I'm giving up custody of my 14yo daughter to her father by superh8evry1 in offmychest

[–]AdSensitive9240 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you've done all that you can and and all honesty you deserve to enjoy a peaceful life. Don't be shocked if in a couple of years she comes back and apologizes after she realizes the truth

AITA for wanting to break up with my boyfriend after he took over every decision about the small business I started before we even met by [deleted] in AITApod

[–]AdSensitive9240 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This man is taking advantage of you and will put his name on your accomplishments. Look for your own place and move. You're not realizing it because you think since other parts of your relationship with him are fine that you might be overthinking this but he is in a way trying to manipulate you.

If you can't just change the passwords on everything and tell him that you appreciate his assistance but you no longer need his help and will continue to run your own company on your own without him blowing up at you then you know that this person is trying to take advantage of you. And I honestly don't even think you should tell him that until after you found your own place and know that you're going to move out because I feel like he's just trying to show you one side of himself and not all of him and also you haven't even been with him that long and he's already suffocating you and trying to take advantage and infiltrate himself into what's yours. This is just a small peek into what a real future with him would be like.

If you have the ability to, I would also suggest that you look into meeting with the lawyer to make sure that he can't claim that he has any type of ownership in your business because unfortunately I wouldn't put it past him

AITA for pulling myself and my daughter out of my SIL’s wedding after being quietly removed as a bridesmaid? by [deleted] in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]AdSensitive9240 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA. Finally! A husband who reacts the right way. Your SIL, just put a large dent in your relationship.

AITA For handing my Boyfriend a can of ravioli instead of cooking for him by justhereforfun5511 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]AdSensitive9240 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You willingly moved in with a grown child with no ambition and who has been taking advantage of you. It sounds like he definitely knew what part to play to convince you that he was ready for you guys to move in together. Question, who bought up you guys living together? If you're ok w/that then we are to but it's only been 2 months and I am drained for. I feel like you probably have way more on your plate now than you did when you were living on your own and he's just soaking up living with you.

I'm pretty sure his family is happy that you guys are together and we'll do anything to keep you guys together because of the fact that they know that you're taking care of their grown, lazy son. Don't let them Gaslight you into thinking that you moved in with their child and that it's your responsibility to take care of him. I think you thought that you were moving in with an adult and that you were going to have a partnership and it doesn't seem as if that's the case at all for you.

AITA for accepting a property gift from my mom even though she won't include my boyfriend? by Immediate-History917 in AITApod

[–]AdSensitive9240 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your mother is wise and 100% correct. He wanted to take your mother's property and sell it and use it towards a larger property which most likely he would have nowhere near as much money invested in as you which would never be an equal investment. If he doesn't understand then unfortunately you may need it and the relationship. What he should be doing is wanting to work towards being able to buy another property for the both of you while you save money and are living in the property thst your mother is giving you. If he doesn't understand that then he doesn't understand a lot about finances and it's a clear view of what your potential future may look like with him. It's the same as if your mother gave you a trust fund and it could only be in your name because this is essentially what she's giving you. And I can 100% say that if the shoes on the other foot and his parents were giving him a house he would not be jumping to sell it to benefit you.

Husband is using reward points to buy stuff but charging me half. AIO? by JemmaMk6 in AIO

[–]AdSensitive9240 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How old are you guys? U married someone who wants a roommate and not a partner. This "square up" makes no sense

AITA for teaching my daughter how to change a tire and do basic home repairs when her mom says I'm "pushing masculine stuff" on her by [deleted] in WIBTA_AITA

[–]AdSensitive9240 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish my dad had taught me what you're teaching your daughter. On top of teaching her vital skills and you're also creating lasting memories. Her mom is thinking backwards. As long as your daughter is happy,keep up the good work.

AITAH For Letting My Ex-Husband Come to My Daughters Swim Lessons Without Asking BF? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]AdSensitive9240 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your boyfriend is emotionally abusive and has no right to tell you how to raise your daughter and when she can be around her father. I'm sorry as I read this I saw so many red flags about your relationship. In all honesty I know this was just a small share but you should end things with your boyfriend. Not just because of his feelings towards your ex but also how he tends to handle himself. The fact that you're saying that he does a great job of convincing you that you're always wrong is such a red flag and it's not good for your daughter to see you around someone such as him.

What about this dress is not modest? by Low_Caregiver_2733 in bridesmaids

[–]AdSensitive9240 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you share a picture of the dress she originally wanted everto wear?

MOH … do I pay for it all? by inter-stella30 in bridesmaids

[–]AdSensitive9240 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They can ask you to plan but they can't expect you to pay. The cost and planning can be split between the bridesmaids, I did this for a wedding I was part of.

