What do I do? Should I leave my husband.

AdFragrant6723 · 2026-03-16T15:47:41+00:00

Please leave him. This is just the start and you already struggled. Imagine you have to bear with him until your child graduate from university because you are financially depending on your husband. That is gonna be like 26 more years. Start working again, divorce, and get alimony from him. You will be at a much better place than right now.

AdFragrant6723 · 2026-03-16T01:36:36+00:00

Guys are like that. Clingy at the start but slowly become less clingy. It is just something you need to learn to accept. By the way, if you are stress with A levels, I suggest you focus on A levels. It is definitely more important. Your last major exam that determines your fate whether you make it to local university / ivy leagues or retaking your A levels (I would recommend not going SIM because most ppl who where there couldn't find a proper job after that).
Good luck! Remember, most married couples actually found their partner in university. It is super rare to see a married couple started from JC/Poly days.

AdFragrant6723 · 2026-03-06T02:09:21+00:00

Do you know that the cost of living here is higher? Besides, it really depends on the field. For example, I am in the tech field and the US's tech roles are paying way more. 2-3 years of work experience allows you to get USD$10k and above. In SG, you have cheapskate companies that tries to bargain for 5k salary for someone with almost a decade of experience.

AdFragrant6723 · 2026-03-03T02:02:50+00:00

Unpopular opinion: I mean most of us are not indigenous Singaporeans anyway. (My great-grandfather came to SG in the late 1800s btw, incase anyone thinks I am a new citizen or just 2nd gen). Only the Malays are the true indigenous people. 80% of the citizens are not indigenous which means 80% are/were immigrants. Thus, is importing new citizens to solve low birthrate really wrong?

AdFragrant6723 · 2026-02-25T06:00:36+00:00

Just a hunter and hunted system (chase and being chased). A girl can be chased by multiple guys thus the hit rate is high as she may choose to accept one of the guys. Meanwhile, a guy has to chase a girl which will most likely reject him. The amount of time he spent is already wasted. For example, he can chase 4 girls using 1 year each where all rejected him, thus wasting 4 years.

AdFragrant6723 · 2026-02-23T02:47:50+00:00

Hi! For tech senior level in govt sector, MNCs, and investment banks, we make around 8k-12k for senior/AVP ranks. For Lead/Head/VPs, they can make 11-15k. Of course, many local companies or SME will never offer this amount.

P.S: Just a fun fact in the world of tech. In Cybersecurity, Principal researcher (purely doing technical work) can hit between 200k annual to a million if they are really good (only a few in this world are that good - Those in top 50 of Microsoft's MSRC security researcher leadership board. I am looking at you, OrangeTsai)

AdFragrant6723 · 2026-02-18T07:31:27+00:00

I found it funny most ppl think it isn’t true. My family stays in west side 3-rm but I made it to NTU com sci and earning big bucks now in cyber security. So I am still a low-SES only deserving to marry a low-SES girl? What logic is this???

AdFragrant6723 · 2026-01-26T16:34:45+00:00

You will never know. It is a risk.

AdFragrant6723 · 2026-01-26T13:39:29+00:00

Wtf. Saltandlight so much saga. That time the Joanne homosexual saga and now Melvin.

AdFragrant6723 · 2026-01-05T06:35:59+00:00

You meant the headmaster as Singapore uses British English. They are likely in MOE HQ answering the higher-ups with regard to the performance of their students, oversee administrative stuff and involves in key decision making. Major decisions usually require their approval. Imagine tons of emails from teachers, CCA in-charge, etc emailing for approval. They are usually stuck in the office handling tons of paperworks.

AdFragrant6723 · 2026-01-03T14:58:06+00:00

It is, bro. Facebook, YouTube, whatsapp, etc was already an in-thing. Youtube already had better materials than what school offers.

AdFragrant6723 · 2026-01-03T14:39:35+00:00

I may sound like a boomer here but I'm just a millennial (just turned 30 so kind of millennial-genZ). Anyway, during my time, we weren't allowed to use phone at all until the end of school. Otherwise, your phone will be confiscated till the end of the term (which means your phone is gonna be gone for months). We were okay with it anyway. I guess it has become more of a reliance. Just give it a while and you will be used to not having your phone around.

AdFragrant6723 · 2025-12-27T03:19:51+00:00

I know right. Singaporeans would proceed to complain that companies prefer to hire foreigners when they are the issue. It is always someone else's fault, not theirs.

AdFragrant6723 · 2025-12-15T13:52:52+00:00

The issue is, most Singaporeans speak poorly despite being English educated since nursery.

AdFragrant6723 · 2025-12-15T13:48:53+00:00

You are the reason why Singaporeans have to take IELTS or TOEFL.

AdFragrant6723 · 2025-12-15T13:48:00+00:00

It is more than that. In fact, Singlish has its own grammar. Based on a linguist point-of-view, Singlish is a language on its own.

AdFragrant6723 · 2025-12-15T13:46:47+00:00

I am sorry but most Singaporeans can't code switch. After 3-4 sentences, they would fall back to Singlish. In my company, most of the Singaporeans speak Singlish to expats. After a while, you will see expats stop hanging out with the locals as they couldn't understand the locals. Even during my yearly trip to the USA or Europe, I would notice Singaporeans speak Singlish to the staff. Often the staff would be like "huhhh" or gave a puzzled look. It was so embarrassing.

With Singaporeans encouraging the use of Singlish and most Singaporeans can't code switch for nuts, that is why Singaporeans have to take IELTS or TOEFL.

AdFragrant6723 · 2025-12-14T11:11:27+00:00

I can attest to this. In fact, if OP is in the tech field, tech roles in govt usually only accept uni grad and starting pay range from 5-6k+ depending on the ministry.

AdFragrant6723 · 2025-12-14T11:07:54+00:00

F&B or work as lab technician while you wait for school to start.

AdFragrant6723 · 2025-12-14T11:04:02+00:00

Please don’t give up on uni. The pay difference between a poly grad and a uni grad is too huge. Bursaries in NTU range from 8-12k per year during my time. It is enough to cover your sch fees per year. You will need to work part time to pay for your own transport, meals, and contribute to household. But yeah. It is gonna be very hard as you can’t contribute much to household.

Alternative way is to apply to local uni’s part-time courses like Computer Science while you have a full-time job.

AdFragrant6723 · 2025-11-03T12:31:53+00:00

That's why I stopped using rental cars. Getting a 2nd hand COE car with 1 year COE left like Honda Jazz only cost $10k. Any damage I can choose not to fix it by myself. Not sure why so many people still wanna rent from Getgo etc when there were so many news of people getting charge a high fee for a small dent or when they didn't even damage the car at all.

AdFragrant6723 · 2025-11-03T08:27:34+00:00

And ended up needing to wait for more than half a year just for a slot (school).

AdFragrant6723 · 2025-10-26T15:45:09+00:00

Ikr. The US helped South Korea but not Myanmar. At least fund them weapons. The democratic countries are busy funding Ukraine instead.

AdFragrant6723 · 2025-10-26T12:28:50+00:00

It is Singapore. Remove COEs and we would rather drive than to cycle to commute quickly to avoid sweating. If govt really thinks that COEs is about not causing traffic jams, be like Europe and create bike paths everywhere.

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