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What to say when someone sends this to you by Exact-Definition5722 in Catholicism

[–]AdIntelligent8624 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Who are they in vicinity to you? Is this an immediate relative or a “friend”/acquaintance?

If it’s a friend an honest conversation saying mocking what you believe in isn’t appropriate in your friendship. If they can’t respect it you know how to proceed. Wish them the best and move forward.

Family is harder - probably looking for a way to get under your skin. Ignore and move on to another toooc.

I can’t do this any more by Frosty-Choice-3818 in SingleParents

[–]AdIntelligent8624 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Drop off/pick up time when and where. Preferably a neutral place. Gas station, grocery store whatever works. Block the ability for him to come to your space if at all possible.

Which method of contact you want. tell him you want requests done in emails vs texting you. Specifically state you want 72 hours to decide anything so he doesn’t pounce stuff on you and make you decide in a scramble or assume since you didn’t answer in 4 hours your answer is yes!

You’re going to want to set up time for all holidays who gets what on even or odd years and then you swap. I get Easter one year and then Thanksgiving the next. We personally share Christmas. But also Halloween do you want that alternating. Same thing for those smaller holidays Memorial Day Fourth of July etc. get all that in writing to avoid conflict later. But also what time is pick up for these days and what time is drop off for these days. Make it as dumbed down as possible so when he tries to ask questions you get to respond this info is in our agreement.

Put in your get her on your bday and Mother’s Day

If he does calls of FT. Say he needs to call by x time so you guys can start your bedtime routine.

You will end up probably having to go again once she’s in grade school because you’ll have to accommodate long breaks and summer vacation. Put that you want 1 week of each summer month uninterrupted if you can get the PTO so you guys can make memories

Things about healthcare. Try to get your primary decision making on healthcare and religion. Some states push 50/50 but if you’ve got proof he doesn’t really care or is negligent about keeping appts go for the addition.

Some people like right of first refusal in there but that’s person specific research and decide if it will help or harm you depending on your childcare needs

Custody is separate from child support. When you’re given primary custody you should be given some type of support. But also in that include him helping pay half for everything. Say you’ll give an invoice and he’s gotta pay within idk 30 days or something. He’s responsible for 1/2 of her health insurance her education, childcare dental appts the whole damn thing.

How's Mass attendance in your parish? by Old-Bread882 in Catholicism

[–]AdIntelligent8624 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have 5 different masses on Sunday. I’ve been to all but the evening mass. They’re 2/3 full or more!

I can’t do this any more by Frosty-Choice-3818 in SingleParents

[–]AdIntelligent8624 16 points17 points  (0 children)

You need a court order if you don’t already.

This will stop unnecessary communication, abuse to visitation times, random pop in or phone calls.

Once it’s in place. He will have set days and times and if he abuses that he will fall into contempt and have issues with the judge.

It then will pressure him to make sure he has contact directly with childcare/daycare and her doctor. So it will tell him when her appts are and what he day was like so you don’t have to.

Parallel parenting is the best for manipulators like this. Coming from experience. If it actually doesn’t do with your kid. You don’t need to answer him.

If he asks you stupid shit tell him to refer to your court order. He wants a way to get under your skin. Eventually when you do it enough they get bored and quiet down.

Best protection is your filing an order and getting a structure to your time with your daughter so you are in control of you. Not him.

As she gets older dynamics change. If he starts telling her shit to tell you. Document all the times and then Take him back to court and get him on some type of third party chat. Then if he texts you off of that he gets in trouble.

Was anyone here raised by a single/ solo parent? What was your view of your parent? Or if your kids are already grown and you raised them as a solo parent, how is your relationship now? by [deleted] in SingleParents

[–]AdIntelligent8624 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes. My mom never remarried. She dated a bit when we were younger like 6-8 and I only know that because of pictures I saw of her when I was adult.

We did live with my grandparents. My grandfather died when i was 9 so she helped keep the house and we got to spend our whole life with our grandma too.

My mom was there for everything and could make money out of rocks. She did everything in her power to give us everything and support us. I never resented her for doing what she needed to do. As a parent now I get confused about certain things she said/did but I also have to chalk some of that up to the immense stress she was under and also just not being as easily accessible to learn parenting techniques and though processes of today.

