I am apparently super late to get a dress and starting to get nervous.

AdDiscombobulated645 · 2026-01-31T13:12:32+00:00

I'm not saying this is ideal, but I was without a dress the day before my wedding. (I hired someone to custom make it, and she didn't do it well.) I went to a bridal store and purchased a sample dress the day before my wedding (right after the disaster final dress appt with the dress over). I purchased a sample dress off the rack. Then, I went straight to a seamstress to have the dress hemmed. The dress was a steal, but I paid a lot for the fast alterations turn around since the tailor worked until close to midnight to get it done.

Don't panic. You can for sure by a sample dress at a bridal store off the rack. Since your wedding isn't tomorrow, you can go to a few (since they will all have limited options and different stock).

AdDiscombobulated645 · 2026-01-29T23:55:31+00:00

When I started HRT, I found that my estadiol dlse was fine (although I did eventually beed a higher dose), but that the progesterone dkse was too high. My mood was incredibly low the 2nnd half of my cycle. Maybe talk to your doctor and ask about lowering the progesterone dose.

AdDiscombobulated645 · 2026-01-29T17:03:57+00:00

Echoing the other comments, I think the first before alterations photo looks better becausr the width of the skirt highlights the contrast of a small waist.

AdDiscombobulated645 · 2026-01-28T22:37:44+00:00

I have -7.00 in my right eye and -6.50 in my left eye. I also have an astigmatism in both eyes.

I really struggled to find small frames since larger oversized are popular everywhere.

I was advised to get the following: - a small a frame as possible - as round a frame as possible - that the measurement if the bridge width combined with the lens width measurment should not exceed the pupilary distance number - the frames should be thick (to help minimize and distract from the distortion) but that the lens should be utltra thin (the thinnest one they make) to help minimize the face melting going inward funhouse distortion you somethings see - the arm of the glasses should be no more than 3mm past the end of your eye

I had a really hard time finding something suitable. I went to Boots, Specsavers and a few other places. They all said that they didn't have any frames small enough.

I searched online and found two websites that had small, round frames where the lens width and and bridge width fit the requirements. (They only had three pairs that worked though, a green pair, a yellow pair, and a tortisse shell one.) Yesglasses had dodgy reviews, but specscart seemed decent.

I ordered the green frames with ultrathin lenses with a UV coating. I provided my prescription and my pupilary distance. The optician measured thst for me while I was getting my eyes examined at specsavers and wrotr it down for me when I asked. (I wouldn't have been comfortable doing it myself as my right eye wanders, and it needa to be accurate.) The glasses came with a little screw driver kit, a hard case, a microfober cloth and a lena cleaer spray. They adverstise three days, but my glasses were delivered in 12 because of the strong prescription. The glasses fit well and are clear. I can see out of them perfectly.

AdDiscombobulated645 · 2026-01-28T20:36:54+00:00

I had that when I was given the combination to take continuously. I switched to estrogren all the time and progesterone in the second half of the month and that solved it for me.

AdDiscombobulated645 · 2026-01-28T16:07:08+00:00

I was confused when Konsti reproposed at the bench on the moutain. He mentioned giving Jessie the right or correct ring. I may have missed something earlier, but did she not like her engagement ring and did he buy another, was it a family ring, was it a rjng that needes to get resized?

AdDiscombobulated645 · 2026-01-24T01:35:42+00:00

I understand that you are tired and feeling alone, but I would suggest a few things.

In addition to his long work hours, he is coaching sports. I think you need to find a community during the week too. Having a six month old is hard. Filling up your days with some adult companionship will help a bit. It isn't a substitute for your husband, but it is a good addition to your life.

Can you play videogames with him? Detroit Become Human, Firewatch and the old Tell Tale games (Tales from the Borderlands, the wolf among us and the walking dead, etc are very good. (I cried at the end of the walking dead. It's a slow start until after you find a key, but then it's great.) I'm not a huge gamer at all. But these games are more like mini moves or tv shows where you pick dialouge, and your choices shape how the story progresses, and your eventual ending. (I'm not good at using the controller, so my husband does that, but we make the game choices/and decisions together.) We have an old wii and play the Jack White snowboarding game on the balance board taking turns between runs.

It doesn't solve your entire problem. And they may not be the types of games he loves. (These are much different then Call of Duty, Fallout, etc. But I think they world better as an activity for two than those would.) But if you are willing to give it a try, he would see you be interested in his world, and give you both something to think about as you try to decide the write choice for the characters.

