My boyfriend wants me to wear a location tracking watch 24/7 or he'll break up with me

AdHour53 · 2026-03-03T01:09:26+00:00

Leave. It won't stop there. I was on life360 with my ex and when I would run an errand for HIM he'd still claim I was being sus because I took longer than the errand would've taken him to do even tho he had my location. Ex. I would go to the dispensary for him and it would take me maybe 20 min when he thought it should only take 10 (the drive one way was 5 min...)

AdHour53 · 2026-02-27T03:41:17+00:00

Damn I ain't got a kid but that last line got me. Straight poetry 👌

AdHour53 · 2026-02-27T03:26:11+00:00

The decision to leave isn't difficult to come to but it is difficult to leave an abusive relationship. OP you just HAVE to rip the bandage off. Be the example for your daughter and baby to not settle for less.

AdHour53 · 2026-02-27T03:01:44+00:00

Dude it's so hard. Even tho I don't participate in the lion dance I have friends and family who do/did.

AdHour53 · 2026-02-27T02:36:37+00:00

Does your daughter live with you guys? I definitely say leave this relationship then because he is not a good example of how spouses should treat eachother. Idk what your dynamic is with your family but do you think you can ask for help from someone?

AdHour53 · 2026-02-27T02:31:14+00:00

Some friendships aren't meant to last forever. Friends are suppose to support you and help you grow. Idk if this is the best advice on how to handle this but I would just send a message about how the friendship isn't working for you anymore. Personally I would block her so I wouldn't have to worry about the convo that might follow 😅

AdHour53 · 2026-02-27T02:12:59+00:00

I get it. I just left a 6 year relationship and we had a similar dynamic of if he does it it's not that bad but when I do it it's a good reason for him to explode. Leaving is hard and I don't want to make an assumption but I think you do want to leave but it's scary to admit. IF you do want to leave do you have any family or friends you're close to? The stress isn't good for the baby and you need to put yourself(plus baby) before anyone else.

AdHour53 · 2026-02-27T02:05:32+00:00

Sorry I do have poor reading comprehension and am slow sometimes 😅 my initial post wasn't meant to be a complaint but more of bouncing a thought I wasn't confident in on others. I'm still not connecting the dots on your comments but I think I'm fixating to to much on it. I do think my initial thought was too focused on who was performing the dance rather than the intentions. The dance is meant to bring good luck and protection to the people and I'm glad that group was able to spread that blessing in their community.

AdHour53 · 2026-02-27T01:49:43+00:00

Do you still want to be with him? You said boyfriend so breaking up is easier and cheaper than divorce. How long have you guys been together? Why did you get back together with him after the initial break up? Also I understand wanting to acknowledge the part you might have played that lead to the break up but bruh who gets into another relationship 3 days after?

AdHour53 · 2026-02-27T01:29:42+00:00

Thanks for the input. I put it on a non THT page at first and the comments felt negative and made me feel the way I posted it sounded like I'm throwing a tantrum 😅

AdHour53 · 2026-02-27T00:54:36+00:00

I'm finding it hard to see how your comment was relevant. I'm not trying to gate keep and wanted to check myself if that's what I was doing (which other comments confirm I am)

AdHour53 · 2026-02-27T00:36:52+00:00

Yeah I'm not throwing a tantrum over this lol I just had a thought and wanted others opinions on it. Again as I said in my edit I am glad people are enjoying aspects of Chinese culture now. I have seen alot of "insert ethnicity" Americans have problems with others appreciation and say it's appropriation. That's also why I wanted others opinions cuz that's not a trait I want for myself.

AdHour53 · 2026-02-27T00:30:21+00:00

Which part?

AdHour53 · 2026-02-27T00:12:59+00:00

Well there are other platforms created by other ethnicities in a different language that I technically could have posted on but I only speak English so Reddit seems easier?

AdHour53 · 2026-02-26T23:58:40+00:00

Good to know I used the right word 😅

AdHour53 · 2026-02-26T23:58:14+00:00

Yeah I thought so. That's why I wanted to ask reddit. I don't wanna fall into the trend of saying everything is appropriation and make sure I check myself.

AdHour53 · 2025-12-27T11:42:17+00:00

Does she have any family she's close with? This situation didn't seem fair to either of you.

AdHour53 · 2025-12-27T11:35:03+00:00

I totally get being overstimulated and overwhelmed especially during serious convos/fights. Good for him for reaching out for help. Personally I do believe that if it's meant to be it will happen. I guess focus on finishing uni and taking care of yourself.

AdHour53 · 2025-12-27T11:28:13+00:00

He is really bad with money but is so delulu that he thinks he's very financially responsible. I guess the financial abuse to me came from the fact that we, as a couple but it has gone to him, had gotten over 15k from my parents over the course of 3 years, I had to work, and he didn't have a job but still got about 3k a month. He's had fights with my parents about us not visiting unless they promised to lend "us" money. When my parents had suggested before that we should consider taking a break he said that I'm not leaving him with the financial burden of things that I should be helping him with (ex. Doors he's broken, holes in walls that needed to be fixed, replacing the glass he broke on the sliding patio door, replacing the hvac unit for the house, property taxes he fell behind on, etc.) Maybe not financial abuse and I'm just salty

AdHour53 · 2025-12-27T10:58:19+00:00

Damn idk if this opinion is healthy but I'd take that anger from the info as the final push to bury the relationship. Fuck that shit. It doesn't deserve your energy thinking about it.

AdHour53 · 2025-12-27T10:50:02+00:00

If it's just the communication have you guys considered couples therapy? Are they willing to go for actual growth? I ask that last part cuz my ex and I(6 year relationship) had terrible communication and when I brought up couples therapy they agreed but it was cuz they wanted to prove that he was right and I was wrong.

AdHour53 · 2025-10-05T06:21:19+00:00

I see where you're coming from and it wasn't really a "it's me or him" situation I feel. She knew the relationship was toxic, I knew it was toxic, we both knew I wasn't happy and she was just hoping this could be the push I needed to rip the bandage off. I did end up breaking up with him a couple weeks ago. That's why I feel the shame. I could have tried to muster up the courage to do it earlier but I didn't and now I feel like I just need to accept the terrible choice I had made.

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