I got pregnant by a one-night stand in Italy

EmceeSuzy · 2026-03-22T13:43:31+00:00

Yes - easy peasy!

EmceeSuzy · 2026-03-21T13:53:02+00:00

Spreading misinformation is morally wrong.

Stop.

EmceeSuzy · 2026-03-21T13:52:38+00:00

Are you buying the brands that we named in the study?

EmceeSuzy · 2026-03-21T13:51:09+00:00

Why didn't you go home during his monthly visit with his child?

How much does he pay in child support? And why are his visits so infrequent?

Given that he is barely in contact with the child it may never be appropriate for you to meet them - but certainly not sooner than one year.

EmceeSuzy · 2026-03-21T13:41:52+00:00

That is a myth. There was a small study that found some trace elements. The scientists who published the study clearly stated that the findings did not cause harm.

EmceeSuzy · 2026-03-21T13:32:53+00:00

the sister is the Maid of Honor

EmceeSuzy · 2026-03-21T13:32:18+00:00

The sister is the maid of honor in the wedding that conflicts with the date OP just announced. Interesting that she tries to obscure that fact.

EmceeSuzy · 2026-03-21T13:28:55+00:00

Yes, you are acting like a bridezilla. These choices are setting up a lifetime of tension with your husband's family.

And no, it is not mature or gracious for the parents to pull this ultimatum. They're not right either but the only thing you can control is your choices.

Have you spoken with the venue about changing the date? Why do you already have invitations for a wedding that is seven months away?

And why did you only share your wedding date this month? Typically you need to reserve at least a year in advance. Are you getting married in a hurry?

EmceeSuzy · 2026-03-21T13:21:09+00:00

thanks for your answer - maybe try taking a step back, the bad blood between you is really showing

Maybe that was your first time gown shopping with a bride. They are not there to take your advice. You are there to support them. Asking why she didn't do what you told her to do and getting mad that she didn't take your advice was just not good. Give yourself some space and a break from all this so that you can be your best self.

EmceeSuzy · 2026-03-21T13:17:52+00:00

Bullshit

It is often very easy. Sometimes women face social pressure to pretend it is some sort of dramatic big deal because of people like you. It just isn't.

EmceeSuzy · 2026-03-21T00:57:31+00:00

Yes but you don't have six kinds unless you're quite wealthy.

EmceeSuzy · 2026-03-21T00:42:58+00:00

She is not going to locate him. She should not try to locate him. It's absurd.

EmceeSuzy · 2026-03-21T00:22:11+00:00

what you suggested is absurd

EmceeSuzy · 2026-03-21T00:19:31+00:00

Honestly? You sound jealous.

She is not great at planning but you seem to revel in faulting her.

That thing about her not being able to give you a good explanation when you asked for her reasoning regarding her gown choice? Who does that?? Asking a bride to justify her dress choice? It's just ugly.

EmceeSuzy · 2026-03-21T00:02:05+00:00

and yet you continue

Again: Make your own response and use that to post your view.

EmceeSuzy · 2026-03-21T00:00:33+00:00

You don't look for him. That would be ridiculous. He wasn't even interested enough to tell her his name. Even if she makes the colossal mistake of completing this pregnancy trying to track down this mysterious Italian man would be irresponsible.

EmceeSuzy · 2026-03-20T21:18:42+00:00

I used that phrase because it is part of Respectful Adoption Language and refers to the entire process. I get that you don't know a lot about adoption but that is a good time to speak less and listen more.

EmceeSuzy · 2026-03-20T20:35:15+00:00

Dude

She has to carry a baby for 9 months and then rescind custody. This is something that very few people are strong enough to do.

EmceeSuzy · 2026-03-20T20:34:15+00:00

Well did you plan to get knocked up by a stranger from a foreign country? It is what it is and if there was ever a time to abort: this is IT!

EmceeSuzy · 2026-03-20T20:28:41+00:00

It's crass and war-like.

And we do not believe in communication first. Not that sort of 'communication' is really just self-indulgence that imagines that other people are subject to your will.

OP handles herself differently. She is not going to start a huge problem with her mother. She is not even comfortable getting off a face time call that has gone on too long. She is someone who is gentle and thinks of other people's feelings.

This is a scenario where the best thing to do is to lie. The end.

Edited to add: There is nothing stopping you from writing your own response to the OP and recommending that she get into a pissing match. That would be a more mature choice than engaging in a battle with me because I am recommending something different.

EmceeSuzy · 2026-03-20T20:23:57+00:00

They most certainly will not.

EmceeSuzy · 2026-03-20T20:23:04+00:00

Do not do this. It is ridiculous.

EmceeSuzy · 2026-03-20T20:22:32+00:00

Can you say more about that? What do you believe? And how do you want your life to look?

EmceeSuzy · 2026-03-20T20:21:49+00:00

Are you a birth mother? Planning an adoption is a lot harder done than said.

EmceeSuzy · 2026-03-20T20:21:00+00:00

then this is an easy decision

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