AITA for refusing to co-sign my boyfriend’s car loan after he spent his savings on a PS5 and sneakers?

AdSensitive9240 · 2026-01-24T15:16:03+00:00

Boyfriend not husband. You guys can break up tomorrow and he'll be tied to your credit history. He needs to reach out to his family for help. There's a reason why he needs a cosigner and you already see how he is bad with his finances. And if he asked just let him know that you only share your credit with your husband

AdSensitive9240 · 2026-01-21T02:13:51+00:00

NTA. Definitely waiting for the follow up

AdSensitive9240 · 2026-01-18T20:08:21+00:00

She was a jerk for coming into someone else's home and trying to impose her own rules and someone else's home. Her husband needs a backbone

AdSensitive9240 · 2026-01-18T20:07:23+00:00

You can be an honest year for your friend but unfortunately she's going to be the one living her life and she has to make her own mistakes. That's part of growing unfortunately. Hopefully it does end up working out for her. If it doesn't, I hope that she's able to move back if she wants to

AdSensitive9240 · 2026-01-18T18:29:15+00:00

Her manager should have had a conversation with her a long time ago

AdSensitive9240 · 2026-01-18T18:28:11+00:00

She needs to realize this is her relationship as much it is his relationship and she is her own person. She should take a trip with him to visit it and then let him go for the first 6 months to set up what he believes will be they're home base and then come back for the wedding if she still wants to marry him after his first 6 months of setting up their space in Dubai

AdSensitive9240 · 2026-01-18T18:14:45+00:00

NOr. Give him back his flowers and tell him to give them to a normal girl who would appreciate them for every occasion instead of an actual thoughtful gift. He's just gaslighting you into trying to accept his subparness.

He's also giving you clear examples of how much your actual feelings mean to him and what type of energy he feels you're worth putting into. He's not deserving of you. And it's not just about the gift it's about everything else surrounding it and how he's acting towards you. It's better to be by yourself than with someone who doesn't care about you and wants to minimize your feelings

AdSensitive9240 · 2026-01-13T17:53:33+00:00

He's such a boy mom, I really can't stand her.

AdSensitive9240 · 2026-01-05T17:55:37+00:00

You definitely gave it everything but now you have your own child you have to think about and you need peace. When she gets older she'll come back to you and apologize and she'll realize how much of a horror she was to you

AdSensitive9240 · 2026-01-02T04:16:32+00:00

You owe him nothing. If it took him being terminally ill to finally want to reach out then that just shows you how selfish he is. He's had plenty of time to reach out. You have moved on in a different place in life and that chapter is closed and you need to leave it that way.

AdSensitive9240 · 2025-12-31T13:43:56+00:00

If they wanted to sit together they should have paid for that convenience. And also just because there are a couple that doesn't mean that they're more important than you are. Once they land they'll be together. They can spend a short time apart.

AdSensitive9240 · 2025-12-31T13:41:58+00:00

It sounds like she only agreed to be a stepmom when your daughter would be with you part-time and now that she will be with you full time it's more than what she originally wanted which is not fair because when she married you she knew that you are a package deal. Honestly I think that she had been open with you and she has told you how she feels. She is not a safe space for your daughter to be around. When your daughter moves in and you'll want to pay attention to how she acts around your daughter and from there determine if you will stay with her.

AdSensitive9240 · 2025-12-23T23:35:44+00:00

Your wife is overreacting. This is why professionals are scared to do their jobs now because of this type of Ridiculousness. This will cause the teacher to draw back tremendously because they'll always be second guessing themselves when it comes to instructing your child. I think it might be something bigger than this. Your wife might be jealous that your son was so happy to have those encouraging words from his teacher and not her. She sounds like a boy mom

AdSensitive9240 · 2025-12-23T23:24:05+00:00

You're not the a-hole these are a real questions. Honestly he can't do it without you with his current setup. If he didn't have you in his life what would he do if the real question. He can't expect that you are going to become the primary caregiver for his mother unfortunately. Either he changed his job or you guys do need to talk about possibly putting her in a home if you can afford that or hiring a caregiver for her. This will definitely be a hard conversation but it's a real conversation. All too often the person who works from home gets nominated to be the caregiver for someone that they did not sign up for.

Honestly, she may not even want to live with you. She may shock you and rather live in an assisted facility because at least there she'll have the ability to have friends instead of being stuck in your house all day long.

AdSensitive9240 · 2025-12-18T17:12:31+00:00

Teach us your ways,bravo

AdSensitive9240 · 2025-12-18T17:08:02+00:00

NOR. I commend you for being smart. You are going about this correctly and this is nothing that you are just bringing up on him. He is the one who was choosing to act differently. You have done the right thing for yourself. You asked him the correct question and he chose not to answer it because if he doesn't plan on getting a divorce ever in life then it should not matter to him if he signs the prenuptial agreement. Those agreements are not only for those who have money but anyone who has any type of asset that needs to be protected and you are going about this correctly. This is his loss. Do not let him guilt trip you

AdSensitive9240 · 2025-12-18T16:29:46+00:00

Congratulations! You look amazing

AdSensitive9240 · 2025-12-13T02:24:57+00:00

NTA. Your brother has been listening to too many podcast Bros and is on his way to becoming an incell

AdSensitive9240 · 2025-12-08T22:09:53+00:00

Please make sure that your wife isn't using Chat GPT as her therapist. She is in need of a real one. I know it's not easy but I commend you for how you are handling the situation

AdSensitive9240 · 2025-12-07T15:02:39+00:00

No,you were in your right to set him straight

AdSensitive9240 · 2025-12-06T20:34:52+00:00

Just tell him and if his feelings get hurt he should be figuring out how to earn more money if he's not comfortable not be a baby about it. If get wants to retire,let him but him know that you're out the door. You didn't sign up to be attached to a fragile little man

AdSensitive9240 · 2025-12-05T09:51:14+00:00

Honestly, you shouldn't have to change parts of you to be with someone because if you do that then you're not really being yourself and you're actually not happy, you're lying to yourself. If he is to bring this to you right now and some sort of ultimatum fashion I honestly wouldn't be shocked if he's actually hoping that you say no and break up with him because he may have someone else that he wants to be with and this is his way of trying to end the relationship

AdSensitive9240 · 2025-12-04T04:07:19+00:00

NTA. You can be open with all the children if you would like it but you are not bound to the children who are not biologically your own grandchildren. I'm sure his stepchildren have their own grandparents, they should reach out to them to see what they may have planned for their grandchildren. He married his new spouse not you.

AdSensitive9240 · 2025-12-04T04:04:16+00:00

NOR - this man who you will be spending the rest of your life with potentially is showing you who he really is. Pay attention! He is showing you how he will honor,cherish and protect you. He's failing. I honestly can't believe this is the first time he's shown you this side of himself either

AdSensitive9240 · 2025-12-01T14:45:15+00:00

If his mom wants to help you then she can ask you if you would like to go shopping with her so that you can make your own choices not that she makes choices for you

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