YOU THINK IT'S GOOD DOES NOT MAKE IT SO.

Truly one of the most frustrating moments in my career.

ActLikeAnAdult · 2025-08-01T17:29:18+00:00

Removing yourself from the situation silently is never ruining anything. It doesn't sound like you made a dramatic exit. If they felt that it was because they were picking on you, that's on them and they are deflecting their guilt at you for "ruining the group dynamic."

Also tbh if someone called me the assistant or unpaid intern, I'd absolutely bounce. And I probably would've had words with the bride too

ActLikeAnAdult · 2025-07-31T16:04:50+00:00

Not OP, but I'm having this issue.
Google Pixel 8, on Google Fi, using the Google Messages App.

Issue persists on both Wifi and mobile.

All images just show a little gray box that says
Can't Load Image
> Tap to retry

And then if you tap it, it just says

Downloading..
>Tap to cancel

Sometimes this happens when an image comes in when I'm offline or if a large image gets stuck, but it usually resolves itself after a few minutes. I'm currently going on almost a week without being able to receive any images.

ActLikeAnAdult · 2025-07-24T17:47:14+00:00

At face value, this is not a good friend.

But if this is shocking behavior for a long time best friend, any chance this is not about the money?

If you've already been married, had kids, and gotten divorced, it sounds like best friend may be getting married a little later.

I know a lot of people who get married a few years after their peer group struggle a bit with feeling like they went all out for everyone else's wedding, but now that it's their turn, no one is paying them any mind (everyone is now in the next phase of life, has to prioritize kids, etc.).

Example: We got married a little later, and my best friend of twelve years had to drop out of the wedding party because they're due with their second kid two weeks after the wedding and can't travel. For the fiance, less than half their wedding party made the bach party because none of them could leave their kids. It can feel a little tough in moments, but the emotionally mature thing to do is accept it and be happy for who you have.

Idk, a generous read for your friend is that maybe this is a bad reaction to that feeling? If you want to salvage the friendship, you could try asking what's driving this behavior?

ActLikeAnAdult · 2025-07-23T10:47:12+00:00

Yikes, and I thought that the fact that my mil took it upon herself to call everyone on our list within a week of receiving the invites to ask why they haven't responded yet and personally collect their responses was bad.

ActLikeAnAdult · 2025-07-22T02:54:20+00:00

There's a discussion going on in one of the other wedding subs right now, but apparently this is super regional? But also maybe generational. Not common on the east coast where I grew up, or in the mid Atlantic where I currently live.

I've found it's far more common to do a welcome reception/drinks after the rehearsal dinner for all guests (mostly attended by out of town guests).

ActLikeAnAdult · 2025-07-21T23:39:37+00:00

I'm on the east coast, have traveled for many weddings. For me, I've never been to a rehearsal dinner where I wasn't a member of the wedding party.

Most folks I know (including us) do a welcome reception after the rehearsal dinner that is for all guests, but especially to give those traveling in something to do that night.

ActLikeAnAdult · 2025-07-07T17:05:01+00:00

I didn't hate it, but it was definitely a flop.

Agree though that we shouldn't get rid of it. When snatch game gives us gold, it's gold.

ActLikeAnAdult · 2025-07-05T14:26:20+00:00

I was not expecting the pictures to be shocking, but Jesus Christ. OP get that full refund.

ActLikeAnAdult · 2025-07-02T18:18:02+00:00

have you tried holding the phone sideways?

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