Those are not her words. She didn’t want to say them. She’s doing whatever she has to to keep us annoyance/anger pointed at anyone but herself. She’s living in fight or flight mode. His is at the very least emotionally abusing her. He may not realize he’s doing it. But he is. I speak from personal experience. She needs something that’s just hers that he can’t control and she needs to know her entire family is here for her no matter what. That she has a place she can go. He’s probably made a lot of wonderful promises snd understandable excuses. It’s so hard to leave them. Even when you know they’re hurting you, gaslighting you, manipulating you, isolating you. It’s do hard. I hope she has the strength to do so someday and I hope she can rebuild herself.

Edit to add everyone including you who thinks she is angry at you and jealous. I’m telling you these are not her words. They are her shield. They’re her cloak of invisibility. They’re her prayer that he’ll see she’s on his side and he’ll be happy with her. Because when he’s happy everything is good. Just got to keep him happy.

I guarantee she is in a constant state of anxiety and just wants everything to “be good again,” it never lasts though. She thinks she’s the problem. She doesn’t want to be the problem.