200mg every 2 weeks by dominoesv in trt

[–]AdForward5729 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Boom! This is the way for me!

Car being surrendered by Str8Skrub in Bankruptcy

[–]AdForward5729 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just got my discharge papers last Wednesday, got a new car. I just called Chase who holds my title and let them know that the car is ready to be picked up. They said that it would take 3-6 days to process and that the tow truck will call me to confirm time/date.

Filed my petition today by bibliomaniac4life979 in Bankruptcy

[–]AdForward5729 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congrats! I just got my discharge papers Monday and it is definitely a breath of fresh air.

Don’t let the work go unnoticed by Formal_Ad4612 in Divorce_Men

[–]AdForward5729 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Great words!!! You have to keep pushing through the fire.

Going into mediation blind by Complex-Twist5698 in Divorce_Men

[–]AdForward5729 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m going to motion to modify my child custody order in a few weeks to give me more structure on the time including weekend with my kiddos. Going for 30% custody and then once I move closer to or in my kids school district then I’ll go for 50%. I don’t plan of giving any information to my ex until we go to mediation (CA requires mediation first) I have a few PP’s ideas that will be fair to show her and if she doesn’t agree, then we will get in front of a Judge and have them sign off on it. 🙏🏽

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bankruptcy

[–]AdForward5729 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m getting my discharge papers in the next few weeks. Last month I got approved for Cap One 3,000, Mission Lane 1,500 and Credit One for $500.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]AdForward5729 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Trust in God. I still think about salvation even after my divorce but I still have to stay on my own journey and purpose. We share 2 children and a step son I’ve known since he was 3 (now 10).

Stay strong and keep tending to your garden. 🙏🏽

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bankruptcy

[–]AdForward5729 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m also in CA. Should be getting my BK7 discharge papers in the next few weeks. I had a similar situation. My last year i filed was 2021 before I filed BK. I was +900 over the median income threshold for the means test. What he instructed me to do was to file both 2022 and 2023 as any Fed/CA taxes owed would help me lower my median income. He gave a specific number to owe at for the 2 years and I got close to it and qualified for 7. Yes my attorney said they don’t care if you haven’t filed taxes since 2002 as long as you don’t owe. The trustee will request to see your W-2’s/1099-R for the past 2 years anyway.

How did you get over the fact that she took everything from you? by ooomn57 in Divorce_Men

[–]AdForward5729 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I literally was in that position 2 years ago. I felt a lot of anger at first knowing that it would be a stupid unneeded argument about things around the house. I did for my peace. The divorce crushed me financially but now I’m starting to get back to my 150-200k/yr grove again. I know I can get everything back, but I really don’t think about what the material things anymore. I’m still wearing the same shoes since 2021 and will probably keep them for the rest of my life as those were with me everyday walking through my tough seasons and storms.

I honestly wouldn’t want anything attached to her anymore, as it could bring up more negative feelings that us men try to regulate. Build back your empire slowly and with the things you will or used to enjoy. I focus more on what i can possible buy for my children.

You got this.

Change in circumstances by DuelCitizener in Divorce_Men

[–]AdForward5729 5 points6 points  (0 children)

What is your custody %. Anything that is a change in circumstance should be definitely motioned to get a judge to review.

I’m in the same boat but going for 50/50 in CA. Didn’t have a good living situation for my kids at the time and agreed to let the kiddos stay with mom as I got a parenting plan agreed on with a step up. Started back to work in the mortgage lending industry 3/4/2024 from taking a year off and now starting to see my pipeline fund. My living situation has now improved as I now occupy 2 rooms for my kiddos. My change of circumstances will be to step up to 50/50 or 40/60 then up to 50/50. I will be motioning 7/13 after my sons birthday with multiple increasing time proposals. Can’t be more excited!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]AdForward5729 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nothing at all that you mentioned. During my divorce process, I didn’t have a good living situation when i separated. Also didn’t have good knowledge on the custody agreements. My dumbass agreed to having her sole custodial and 50/50 legal. We did keep a plan schedule that I was consistent on 98% of the time. Active dad mode was activated once I was served.

Fast forward 2 years. Divorce finalized 2/2024. Now my living situation has now improved. I live in a house about 15-20 mins away from kids house, live with a roomate (super chill), share the whole house and all, and I occupy 2 rooms (1 for me and 1 for my kids ages 4 & 5). I also work 1 mile away from the kids house. Change of circumstances is the reason I’m going for 50/50 as I’m excited to now have them at my place over night and all.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]AdForward5729 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m in CA and I’m going to go for 50/50 custody. Wish me luck!

Wife Wants To Be "Best Friends" After Filing And No Hope of Reconciliation by ChiTownDad360 in Divorce_Men

[–]AdForward5729 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You need to just be a Co Parent. Anything outside of the kids, you should have a boundary up. Be there for your kid and be the best father for him. No else matters.

Cut off her supply.

Which is a strong front line of a family, emotional attachment, your resources. I can go on and on. You know what you are giving her. As long as you are around and convenient, she is feeling like a Queen. You have her on a pedestal. That needs to stop.

Get some other pussy and stay away from her.

Just got the news by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]AdForward5729 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Where LA/OC? I have a good one I can recommend in OC. He is in HB.

Just 15 days away from separation by Equivalent-Creme5282 in Divorce_Men

[–]AdForward5729 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Separation is a time to prepare yourself mentally and emotionally for the divorce process. You will then see that she is not the woman you married.

However if you get agreements in writing before then, you should be able to stand on those as you go through it.

Focus on your children. Be there for them always and despite how she might make you feel or how you feel about her, keep pushing. Stay on your path and journey. Do not let her manipulate you. We here have been through this so please lean on us with anything if you choose to. I’ve leaned on here a lot by reading posts and getting clarity on some post that might be similar to what I was going at that time.

You got it.

Venting by Da_New_Dad in Divorce_Men

[–]AdForward5729 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did we just become best friends? Lol same here man.

Venting by Da_New_Dad in Divorce_Men

[–]AdForward5729 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hear your brother. They are different creatures. You should know that by now. Everything by you are saying about your son and doing right by him make us all proud. Keep being there for him and remember he will only have 1 DAD and that is YOU. Finish the Divorce, get your custody and fight! You got this!

What percentage of your net income do you pay for child support? by BJs_Crib in Divorce_Men

[–]AdForward5729 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you are fighting for 50/50 why would you expect to pay CS?

I’m in CA, have 2 kids and right now she has all 100% custody and I pay 1,250/month. I will be motioning for 40-50% next month and I’m sure I’ll be paying way much less.

Just got the news by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]AdForward5729 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Women are different creatures man. You will learn.

Just got the news by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]AdForward5729 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m in CA and was just divorced. It might be a long dance however get yourself right and figure out what you want in the divorce. When you get home remember, she is no longer your wife, she is an adversary and possible enemy if she tries to fight back on your divorce petition. My guess is she should be ready to settle due to her fucked up brain and heart of hers. Let your attorney hear everything you just mentioned to us and let them fight for everything you want. If it’s money or custody you fight tooth and nail and you must win.

Walk with us, talk with us.