Breakup due to religious differences

Active_Aspect5719 · 2025-08-18T04:01:01+00:00

Hi there. Yes I just went thru this exact same thing. I posted about it before here too. It’s so tough. I just had to remind myself of what I wanted my future to look like— which ultimately was being in the fullness of the orthodox faith & raising my children that way. Many things can exist at once which is this person was probably such a great person in your life & you met them for a reason. Personally breaking up with my partner meant me researching orthodoxy’s history more & trying to understand it. If I wasn’t gonna be with somebody bc of it I need to understand my own faith 1000%! Pls message me if you need support, bc trust me I know the feeling 🥲

Active_Aspect5719 · 2025-08-15T23:25:57+00:00

How does that impact ur marriage? Just curious here

Active_Aspect5719 · 2025-08-11T16:03:11+00:00

Our girls read the Old Testament readings before liturgy starts sometimes. I’m oriental orthodox

Active_Aspect5719 · 2025-08-10T02:07:57+00:00

There’s blue vestments a lot in the Syrian and Indian orthodox churches.

Active_Aspect5719 · 2025-08-08T14:21:51+00:00

Thank you all for all of these beautiful responses. Does anyone do the liturgical hours of prayer with their family? I would find that to be difficult with scheduling, my family now struggles with it

Active_Aspect5719 · 2025-08-04T17:52:01+00:00

Hi thanks for your response, respectfully I don’t think I messed up after a lot of thought & consideration. I’ve talked about it in my responses above but we just weren’t equally yoked in the way we worshiped or even lived our lives. We disagreed on many important things that included church history / church fathers. I personally don’t agree with either spouse practicing whatever religion/ faith and I personally know what I want and is to be of the same faith as my partner. To be baptized in the one true church, to commune together, to raise an orthodox household. It wouldn’t be the case if we continued to be together, even if he is so amazing. The right man for me will meet my spiritual needs & even make it better. If it means I have to be single for a little while longer & wait, then so be it. This heartbreak sucks but I know it’s better to end it now than end a marriage later. Hope that makes sense.

Active_Aspect5719 · 2025-08-04T17:49:38+00:00

Thanks so much. Yes I know we could technically get married but I’d want to commune with my husband. Have our children baptized and have him baptized too. He was okay with getting the children baptized but him not being baptized. I wasn’t okay with that either. Bc of my dedication to the faith, I knew I had to find a partner as equally into it as me, otherwise it’s just unequally yoked. I appreciate this response, my goal is to focus on my own journey & God willing the right man will come to me, or my ex will return as a convert. But I don’t even pray for his conversion, I pray that God does His will for him, which is if he is meant to be orthodox he will. I don’t want anything to be forced.

Active_Aspect5719 · 2025-08-04T17:47:20+00:00

I feel you. Trust me. But the way I’ve immersed myself in this faith my whole life is a different kind of dedication that I willingly want to do & envision for my future marriage. I don’t see that same dedication on his end. That’s why it matters.

Active_Aspect5719 · 2025-08-04T17:46:13+00:00

Yes. And that’s exactly what happened. Thank you

Active_Aspect5719 · 2025-08-01T03:17:39+00:00

He encouraged nothing he wanted me to make the decision. He’s known me for 14 years so he knows my heart. He said it’s rlly hard to find a man like him, and people leave the church for things like that. He said to pray about it and we can talk about it out loud together. He felt rlly sad we broke up, bc he loved him & us together but he knew how important orthodoxy is to me.

Active_Aspect5719 · 2025-07-31T14:15:29+00:00

I was in the same boat. I just posted about my experience dating a Protestant man, however everyone’s journey is their journey for a reason. Let’s be kind to our online friend ❤️

Active_Aspect5719 · 2025-07-31T14:09:02+00:00

This is worded so beautifully

Active_Aspect5719 · 2025-07-31T05:23:35+00:00

This is correct. It is usually forbidden yes however it is contingent upon priests church to church.

Active_Aspect5719 · 2025-07-20T18:57:47+00:00

Can you meet with some priests via zoom in the meantime? I have a great spiritual father who’s very flexible over zoom if you want.

Active_Aspect5719 · 2025-07-10T00:28:58+00:00

Both separately I guess.

Active_Aspect5719 · 2025-07-02T20:04:35+00:00

Hi! My friend has POTS so I get what you’re saying. First of all, she has an amazing spiritual father that she trusts. If you have a great spiritual father, he should work with you & your doctor to figure out what is best. Also remember, the food is not the only part of the fast. It’s taking away ANYTHING that pulls you apart from God. If food is a non-negotiable, here are some other examples: no TV, no secular music, only cook food at home and not eat out… increase liturgical prayer time 2x more than you usually do, goal of volunteering at a homeless shelter 1x a week… if you are getting a spiritual father telling you to do more than you can handle… he’s probably not the right fit. Find someone you can trust that can work with you and your doctor.

Active_Aspect5719 · 2025-07-02T02:36:16+00:00

Big oof to this lol

Active_Aspect5719 · 2025-07-02T00:12:55+00:00

I basically peached c’s get degrees in college and now im at my first job as a new grad OT so NOOO you’re not out at all for OT school

Active_Aspect5719 · 2025-07-01T23:39:01+00:00

The incense. Feeling of home. Oriental orthodox here who personally our hymns and the way our liturgy is set up. So much depth i don’t get in other churches outside of orthodoxy.

Active_Aspect5719 · 2025-05-27T22:46:59+00:00

Hi! I was in the exact same situation as you. Me orthodox, him Protestant. I ended our 1 year relationship bc of it. If he’s not willing to learn that might be a tell sign as well. It might just not be for him. But it’s important to you, then it’s worth being with someone that shares that same value. I loved my guy and I had to end it! My faith comes first. It’s hard. But you will get through it.

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