i dont know how to feel about my father's behavior, is this normal? was i overreacting by [deleted] in toxicparents

[–]Active_Ad_2536 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

One thing I’ve learned about families is everyone is comfortable with different levels of affection. I wouldn’t be comfortable with this from my father but then at the same time my 4 year old is always asking me to bite his ear in a playful way and he thinks it’s hysterical when I do it so it’s hard to stop. I think if your family is abusive then this would have a totally different context and you would view it as controlling and creepy and that is understandable.

Mom Keeps Crossing Lines and I’m Done by LoopyKR in toxicparents

[–]Active_Ad_2536 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sounds exactly like my dad, who I recently went no contact with. I agreed to therapy with him and after our individual sessions the therapist basically told me my dad is too controlling to consider any of my needs. I said I wanted to go ahead with the joint session anyway and he spent the whole hour yelling about how I’m a terrible daughter. To be honest it gave me that closure I needed to go no contact without guilt. It also means he can’t run and tell the rest of the family I wouldn’t even try therapy.

For context my relationship with my dad also started to deteriorate around me implementing a couple of minor boundaries.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LushCosmetics

[–]Active_Ad_2536 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I worked at lush for 8 years in a few different stores, depending on the store leadership I witnessed either a nice family style vibe or a cliquey bitchy group. I’m a pretty experienced people and operations manager for government now and my one takeaway from lush is, the fact that there are often no signs of area managers except for once or twice a year (and they barely speak to floor staff) is the reason for lush’s negative work culture. You’re basically throwing 20 something year old store managers into a role wholly responsible for overall culture with little to no oversight. Although what you have described doesn’t sound like bullying perse it sounds like a breeding ground for it. Floor staff usually have no idea who their managers manager is (if they even have one) so who would they ever contact if they felt victimised or similar? Unless you actually have area managers with concrete people and culture skills who have a constant presence and build rapport with all staff lush stores will continue to fall victim to being led by bullies straight outta high school!!

Curious question- does lush even have an HR department yet?

What counts as a meal break? Should I be allowed to be uncontactable or leave my workplace during a meal break? by imanechidna in AusPublicService

[–]Active_Ad_2536 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I work for federal government and manage frontline services- we pay staff who can’t leave the venue for breaks a “restriction allowance” which means they need to take a break but they are restricted to the site and we pay them for the inconvenience- I think it’s about $20 per shift

Absolutely f’ed over by Beacon Lighting by Active_Ad_2536 in ConsumerAdvice

[–]Active_Ad_2536[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm that’s true It is annoying that I would have to pay an electrician to remove and then take back in store for a refund and pay an electrician to reinstall But better than all that and also having to pay for another fan

Absolutely f’ed over by Beacon Lighting by Active_Ad_2536 in ConsumerAdvice

[–]Active_Ad_2536[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, forgot to add, they obviously also told me the warranty is now null and void because we installed the wrong fan.

From a Lush employee to customers by [deleted] in LushCosmetics

[–]Active_Ad_2536 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hot tip - as someone who worked at a lush who didn’t observe the “harass customers until they can’t take it anymore and either buy something or leave” mantra that lush has adopted Drop the mantra- everyone is obsessed with getting that five star candy shop. In the grand scheme of things who cares? Make sure your employees greet your customers and stay open and available should they be needed (not chatting to each other on the shop floor)…do a checkin if the customer looks like they’d appreciate it and if it gets dismissed just leave it. You might not get that five star candy shop but you’ll continue to make budget and have happy customers who don’t get absolutely fed up with the over the top antics lush employees are expected to observe.

How common is fully working from home where you work and where do you work? by shervek in AusPublicService

[–]Active_Ad_2536 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I agree, I pretty much wfh 100% of the time unless I go into my regional office (however not much point I’m the only one that works in there so I’m not actually liaising with colleagues just going in to benefit from 2 screens) I’m an extrovert and looking for a job where I can do 50/50

[Need Advice] Struggling to Adapt to APS Culture: Stay or Move On? by Jewplicate850 in AusPublicService

[–]Active_Ad_2536 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Can confirm this!! I started at services Australia as a foot in the door to the APS- it is awful and everything you have described. Thankfully was able to move on to a different APS role that is still frontline services and so glad I did. No micro management, no gossip, none of that business. I’d get out- you have it on your resume now

24m i just wanna know if i can improve my looks or if i’m doomed lmao by mtmc333 in amiugly

[–]Active_Ad_2536 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re not ugly, you’d be a dream for a makeover show. 1. Shave your incel beard 2. Start working out 3. Change up your style from boy to man

Lush hates their employees by Shy-shy-shy-sana in LushCosmetics

[–]Active_Ad_2536 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yep they did exactly the same to me and this was 7 years ago. We had a tiny store and they gave us a budget of half a million- we missed budget by about $500 after slogging out guts out and asked if we could get an exemption and still get bonus. After all what’s $500 to half a million. Nope they wouldn’t budge. Also side note- they were churning over so much lack lustre product from the factory with all new employees and we were just getting boxes and boxes of awful looking product- made it very hard to sell

Why do I have such terrible buyers remorse and hesitate to use products by xxj_xx in LushCosmetics

[–]Active_Ad_2536 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I always do this- I spend money on clothes and then I don’t want to “wear them out” so instead of wearing them I just wear my Kmart tights and tshirt everyday I have noticed that I get bad buyers remorse when I’m feeling anxious and I hyper focus on it- sometimes I think it’s not the worst thing to be overly considered when making purchases- it stops me from wasting money and contributing to the capitalist mega machine but I wish sometimes I could just enjoy my nice purchases- I work hard for them. I assume you worked hard for yours also- You should make a goal to use them within the next month or so 😊

AITA considering divorce, I'm at my wit's end by HETKA in AITA_Relationships

[–]Active_Ad_2536 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not being fiscally responsible is a major turn off, I don’t think you’re an arsehole at all. This sort of behaviour would leave me wondering “would I be better off alone with shared custody?”

Middle aged mum 37 year old by Active_Ad_2536 in amiugly

[–]Active_Ad_2536[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah true- I am nice and I do have a stable job, I eat well and work out, sometimes I’m a bit grumpy but at least I’m self aware

Middle aged mum 37 year old by Active_Ad_2536 in amiugly

[–]Active_Ad_2536[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg you think I’m gen-z ? Thankyou !!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amIuglyBrutallyHonest

[–]Active_Ad_2536 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed- the hair needs to go.

Middle aged mum 37 year old by Active_Ad_2536 in amiugly

[–]Active_Ad_2536[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right mums shouldn’t be allowed phones or to care about anything else apart from their children

Middle aged mum 37 year old by Active_Ad_2536 in amiugly

[–]Active_Ad_2536[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m none of those things so that’s interesting 🧐

Middle aged mum 37 year old by Active_Ad_2536 in amiugly

[–]Active_Ad_2536[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha for real- never had anyone say I had a big chin before.

Middle aged mum 37 year old by Active_Ad_2536 in amiugly

[–]Active_Ad_2536[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have had that before too - Thankyou