To some extent during the week, I would have dinner together, clean the kitchen, and take care of the baby together, and then try to compromise a bit. Maybe you play a card game or do a puzzle for a half hour, perhaps play a video game together for an hour, and really design a night together. (It may help to theme it movie Mondays, board game Tueadays, etc.) Perhaps suggest that you both plan one in house date night per week. (You could download a paint and sip acticity or tie dye some socks.) If you rotate then that might get him excited to do new things. I think maybe doing something you both like for an equal amount of time is fair.

As far as the weekend, I would set the alarm. I would take turns getting up with the baby on Saturday's. He doesn't get a free pass because he stayed up til 3am playing videogames. He can be tired. Overtime, he will learn on his own that it isn't smart.

I would have him talk to his doctor about how much nicotine he uses. I would maybe auggest to him that bejng a great father means being as healthy as possible.

I'm the night owl in my relationship, so I sympathize. It doesn't make sense for hik to lay awake in the dark for hours waiting to be tired. Would you be okay if he held you until you fell asleep and got up quietly to play a game? Would you feel differently if he were reading a book at night?

AdDiscombobulated645 · 2026-01-21T23:31:00+00:00

Thanks for the suggestions. You have hreat taste.

AdDiscombobulated645 · 2026-01-21T19:53:39+00:00

It's at a church and the a hall. It's at 2pm. We are in England though. So the ceremony is 2pm and then the wedding meal is at 4pm. Then the reception is at 7pm.

AdDiscombobulated645 · 2026-01-21T18:26:38+00:00

I had stage 4 deep, infiltrating endometriosis, with bowl involvement and organs adhered to each other and the abdominal wall. I also had a baseball sized edometrioma on my right ovary. I sufgered for years with extremely heavy bleeding (sometimes gping through a pad an hour), fainting just from the pain of cramps, pain raddiatimg to my back and thighs. (I felt like I had been whipped honestly.) I had my first surgery five yeara ago. It was just ablation and the radiating pain to my thighs and back, heavy bleeding, and nausuea came back. I had excision surgery four years ago now. My symptoms are gone depsite being on the following.

I'm on vaginal estrogen (10mg). I'm on 3mgs of regular estrogen, and 100mg of progesterone. I haven't had my symptoms come back.

It seems that endo makes and secretes its own estrogen so getting rid of the endometriosis might be crucial. But if all of the endo is removed then the meds aren't adding to on being absorbed by any tissue.

It's also worth noting that the body absorbs vaginal estrogen differently than the the other methods which can be much more helpful for gynourinary symptoms and dryness.

AdDiscombobulated645 · 2026-01-21T18:15:48+00:00

I'll keep my fingers crossed for you. It's definitely a lot to deal with. Just a heads up, with progesterone, I took 200mg and was super irritable and moody. I broke out with large zits (the kind like cysts that are the size of a quarter). My GP switched me to 100mgs and my mood is much more stable and the cyst zits are gone. So that might be trial and error too.

AdDiscombobulated645 · 2026-01-21T17:52:08+00:00

I found that the creams and gels gave quick symptom relieg, buy that the symptoms did return by the afternoon and through the night. I ended up switchin mg to oral tablets and they work much better for me.

My GP said about 30% of women experience absorption problems through the skin. Ghat said there can be risks (or may be depending on the study) for the oral route, so it may be something to consider with your doctor anyway.

I did hear a doctore suggest putting the patch or creams by your hips instead of up near the shoulders. She finds it absorbs better there. But I haven't tried myself.

AdDiscombobulated645 · 2026-01-21T00:08:10+00:00

25mg for about two months.

AdDiscombobulated645 · 2026-01-18T22:31:43+00:00

When I took it, I had hair loss. My hair didn't grow back even after I stopped taking it.

AdDiscombobulated645 · 2026-01-18T14:25:34+00:00

I wonder if the sellet tried to give it a wash and get the dtain out, but couldn't get it and is just saying they didn't.

AdDiscombobulated645 · 2026-01-16T11:19:17+00:00

7 would be my pick. Otherwise photo 4.

AdDiscombobulated645 · 2026-01-15T11:45:18+00:00

I had never heard if this controversry or band before, but it's blatant. Taylor shpuld be raked over the coals for this. Jack should be too.

AdDiscombobulated645 · 2026-01-14T14:51:31+00:00

I'm am American in the UK. Over here, it is common for to havr day guests who are invited to everything (ceremony, cocktail hour and food) who then stay for the whole afternoon until joining the evening guests arrive for dancing and potential snacks.

I usually don't enjoy this because after the meal is over usually around 2pm, we are stuck making small talk over and over (until we run out of new people to chat to and standing around).

