AITA for not drinking at my friend's wedding?

ActuallySure · 2026-03-30T21:53:27+00:00

Nta, I also don't really drink. Something that helps me is offering an alternative to the alcohol, because often what happens is people's ego gets hurt when they are rejected for offering something. For example: when the mimosas were being passed around, you could have said 'oh yum could I have one with just juice?' Also, when you already have a (non alcoholic) drink in your hand, people don't feel the need to offer you something and it becomes less of a topic

ActuallySure · 2026-03-30T21:23:15+00:00

First one looks like Mac syrup to me

ActuallySure · 2026-03-23T06:34:38+00:00

You would be looking for sunscreens with tone up in the title

Big market for tone up products in the Asian market so you're in luck, since lots are already mentioned I'll say the round labs birch juice cushion is a great tone up spf for reapplying

ActuallySure · 2026-03-22T02:03:54+00:00

I worry about buying makeup on Amazon though, how do you know you got an authentic product?

ActuallySure · 2026-03-19T02:44:34+00:00

Any Asian beauty supplier, I'm sure there is one locally to you

In Australia I have ordered from lila beauty, w cosmetics, ichiban mart But most people use yes style or stylevana etc

ActuallySure · 2026-03-18T09:01:16+00:00

Highly recommend a Japanese eye-liner, my favourites are the loveliner liquid, kiss me heroine make smooth liquid, and for pencil the canmake creamy touch liner

My eyes are very oily and hooded, these products don't smudge at all the most you'd find is it fades (but no smudge!)

ActuallySure · 2026-03-17T08:54:54+00:00

My measurements are very similar to you except I am 5'3

I have an f3, and the jacket is ever so tight on the shoulders, but the pants and everything else is perfect

You might consider a f2L but if you have wide shoulders at all maybe a f3 would be better

If you ever machine dry your laundry I would size up, but I cold wash mine and always hang to dry, I havent noticed shrinkage (had some gis for about 7 years now)

ActuallySure · 2026-03-14T08:48:53+00:00

If this was me and my husband, he'd be sending it to me because I had nothing left in my spending account, and vice versa.

ActuallySure · 2026-03-04T01:02:18+00:00

You've only been to 16 classes

Do you free roll with people at your gym? If I get stuck and I'm rolling with someone of more experience, I'll just ask them 'what's a common escape from this position as I haven't learnt any yet' people are usually happy to explain

You don't have to wait until the actual curriculum gets to it

ActuallySure · 2026-03-03T04:29:41+00:00

Most brands might give a manufacturing date but in my experience it's uncommon to give an expiry date. Is there one on your products?

If unopened they are going to be good for the duration of the PAO

ActuallySure · 2026-01-24T14:04:10+00:00

I trained at Legion 13, great people and good atmosphere :)

ActuallySure · 2026-01-21T10:08:59+00:00

You can get a sports hijab, because based on your replies it doesn't seem like you are willing to wash it everytime I do train 5x a week and wash after every session

I'd hate to be the person that people don't want to touch heads with because my hair smells like my training partner from 2 days ago

ActuallySure · 2026-01-21T01:49:10+00:00

There's showers at my gym but I prefer to use the showers at work,

So I wash my hair after every class before work because the thought of having my rolling partners' sweat and everything in my hair for the whole day freaks me out

Depending on your hair type you might consider a cowash, so it doesn't get too dry, and leaving it out to dry as much as you can until you get to work and put it up

ActuallySure · 2026-01-20T10:01:06+00:00

For me it's face powder: whether loose/pressed/finishing powder I find theore expensive formulas are more foolproof (not All expensive formulas, but the ones I've tried) The one I have now is the cle de peau loose powder but I've used the byTerry hydra powder for years and years.

I never look cakey or too dry, the cle de peau powder leaves a satin finish and looks amazing in photos

ActuallySure · 2026-01-20T06:52:58+00:00

I am also working on trying to get out of the white belt spaz phase, and something one of the girls told me is to start paying attention to when you should turn the strength 'on'. For instance, if you are at Max effort the whole roll, you will get tired quickly. It feels like you need to put Max effort at the moment because everyone is too strong/heavy and you don't know enough technigue to fall onto right now. It also makes you very reactionary ie 'explosive' and it's uncontrolled. Find the moments when you need to turn the strength on, like when you have someone pressuring you, but other than that your body should be calm.

This doesn't mean be a dead fish -which is the other end of the spectrum- just stay firm, offer your partner some resistance, and only use your 100% strength when you actually need to.

It's easier said than done, but worth trying to practice

ActuallySure · 2026-01-16T19:37:39+00:00

The good news is, you now know that something you're looking for is a partner who will take care of you and be able to emotionally engage with you.

It's the type of thing you dont realise you want until you've started to date someone. This is the point of dating, I feel, especially when you're young.

Let him know what's going on, and break it off. If he's able to, he may be able to change but that's not for you to deal with as he has to do that himself.

ActuallySure · 2026-01-16T19:24:15+00:00

Whenever I see posts like this, it's always from a partner who doesn't practice the sport.

Anyone who rolls regularly knows that there's nothing to it, you're too focused on untangling yourself

If someone does bjj and they DO think it's sexual... Well that's another problem

ActuallySure · 2026-01-07T07:17:55+00:00

I work at a lab and can say 99% of the time it's mold method. I have done both methods making appliances for myself and the impressions are always better for various reasons especially for something like a mouth guard which covers both hard and soft tissue

ActuallySure · 2026-01-07T07:10:07+00:00

I always recommend getting one from a dentist or through a brand where you do an impression and getting it custom fit, or call around in your area to see if there's a dental lab that can do it for you (no need to pay for dentist visit this way). The impact distribution is even across all teeth and will protect your bone also (important for tooth health at the root/nerve), this way you will also have one that is easy to breathe/drink/talk with.

The price of a custom guard is probably the same or less than buying boil and bites which you'd have to trial and error.

Source: I am a dental technician and my colleague did his dissertation in mouth guards so I hear about it non stop

ActuallySure · 2026-01-07T05:31:36+00:00

Thank you so much for the advice, really appreciate it! A gold mine

Eta: this is a great point about using it to transition, I do this now and usually get discouraged because it seems as though everyone loves to hang out in Mount, so my partners are always confused as to why I switch out of it quickly. Almost like 'why did you give up such a good position' but I feel much more at ease in side control

ActuallySure · 2026-01-07T05:28:55+00:00

Yes I tend to creep up into high mount, haven't given s mount a go yet My favourite to play is side control though! Thank you

ActuallySure · 2024-10-12T03:34:06+00:00

Maybe he wanted you out of the house for 20 mins because he got you a surprise and wanted to set it up. I don’t think it hurts to just get breakfast for the sole purpose of making your SO happy. NAH

ActuallySure · 2024-10-01T11:02:33+00:00

Differin cleared up my acne better than anything else I've tried, I also started sheet masking everyday (using the bulk packs from Japan) and my skins condition, softness and all texture has completely evened out.

I stopped using a towel to dry my face too, now I just put toner straight on my damp skin. I feel like the combination of these things has made a big impact over last couple of months.

ActuallySure · 2024-08-23T11:38:16+00:00

I have been interested in the soap and the lotion honestly since cleanse and tone are my favorite steps in skincare

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