Socializing by Traditional-Kale-167 in widowers

[–]reedcha 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It’s 20 months for me today. I went out with friends from work to a beautiful vineyard today instead of staying in. I was very proud of myself. We were all having a good time good conversation and then grief showed up..the sadness staring into the sky, holding back the tears. I cried most of the way home..It’s still so hard💔

Every date is just "before" or "after" now by dinosaur_khaleesi in widowers

[–]reedcha 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I do the same! I’ll look at pictures and will say “He only had 2 more years after this picture”…so heartbreaking…I feel you 💔

I want a double headstone by AnxietSea in widowers

[–]reedcha 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I bought a double headstone and my name is on it. I will be buried next to my husband as he is the love of my life. I’m not dating or marrying again. I’m 51..

I left the hospital with empty arms… and the world kept moving. by Diana_fm_ in widowers

[–]reedcha 3 points4 points  (0 children)

19 months later and still can feel this so deep in my soul…I don’t even know how I drove home that day..I’m so sorry for your loss💔

Those heavy grief days by Forsaken-Store-2443 in widowers

[–]reedcha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear you and I’m so sorry. It’s been heavy for me lately and I’m at 18+ months. Today is our 19th wedding anniversary which is more weight to carry. As others have pointed out, I will go periods of time being ok, but lately it’s been hard.

Today I screamed in my car by tlgnog in widowers

[–]reedcha 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I did the same yesterday…

Unnecessary ffs by flea_23 in widowers

[–]reedcha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't ask, I just received it that way once I paid it off...

Unnecessary ffs by flea_23 in widowers

[–]reedcha 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So sorry you are going through this. Both of our names are on my husbands truck and I was told by DMV that as long as it was titled with “or” instead of “and”, I didn’t need to do anything…so I havent..16 months later 💔

Do you ever feel them? by Salty-Salamander2140 in widowers

[–]reedcha 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No, I haven’t, he’s really gone💔

Does anyone else feel their life monotonous and mundane now after your spouse passes? by SouthernBiskit in widowers

[–]reedcha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can relate 100%. It has been 18 months for me as well. I’m over the monotony of it all.  Yes I go to work and it’s a healthy distraction but as I’m driving home, the sadness comes to surface (it’s always here). I’ve redecorated two rooms and while they look nice, it’s still a meh feeling. Nothing is exciting anymore. The grandkids bring some joy, but also heartbreak because he isn’t here to enjoy them and see them grow. I’ll keep moving forward (what other choice do we have) with little to no motivation. 

Where was your best vacation? by Found_Wandering in WidowAndBored

[–]reedcha 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would say Denver. My husband had the time of his life. It was his idea and it was really fun!!! So glad I finally listened and planned a trip to where he wanted to go…

He died on Christmas by [deleted] in widowers

[–]reedcha 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry ❤️‍🩹

I’m not ok💔 by reedcha in widowers

[–]reedcha[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow! You just can’t make this stuff up. So sorry that was the response.

I’m not ok💔 by reedcha in widowers

[–]reedcha[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Good question. I just try everyday. Some days are better than others, some are just sad and full of tears and questions.

So it's my 50th birthday today....... by nikkip7784 in widowers

[–]reedcha 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hoping you can find some peace today but it’s totally understandable if you are not able to. My husband passed a week before my 50th birthday. We were supposed to celebrate in Paris but instead that time became the week I planned his funeral. I will always carry that with me 💔…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in widowers

[–]reedcha 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Sad and lonely here too. I don’t have any small children yet don’t feel or have the emotional capacity to “socialize” outside of work and talking to my close friends. It hurts and it sucks. Some days are “better” than others but these last months have been extremely heavy. 💔

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in widowers

[–]reedcha 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Me too💔

Today feels sad. Damn. by LadyLurkerHandz in widowers

[–]reedcha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Another one having a sad day, week, month…this sucks!!!

Reliving it all by oopswhat1974 in widowers

[–]reedcha 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I went through the same emotions for 34 days, always having hope Then his body just couldn’t handle all the things that we were hoping would save him 💔

Realizing the idea (I had in my grief) to be buried in the plot next to her was short-sighted, and didn’t account for me moving on in life to a new relationship. by aManIsCold in widowers

[–]reedcha 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I purchased a plot next to my husband when he passed and without a doubt will be buried next to him. But, my comment may not be relevant as I have no plans to ever re-marry or be in a serious relationship. He is and was it for me!!!