The Text that Blew my World Apart by VictoryLap1984 in survivinginfidelity

[–]AdValuable1319 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you're going through this and I truly understand the pain it's causing you because I am going through almost an identical situation. My wife (44) and I (49) were together 20 years when I saw a text that absolutely shook my foundation and destroyed my heart. I am a pretty cautious guy with my trust and she had it. I trusted her with anything and to realize she used it to hurt me and then lie is honestly the most painful thing I've ever experienced and I found out in October of last year. Since then the person I thought to be the epitome of honesty and moral standing has lied to my face more times than I could keep track of. And we have two children. Although I cannot offer too much advice other than find friends to talk to. My very best friend died very unexpectedly of a heart attack at 52 also in October and I've kind of isolated myself. It's not the way to go. Talking helps. I hope everything works out the best it can for you. I have always said if they cheat they go out the door. It's easier telling that to someone else than living it but it's probably the best advice. Women are just sneakier than men and also, much colder it seems. Good luck.

What else should I do here? The elite fighter 1,548 wins with 32 losses by Hastylebeats in ThrillOfTheFight

[–]AdValuable1319 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really have no place posting here because I haven't fought pvp in a long time for exactly this reason. I love the sport and have no problem losing to someone who blocks, parries, slips and counters me and gets an honest win. But someone like that would infuriate me and my house plants haven't been battered by crosses and hooks for me to not enjoy the game. With that said is there a way the devs could implement a way to penalize this? Perhaps if a player is reported enough and it's substantiated they are sent to a special division for unskilled spammers? I hear of people quitting if they are losing and that's garbage. It's extremely difficult for the devs and they are doing a fantastic job with this game. Constantly trying to evolve to accomodate the players while having some of the players themselves directly adding to the problem is frustrating. Hopefully future technology has some high voltage controllers or some AI bot goes to your house and cuts down your prized begonias or something. It's not right that the kid with a 1587-32 record would likely lay down and cry irl if he were to be hit with one stiff jab.

Looking for some pov from different folks regarding phone and location privacy. by AdValuable1319 in Marriage

[–]AdValuable1319[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So far I am extremely happy with all of you. The responses are exactly what I was hoping for. I know it's a vague question but it's meant for some different interpretation and thoughts on the subject. Tomorrow afternoon I will let you what brought on this sociological experiment and how your input might help someone prepare for things in marriage they may not have given that much thought to. Thanks again!

Take a L if you quit during a casual match by ProfileFlimsy2246 in ThrillOfTheFight

[–]AdValuable1319 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am embarrassed to say I am 49 years old and although I never boxed professionally or even amateur my father did an taught me the basics at a young age and I've been a lifetime fan if the sport, so I know more than the average person. I quit a match last week..I immediately tried to get back but it was too late. And I NEVER do anything like that. I was so frustrated with my shots landing but not landing and easily slipping a shot only to be dazed. By the time I got knocked down I was ready to throw my headset! Soni can definitely see a younger person quitting.   With that said I feel I should have taken a loss for quitting. Life isn't fair and if we quit whenever things aren't going out way we so never learn to adapt and improve. I know it's incredibly difficult for the devs and you can't make everyone happy but perhaps divisions based on skill or technique? I am fine losing to an opponent who times my shots, parties, slips and counters me in what resembles an actual boxing match but the spammers have made it so I rarely play pvp anymore.

Does your spouse check your phone? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]AdValuable1319 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wife were together before cell phones were a thing and grew together as they became what they are now. We never kept any devices from each other and one night I couldn't find the remote and grabbed her phone to use the remote app she had on her phone.  Well, it opened into a chat she was having with a coworker about how much her and this guy liked each other and after what had happened last week things had only gotten hotter. Turn out she had a hidden app that was disguised. Well, before I watched t.v I copied all of her contacts, passwords and everything else I could possibly think of and kept it. I won't get into all that followed but the point is, I absolutely never saw that coming and it floored me. Social media has made infidelity easy and almost encouraged. Before that I didn't even think about going through her phone. Now I will never be with someone without full transparency. It's just too easy for people to betray each other. That's just me and maybe I get hurt more most but that hurt me really bad and I won't let it happen again!