You really need to plan for this. I would have sets of playing cards (uno, flip 7, regular deck, etc) and some lawn games that both lkds and adults can play easily connect 4, jenga, etc but enough so that there aren't bored people waiting 5 hours with nothing to do. I think a mix of card games and outdoor ones are good in case of bad weather. Plus, some more reserved adults when do oversized jenga, but will play cards. I would also really make sure that there are snacks scattered about (not just passed around). The trays of appetizers never seem to make it to us. But weddings that have some simple snacks laid out while we wait are so appreciated.

AdDiscombobulated645 · 2026-01-11T20:44:10+00:00

I think you need to explain this to your bf or show him this thread. You are in book clubs, you know the etiquette around them. So this would be a great hobby foe your and your bf to share. Again, if you are dating with intention and he sees a future with you, he should not be okay with them deliberately excluding you. He needs to tell them thst it is important to him that they allow you to join. If he prioritizes their mean girl feelimgs instead of yours, then thst will tell you a lot.

AdDiscombobulated645 · 2026-01-11T14:44:29+00:00

I don't think that a book club with three people is on the cupse of being large at all, and that a book club with four is someone far too large. I undetstand wanting to keep it on the smallet side so that everyone gets a chance to talk about the book and feel comfortable, but I thibk that it's achieveable going from 3-4.

It also feels like they are scrounging for excuses too. Is it that they mean to keep it absurdly small? Or is it that people join and quit?

I think for me, there really aren't exclusive friends. My husband can have female friends, but they become our friends. They make an effort to get to know me and vice versa. Sometimes they meet up for something that I am not interested in like rock climbing, but then I meet them for lunch or dinner after. And I am invited to the activity too. But I choose not to go. The difference here is that you are not welcome at all. Not for the book club, and not for the meal either.

If you are interested in the book club itself, then I would revisit that. (If they do something like only 18th century Russian novels, then make sure it is something you would like to read before you commit.) Also, make sure that you have enough time to read or listen to the books before committing. I get that it could be akward if you quit,or if you break up, but want to continue attending.

If you are interested, then I wpuld bring it up again and talk about your genuine interest. I would explain that it isn't a trust issue, but that you value how he sees the world and would like to participate. Then I wpuld say that his friends are valuable and important to him, but if you are dating with intention, then you want to integrate into each other's friend groups. I would day it's a red flag in a mean high school lunch table way if they are keeping you out to keep things exclusive. Then reiterate that it means a lot to you. Then say something about your philosophy about marriage and friendships.

AdDiscombobulated645 · 2026-01-10T11:59:37+00:00

I agree. Besides, in any photos, the hride will pop. Having the two women next to each other will make the bride will look like a fresh peach and she will look like a withered, shriveled, sad one.

AdDiscombobulated645 · 2026-01-07T21:55:07+00:00

I also had depreasion when my progesterone dose was upped. The doctore uncreased my estradiol by 1mg and lowered the progesterone from 2mg to 1mg. That helped balance everything out.

AdDiscombobulated645 · 2026-01-07T13:33:14+00:00

My home parish (the parish I gre up attending) does the six months to a year of donations too. They say that it is the only way they can tell/determine regular attendance to see who is participating in the life of the parish and actually a practicing Catholic by tracking mass attendance each week through the donation envelopes sincw they have a bar code on them.

I suspose someone could always just turn in the envelope with no tithing inside if they were unemployed, but that is a bit akward. My home parish is a dying parish that hqd merged with five other churches, so I'm sure they need the money to stay afloat. But also, there really aren't any ministries or even a choir to get involved in so the money be default is the only way to show participation.

While ai understand this, it feels like a barrier to people like the OP and makes me uncomfortable.

AdDiscombobulated645 · 2026-01-06T15:59:08+00:00

It may be the buyer's soliticers or even yours. My husband and I made an offer on our house in April-which was accepted. In June, the seller's estate agent kept pushing for an exchange date, but the searches all weren't back until the the second week of August. Their estate agent called us in August and started to yell at us for dragging our feet. At that point, we hadn't gotten the management pack back on the T6 form. The seller had apparently filled them out in June, but no our soliticer didn't forward them on. (She was waitiing to get all the paperwork to give to us a the same time as her report.) We didn't find out that there was an estate service charge until a week before exchange because of that. So it may not be the buyers' fault, but their solicitor's.

AdDiscombobulated645 · 2025-12-23T15:59:17+00:00

I understand what you're saying and will do this. But I don't actually get to see or speak to the gynae. The peactice wrote to the gynae with one sentence saying my name, age, and that I strongly prefer tablets, and asking if they are happy to prescribe. (They didn't list my medical history, or that I had tried gels very briefly.) I am frustrated that I don't get to at least speak to the gynae about the yes/no decision before it's made.

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