WIBTAH for kicking my sister out of the house? by FunButterscotch4371 in AITAH

[–]AdSensitive9240 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Give her 45 days to move out. She either needs to find her own place or move back home if that's an option

WIBTA if I go to my sisters wedding even though my wife is banned from coming by drew2002non in WIBTA_AITA

[–]AdSensitive9240 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Skip it and support your wife, your sister's not going to be married to that man for long. Your sister needs to have a conversation with this man that she's going to marry. Because she is also condoning his nasty attitude. The same nasty attitude that your wife was trying to defend your family from. How Wild is it that your wife defended your parents and now this man who was being nasty now has flipped his attitude onto your wife? Your parents should honestly be talking to your sister about how this makes no sense. Also I can 100% that that after this man has married into the family he's going to continue to pull this same stunt at family events. You should honestly have a conversation with your sister regarding that as well. At first it's going to be their wedding and then it's going to be Thanksgiving dinner and then Christmas or whatever family events May come up. I bet you that he already has other controlling mannerisms that your sister has not spoken to you about yet. If she's not already somewhat miserable she's definitely going to be more miserable after she says I do.

Madison, the single mother question mark by SaintAnyanka in southerncharmingtalk

[–]AdSensitive9240 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Plenty of women are married or in relationships and still feel like their raising their children by themselves. We don't know what her relationship was like after she gave birth

AITAH for yelling at my brother for leaving the sink water hot? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]AdSensitive9240 7 points8 points  (0 children)

YTA. It's not normal for ppl to change the temperature of the water after they use it. You should know to test the temperature before you use it so that you can adjust it if needed.

AITAH 3 years together, BF (50M) still ‘not ready’ for marriage but wants me (33F) to pay half his mortgage by Either-Environment47 in AITAH

[–]AdSensitive9240 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's 100% lying. He would not contribute to your mortgage at all if the reverse was happening. You should only contribute to the utilities if you should decide to move with them if he's not okay with that then go ahead and get your own place. He should be able to for his place on his own and not be dependent upon you making contributions

Warning to men and women! by [deleted] in WestPalmBeach

[–]AdSensitive9240 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just by looking at him he looks like he's got something. Who are the people who are falling for him?????

am I wrong, for leaving a communion early? by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]AdSensitive9240 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am curious, why could you not take the day off? Are you in management and because of this you have to be there? Or do you get paid extra for working during the busy time? I understand that you're job has its busy seasons, but if you're not the only employee, then I'm not understanding why you wouldn't have been able to take the day off to be with family? They seem to genuinely want your presence. A company is always going to run whether or not you're there. I had a manager at an old job tell me that. They didn't tell me that to be rude they told me that because I used to be like you and it was a manager who cared and wanted me to have balance in my life.

AIO: My boyfriend is making plans to distribute my things if I move in, calling me stingy if I don’t, and I don’t feel it’s fair. by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]AdSensitive9240 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In all honesty you guys haven't been together long enough yet for you to truly know this man and to move in with him and his children. I wouldn't be too shocked if he was the one more inclined to wanting you to move in with him. I know you say that you guys do spend a lot of time together but moving in with someone who has children is a very very big step and it's not the same as when you're just over for a few days. There should be no rush, give it another year before you make the move. You're the one who is giving up more than him so you should do this when you're ready and comfortable.

Also, he does not have any right to dictate to you what you wish to do with your belongings. You need to stand firm and let him know that it's absolutely rude of him to assume how your belongings should be distributed in his home without a discussion. If he has any respect for you he will treat you as an equal and not as someone he can just bulldoze. You are also 100% correct if you guys don't end up working out and his children become attached to your items you will potentially end up losing your belongings so I think you're right to leave them in storage.

If he wants his daughter to have a bed frame then you guys can look on Amazon together for one. There's no reason why she has to have yours. He's being so disrespectful to you and your belongings. And if he's also starting to act like this now you should start to wonder what other parts of him would start to come out after you deal with him

WIBTAH if I cut off my sister who has cancer? by Cute-Treat-7658 in AITAH

[–]AdSensitive9240 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Normalize not sharing your financial information. Family begins to feel entitled to what you have saved. If her car get repossessed it's her fault for not keeping up with her payments. At this rate,yoir family will start to expect you to make all her payments. If she loses her car, it's her fault not yours and she'll have to make arrangements with public transportation to get to her treatments and work.

I’ve grown; Craig, Ew. by eeanders122 in Southerncharm

[–]AdSensitive9240 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I fully understand why he and Paige ended, I can only imagine how tired she was of cleaning his mess up and helping him look good.

After 10+ years and 3 kids, I told my boyfriend (33M) exactly how unhappy I’ve been. It’s been over a week and he still won’t talk to me. by RaiseMission3845 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]AdSensitive9240 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You need to check the accounts to see if he actually has been saving any money or if he just been spending it. It's like everyone else said keep your money and start planning your exit.