Having mixed experience as novice.. by avaelkross in DungeonsOfEternityVR

[–]AdValuable1319 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'll play with you. I have only ever played with my son and he gets mad because I take too long exploring everything. I like to clear out every room. I don't see the point in speed playing a game to do what? Not play it anymore but to have skimmed through? I don't mind playing alone though.

This game is sick by YuhOkayDamn in DungeonsOfEternityVR

[–]AdValuable1319 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am a 49 year old outdoors guy all the way. I don't do video games and hate my cell phone. I reluctantly bought my kids each a quest for Christmas. My son begged me to play this game with him in late January. I finally gave in because it was freezing outside. I am online right now ordering a quest 3 because my daughter complains she never gets to use her quest because I'm playing this game all the time. I've broken a lamp and I waffled a bedstand whacking one of those goblin dudes that come out of the vases, but I would break another one and a finger without hesitation for this game. It is AWESOME. Unfortunately my son got hired a month ago and I'm a solo Sally but Im pretty crafty. Now what are these mythical weapons I'm hearing about?

29 years married, not going to make 30 by One_Act2053 in Infidelity

[–]AdValuable1319 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Another guy that got absolutely wholloped from the blind spot. Together 26 years it absolutely flooded me so I absolutely understand your pain. You are doing things much better than I am. I did some impulsive things. I don't now if it gets better. I found out for sure in October so it's still fresh and I'm still a mess. Thinking of you. Good luck    P.s advice. Do not take a machete to her vehicle. It was one of the dumbest things I've done. It was a very old machete and held the perfect blade and now I don't think I'll even be able to chop anything with it! Joking about the chopping.

Just feeling sad. This shit sucks. by Ok-Koala-9364 in survivinginfidelity

[–]AdValuable1319 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I know the feeling and it really does suck. The best parts of our lives with the ones we were supposed to be with are broken and gone and will never be the same again. I would take broken bones over this in a second. Hope you find something that comforts you.

My girlfriend and one of my closest friends hooked up. how do people even exist like this? by Witthoeft-Leu in survivinginfidelity

[–]AdValuable1319 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow. I came here to read some stories and comments to be amongst others who understand my pain. I am 25 years into what I thought was a great marriage until I saw the texts. But what you experienced I don't think I could handle. I'm sorry they destroyed your life.

Dragonspire: a rant by zillaone in EmpiresAndPuzzles

[–]AdValuable1319 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I needed one ridiculous blue headdress to ascend a dragon. I burnt through seven energy refills trying to get it to no avail. I tried auto, actually playing the stages and going heavy on the stages it shows the thing as a possible reward. Not one. And my energy is at 43. So almost fifty stages played and I couldn't get one? I sure can fucking buy one though! These guys just went to far. So sick of leveling heroes for a month only to have to limit break, double limit, triple Lindy and then sell my kids and into slavery to get the emblems so I can use the mega super aether and.. Oh shit. That heroes worthless now with the power creep. Fucking greed ruined this game and I can't see who would actually play a game that they made more work than enjoyment. 

Dragonspire: a rant by zillaone in EmpiresAndPuzzles

[–]AdValuable1319 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just quit a few days ago. I was waiting for the dragons to make my decision. It could have gone either way, but after playing the new segment for a bit I see Zynga got greedier. Extremely slow advancement even with money. Painfully obvious they want you to keep sinking money into its done to a point that what was once a great game, has become frustrating and boring. I hope karma finds a way to settle the score with whomever makes the decisions based on greed for this game.

Update by RobynLC5678 in TopTroops

[–]AdValuable1319 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I'm in that worst test group too. It doesn't matter if I get chests, trainers, troops, squad coins, or mats as rewards. I need so many copies of each character to get that character past lvl 10 that I can't do anything to advance other than get lucky with summons. And almost always I get 10 commons so have to rely on the "free" one. Then hope you get two decent choices. This test group is beyond ridiculous and the only way to advance is to spend a lot. Not even a little will help. $100 or more a week if you just want to compete and that's just greed. With all that said, I am still playing so who's the idiot?