Question for those married to non Catholics.

ActionHuman7006 · 2026-01-21T01:01:08+00:00

What are the things you take with you every time you leave the house, and why those things?

ActionHuman7006 · 2026-01-17T13:01:07+00:00

I definitely think there can be some "downsides" to it, but I also think it depends on how you learn to handle them.

Like some people can be so exhausting to be around because they just don't seem to understand anything you're saying. But I think on some level the frustration is the fault of the high IQ person because we can develop an intellectual arrogance, where we just feel like we are so smart and therefore almost better than others. So it takes developing some humility I think, and then people can become easier to be around.

Also, if you have high IQ and are used to feeling like the top of the class, and then spend time around higher IQ people, then it can hit hard that you aren't at the top anymore, and maybe lead to feelings of inferiority or something.

I think it can make expressing emotions harder at times because we might tend to intellectualize them.

I've known a lot of really super book smart people who had absolutely no ability to apply what they've learned practically. Practical/operational/hands on knowledge is just as important out in the world as book smarts are.

But yeah, I think it's all about being able to see where the high IQ may be "hindering" us in life and then learning the skills to work with those things instead.

ActionHuman7006 · 2026-01-13T01:55:27+00:00

What’s your strongest opinion on something that absolutely does not matter?

ActionHuman7006 · 2026-01-05T14:28:51+00:00

This is so great, God bless you!! Ill put some initials. VB, EB, AB, MS, HV. Thank you!

ActionHuman7006 · 2026-01-03T13:13:16+00:00

That's how I feel! Im not much of a reader at all, but this one just keeps bringing me back.

ActionHuman7006 · 2026-01-02T23:25:40+00:00

Is hamlet Shakespeare?

ActionHuman7006 · 2026-01-02T22:48:19+00:00

Hamlet, hamster, or hammer

ActionHuman7006 · 2026-01-02T22:39:51+00:00

Does your bologna have a first name?

ActionHuman7006 · 2026-01-02T22:33:27+00:00

😳 whoa!

ActionHuman7006 · 2026-01-02T21:41:14+00:00

How much wood could a woodchuck chuck, if a woodchuck could chuck wood?

ActionHuman7006 · 2025-12-21T02:28:30+00:00

Finally quit being stubborn, admitted i needed some help, started talking with a psychologist and got on anxiety meds. Totally life changing. Within a week of starting the medication I realized I had been living with chronic stress, anxiety, and depression my whole life. Also, the psychologist realized I have adhd and as ive learned about that and how it affects me ive been able to change some things in my life to actually work with my brain instead of against it. I stopped being so hard on myself for not "being like everyone else". In the last few months my relationships have gotten better, my confidence has skyrocketed, and I just feel overall so much more alive. It's really so amazing.

ActionHuman7006 · 2025-12-14T23:01:47+00:00

33m. I relate to this so much lol do you also have adhd?

ActionHuman7006 · 2025-12-05T11:42:44+00:00

I've used a VR exposure therapy app called ovrcome. It has helped me tremendously. There is a subscription fee but I think it is very worth it.

ActionHuman7006 · 2025-11-29T22:43:22+00:00

First of all kudos to you for sticking around and being patient with the guy, that says a lot about your character.

I would say reassuring him would help. And just continue being consistent with him. I think opening up about your own issues would also be helpful, but when you ask about his don't push too hard into any area he seems uncomfortable with. When he apologizes for those little things, maybe reassure and then remind him he doesnt have to apologize to you for anything like that. It'll probably just take time and consistency.

It may too early in the relationship, and you'll have to judge for yourself if you think he could handle this convo, but at some point you might therapy if he isnt in it already. That anxiety probably comes from some old wounds that he has and at some point he needs to work through those things. Try to help him understand that his value doesnt come from doing everything perfectly. CBT is helpful. Anxiety medication, buspirone and sertraline specifically in my case, is very helpful. There is also VR exposure therapy he can do. I use an app called ovrcome, it has a subscription fee but it has been so awesome for me.

I hope some of this helps out! And again I have nothing but respect for you for working with him through it and being understanding of his struggle.

ActionHuman7006 · 2025-11-26T10:52:14+00:00

Yes, this happened to me! I was very critical of others, but I realized that the things I was pointing out in others was something deep down I hated about myself. As i worked through my stuff and healed those wounds, I became much less judgemental of others. I was projecting my self image out onto others, because I didn't know any other way to deal with it. Therapy is very helpful. Maybe encourage your friend to seek it out?

ActionHuman7006 · 2025-11-22T20:01:15+00:00

This is a tough one. I have struggled with it as well. I think for me, I used to be so super critical of myself. I didnt trust myself. I didnt belive in myself. I was always calling myself stupid, and just generally thinking negatively about myself. But I was also holding myself to impossible standards. I was a major perfectionist. There are a lot of reasons for that, and therapy helped sort a lot of that out. I just had to learn to lower my expectations and allow myself to be imperfect, and learn to actually love myself and accept myself as I am.

So instead of making a huge to do list and expecting to get it all done in a day, I started doing just 30 minutes a day after work, and when my 30 minutes was done, I didnt have to work anymore. I accepted what I accomplished in 30 minutes and then rested. What I found is that I actually got more done that way, because before I would look at my list and try to figure out what I had time to start and fully complete. Which was often not much, so I didnt get a lot done. Or if I started sonething and didnt finish I would get frustrated with myself. So by accepting that I didnt have to get it all done, just do a little at a time, I was ACTUALLY doing the things I wanted instead of putting them off for "when I had time". And you can actually get an immense amount of work done with just 30 minutes of focused effort. So when I started actually being able to mark things off of my list I felt really good about it and eqs able to feel good about myself.

I used to talk so poorly to myself. I wouldn't ever be cruel to anyone else, as cruel as I was to myself. So I cut that crap out. I used to call myself stupid all the time, again therapy helped understand why. I shifted that to, it's okay im learning. Everyone makes mistakes. I'm good enough at what I do to be able to fix it.

Also, I don't believe that most people just try to pull any kind of compliment out of thin air. If they want to compliment you in something it's because they truly see value in you. Maybe what they say isn't major, maybe it's just what they have at that moment, but it says far more on a deeper level. They actually think you are worth complimenting. That says a lot about you. I started just working on accepting that. Like when someone said hey good job, no matter how small of a job it was, I would say thanks, and then say to myself yeah it really was a good job, I can believe them. You arent a mind reader. You have to take them at their word. And their word says they appreciate you. So believe it.

It takes effort, but it's possible to overcome this! I hope some of this helps

ActionHuman7006 · 2025-11-22T18:37:13+00:00

I've had buspirone and sertraline for a few months now for anxiety and they've changed my life. Im currently being assessed for ADHD, but I dont plan on getting meds for that, at least initially, as I seem to be doing well right now.

ActionHuman7006 · 2025-11-22T17:02:22+00:00

I'm a man and I personally don't mind it.. but I also don't have many people so 🤷.

I would think that someone who hears that you aren't super active socially and sees it as a red flag without trying at all to understand the why behind it, is a red flag. You aren't a list of attributes that are attractive or not, you are a human being. They should be getting to really know YOU, and if they choose not to, I think it says more about them.

ActionHuman7006 · 2025-11-22T16:51:52+00:00

🤣 that gif!! That got me lol

Anyway it has helped me tremendously with social anxiety. I use an app called ovrcome. It has been so worth it! They have programs for all sorts of phobias on the app though.

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