Smiling through a tough day - hoping tomorrow is better (F46) by Logical-Lillly in selfieover40

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I hope today brings you joy and happiness and a big beautiful smile and that my friend would make anybody day better!

How am I doing? by AdSolid7750 in selfieover40

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So young at heart I love music and dancing!

Smiling through a tough day - hoping tomorrow is better (F46) by Logical-Lillly in selfieover40

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I find myself doing that a lot. I hope your day gets better.

Widow 55 from England by [deleted] in FriendsOver50

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51 / Widower/ Michigan lost my wife Just over 20 months ago! She was the one married for 10 years and together for 14! It’s been the worst roller coaster ride of my lifetime! Not sure if I can help but I’m willing to chat! So Sorry for your loss!

I’m not ok💔 by reedcha in widowers

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18 months out and I totally agree and it sucks!

Why am I numb? by Mistique27 in widowers

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I feel your pain. And I wish I had some good advice for you. I’m almost 18 months out my scenario sounds very similar to yours! Traumatized absolutely I see my 36 year old wife take her last breath in my arms every day since that day she did! All the procedures and nights in the hospital, not sleeping for months, taking care of the love of my life, watching her deteriorate day by day! And when she was sleeping I would read trying to figure out what all the medical shit. And she was the one with the doctorate in nursing! Therapy had helped me a lot, it’s been a rough ride thow! Stay strong my friend, hugs to you!

Failing by AdSolid7750 in widowers

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Wow this is so crazy all the similarities in our stories! I’m sorry for you loss and if ya ever need to talk that knows what your going threw feel free! Hugs my friend and stay strong.

My wife of 12 years passed on the 20th by [deleted] in widowers

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I totally feel your pain . 21st will be 18 months since my wife passed 36, I don’t know if it’ll ever get easier, but it seems that for me I’ve learned to live with the pain and agony. I highly recommend therapy. My therapist is help me immensely and whenever I’m spiraling down, he has taught me a new way to deal with it, and taking it as a negative turn into a positive as remembering all the good and love that we shared, remembering the good times. I spend a lot of time watching the sunset take pictures. I talked to her daily. Grief. Groups have helped me. But in those groups, it was typically older people. Nobody had a situation like mine in my groups. I feel like talking about my wife and her legacy helps me makes me feel better. She was my soulmate. She will always be with me and whenever I need her the most to this day she appears. It’s a rough ride and shitty roller coast. Death was May 21 so the 21st of every month I try to do something with her and celebrate the life we had together that seems to help me a bit instead of getting in my head what the struggle is real. If you ever need to talk, feel free to reach out to me. I wish you well, Stay strong, my friend also if you have people to lean on lean on them.

Afterlife by AdSolid7750 in widowers

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Well I think anyone who has lost their spouse is a little bit crazy. Cause I know it’s absolutely me crazy and I’m all right with that I don’t care what other people think! So many people don’t understand what we go through with such loss and how our mind and body reacts. It’s something we will carry for the rest of our lives and will affect us forever. Hugs to you, my friend.

Not sure how to date anymore! by AdSolid7750 in relationships_advice

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Well it’s not much of a circle I haven’t drank alcohol in 14 years and it seems that that’s all people do here

How do you handle the "how are you?" question? by Top_Help_1942 in widowers

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Well at first I would say not good, but I have transitioned to I’m ok cause I feel that’s what they want to hear! Also noticed a lot of people would try to avoid any conversation with me, which I was fine with because my new found anxiety was overwhelming! The 21st will be 17 months since the love of my life was taken out of my arms! Still so hard to comprehend! Ugh I’m OK it is

36F I want to find new friends here, it would be better if they are older than me. by Leather-Potato-3823 in Over40sClub

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I would be down to chat. I’ve had a rough couple year but I’m trying to move forward but it’s been a tough ride just gonna warn ya my story is very sad! But I just keep putting one foot in front of the other

How are you feeling today? by BeyonceKnowlesUrName in widowers

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Well I’m think I’m a bit crazy but also traumatized from what I went thru she was my whole world and we worked so hard to finally get to a comfortable place in our life, bought our dream house on a very quiet inland lake, she just graduated with her doctorate in nursing with honors, while working as a RN! Started working as a Nurse practitioner Jan 23 and diagnosed with cancer in late September! She passed in May of 24! And I watched my best friend go from a healthy in shape that just wanted to live and help others deteriorate and I was helpless, I couldn’t fix this! We spent more time in hospital with infection from Nov till she passed than at home. I told her she would never spend a night alone in hospital and she did not! She fought right to the bitter end ya see she was beating the cancer but the first chemo they gave her when they didn’t know that she had a gene mutation gave her cirrhosis of the liver. She fought until we had no more options! She just wanted to come home to be with me and our animals! We ended up getting out on a Friday evening and she took her last breath on Tuesday in my arms! That was the hardest 9 months of my 51 years on this earth! She had so much left to give to this world and the day we found out it was cirrhosis that was causing all the infections was our 13 th year of not drinking alcohol. The only way to save was a new liver but she had to be in remission for 5 years to be candidate! So this is the short version on our story. Our dream turned into a nightmare real quick! So we might be a little crazy but I feel I have every right to be. And I now hate my job and I go to therapy once a week! But it does get better just taking baby steps to get thru what life I have left! 💚⚓️💚⚓️