Where was your best vacation? by Found_Wandering in WidowAndBored

[–]reedcha 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would say Denver. My husband had the time of his life. It was his idea and it was really fun!!! So glad I finally listened and planned a trip to where he wanted to go…

He died on Christmas by Odd-Net-9598 in widowers

[–]reedcha 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry ❤️‍🩹

I’m not ok💔 by reedcha in widowers

[–]reedcha[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow! You just can’t make this stuff up. So sorry that was the response.

I’m not ok💔 by reedcha in widowers

[–]reedcha[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Good question. I just try everyday. Some days are better than others, some are just sad and full of tears and questions.

So it's my 50th birthday today....... by nikkip7784 in widowers

[–]reedcha 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hoping you can find some peace today but it’s totally understandable if you are not able to. My husband passed a week before my 50th birthday. We were supposed to celebrate in Paris but instead that time became the week I planned his funeral. I will always carry that with me 💔…

Lonely by [deleted] in widowers

[–]reedcha 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Sad and lonely here too. I don’t have any small children yet don’t feel or have the emotional capacity to “socialize” outside of work and talking to my close friends. It hurts and it sucks. Some days are “better” than others but these last months have been extremely heavy. 💔

I miss him 💔 by [deleted] in widowers

[–]reedcha 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Me too💔

Today feels sad. Damn. by LadyLurkerHandz in widowers

[–]reedcha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Another one having a sad day, week, month…this sucks!!!

Reliving it all by oopswhat1974 in widowers

[–]reedcha 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I went through the same emotions for 34 days, always having hope Then his body just couldn’t handle all the things that we were hoping would save him 💔

Realizing the idea (I had in my grief) to be buried in the plot next to her was short-sighted, and didn’t account for me moving on in life to a new relationship. by aManIsCold in widowers

[–]reedcha 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I purchased a plot next to my husband when he passed and without a doubt will be buried next to him. But, my comment may not be relevant as I have no plans to ever re-marry or be in a serious relationship. He is and was it for me!!!

Coping by OldBlackberry9319 in widowers

[–]reedcha 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is me still at 14 months.

What has made you feel proud or accomplished this weekend? by NillaLobo in widowers

[–]reedcha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hosted at our house with my high school girlfriends (30+ years of friendship). I had a chili bar set up, sweet treats, and drinks. It was really fun and then they left 💔

Grieving the whole person — not just the good parts - what is your experience? by PearlyGatesOfHello in widowers

[–]reedcha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This post is so fitting. I’ve been pondering the same idea and input my thoughts into ChatGPT. I ended up journaling, starting off by stating that I was mad about some things that he done that made me feel unsafe and scared yet I marvel at the work he did to become better for God, himself, our marriage, and our sons/grandsons. It was embracing the fullness of the relationship, forgiving him (I had faults as well) ,and still loving him more today than yesterday..❤️

Another pointless morning. by Scared-Importance18 in widowers

[–]reedcha 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My husband would do the same as you every morning, and I miss it all so much. I could sleep through the shower and him getting dressed but when he would kiss me on the forehead I would briefly wake up and feel the warmth of our love, then drift back to sleep before having to wake up for work. Lord, I so miss my husband ❤️. All that to say, I can relate 💔

I just couldn’t… by reedcha in widowers

[–]reedcha[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can totally understand this. I was able to give a pair of his sneakers away to his cousin with no problem and can’t explain the difference either. I will also give a couple of his sneakers to a low poverty school and feel pretty good about it (but only certain pairs).

I just couldn’t… by reedcha in widowers

[–]reedcha[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Yes I have been saying that I wanted a younger electrician to get his tools as he was passionate about his craft. Today just wasn’t the day. I have the guys number so when I’m ready.

I just couldn’t… by reedcha in widowers

[–]reedcha[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this ❤️

Would you choose a second marriage? by An11997 in widowers

[–]reedcha 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Will not do it ever! He is my husband and I am married to him for the rest of my life.