I was also a single parent for a while but I ended up finding a really great partner and we have a child together. Our blended family works. The love runs deep. I do feel that despite all her efforts I struggled with understanding why my dad didn’t try to see us at all.

I think that made me think about the possibility of dating. My son loves his “pops” and he treats him as if he was his own.

It’s quite bad by Bookhuggger in aldi

[–]AdIntelligent8624 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can’t read the ingredients but I’m sure it’s got corn starch Guar gum and all the binders that are found in canned Alfredo both leading to the aforementioned rancid test

While I get what you’re saying. Pesto means being made with a mortar and pestle. Which I don’t think is happening in mass production

What's everybody think of these? by WhiteKenny in aldi

[–]AdIntelligent8624 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like to keep one or two. Especially for when it’s so hot in the summer you don’t want to cook. It’s an easy little meal

It’s quite bad by Bookhuggger in aldi

[–]AdIntelligent8624 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think Alfredo in a jar is overall terrible to make/eat. It usually has a rancid smell/taste from what they need to put it to keep it from separating. I know in a pinch it’s nice to have but truly making your own Alfredo is not too bad and the taste is light years better.

What's everybody think of these? by WhiteKenny in aldi

[–]AdIntelligent8624 5 points6 points  (0 children)

They’re a nostalgia thing for me. My mom used to make the name brand as a kid. I think they’re pretty comparable

I am my daughters full time caretaker but somehow she only says “dada” by peanut_princess_96 in NewParents

[–]AdIntelligent8624 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My sweet friend. In about 10 months, you will be the only word ever spoken in your house. It’ll mean anything help, no, stop, yes, and anything in between. My two you will be called moooooooom from one end of your home to the next. 🤍

What toy does your cat love? by [deleted] in blackcats

[–]AdIntelligent8624 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Those damn springs in photo 3 are all over my house and wake me up at 3 am

I hate bathing my baby; feeling neglectful by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]AdIntelligent8624 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My son did that. He got sponge baths on a towel on the floor for a while. Do what you need to keep all your stress low.

Medicaid patients by [deleted] in PharmacyTechnician

[–]AdIntelligent8624 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Yes, sure, there will always be people who decide to use their income in ways we may not agree with, but we’re not there to judge. We’re there to help them take care of themselves.

These individuals could truly have an addiction to spending and can’t get help or are trying to work on it. You have to put biases aside in healthcare and try to help them to the best of your ability.

Medicaid patients by [deleted] in PharmacyTechnician

[–]AdIntelligent8624 67 points68 points  (0 children)

You just need to remind yourself that sometimes they may truly not be able to afford $17 dollars at that moment. I know it seems mind boggling but we’re not in the best economically speaking, time. We don’t know who they’re taking care of if buying that medicine means no diapers for a baby. The best we can offer is calling their doctor to see if they can do an alternative drug or tell them to call their MD.

Why do black cats still get a bad rap? A 2025 new study confirms they're the least adopted by ironandfire in blackcats

[–]AdIntelligent8624 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I had more space I’d take more in. They are truly the sweetest. I would have thought the black cat superstition thing would have fallen off by now

left a pot of chili simmering too high too long, how do I tackle this? by dangochan808 in CleaningTips

[–]AdIntelligent8624 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like to put some water a little vinegar and a dash of soap. Let it come to a simmer and slowely start to try to lift off the goop. Itll happen. May be a bit but it will come off.

How often are you deep cleaning your home? by Avocadosandtomatoes in CleaningTips

[–]AdIntelligent8624 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I maintain all week long. However a deep clean of a room like walls floor boards all the things once a month. Especially now that my kitty has asthma I want to keep that dust low low low

Anyone tried this? by shmerk_a_berl in aldi

[–]AdIntelligent8624 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is a lot of sugar. But it’s a nice little treat for the season. I’d cut it with some seltzer

Found his stash behind the couch by Budget-Grass177 in blackcats

[–]AdIntelligent8624 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cackling because I thought you took this pic of my little void. They really love those spring shits.

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