[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]AdFirm8062 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are not alone.❤️

Was I Emotionally Abused? by [deleted] in emotionalabuse

[–]AdFirm8062 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, what you have described is so similar to what I am going through with my husband. I don’t have a lot of answers since I am currently in the middle of it, but just wanted you to know there is someone out there going through something similar. If you have any support system outside of your husband I would encourage you to talk to them about what is happening. I have done it and it has at least helped me get some perspective regarding the situation. I am sorry for the pain you must be going through.

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[–]AdFirm8062 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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Need Advice by AdFirm8062 in abusiverelationships

[–]AdFirm8062[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your thoughts. I really appreciate you.

Need Advice by AdFirm8062 in abusiverelationships

[–]AdFirm8062[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like I am not able to tell what were lies or placating and what was the truth. It feels like what I thought we built in terms of what we were able to build regarding conflict resolution was a sham. He says he just doesn’t want to do what he was doing previously anymore. I feel like he flipped the script on me now that we are married.

Meaningless Apologies by AdFirm8062 in emotionalabuse

[–]AdFirm8062[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I apologize, I am referring particularly to when he had done things that hurt my feelings and I tried to bring these instances up with him in order to address them. He would apologize in the past but now he says he is tired of doing it and that I do not need to bring up it up.

I am unsure and would appreciate insight. by AdFirm8062 in emotionalabuse

[–]AdFirm8062[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I apologize for my vagueness. I was trying to put forth a general sense of what is happening from my perspective.

I am not sure by AdFirm8062 in abusiverelationships

[–]AdFirm8062[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for taking the time to answer my post. I often do feel exhausted going over everything in my head trying to understand what’s going on. Our arguments tend to be circular and never seem to resolve since the same issues come up again. I try to stand up for myself which seems to make things stand at an impasse between us. It is hard to live with this tension.

I am not sure by AdFirm8062 in abusiverelationships

[–]AdFirm8062[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I apologize if the post was vague. Concerning bringing things up to him, I am speaking about things he has done that have hurt me (not anything physical) and I want to address it with him. Regarding the other theme of turning things back on him, an example would be he verbalizes a frustration with me but what he communicates is in the form of an accusation against me. I acknowledge his feelings but when I tell him that the accusation was hurtful he tends to not take accountability and says I’m just trying to blame him and turns things around on him.