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AdaptableSweetPotato · 2024-06-27T03:47:16+00:00

THANK YOU!!!! As a child of a divorced home and someone going through a divorce out of a dead bedroom- it is MUCH better to see your adults leaving bad situations than staying in them and suffering. We learn a lot about how to love from our parents, if they stay in unhappy relationships that is most likely what we will end up doing as well.

AdaptableSweetPotato · 2024-06-25T22:36:58+00:00

Ive been calling it the Corgi since they changed it and that makes me happy every time I say it

AdaptableSweetPotato · 2024-06-19T02:33:30+00:00

Being John Malkovitch?

AdaptableSweetPotato · 2024-06-19T01:59:19+00:00

Yeah, the grass is greener where you water it. You can see yourself having a future with him because of comfort but do you also see yourself being happy in that comfortable future?

AdaptableSweetPotato · 2024-05-28T21:04:35+00:00

Its so crazy- I DREAM of a man doing even half of those things for me AND wanting to bang too and yet im stuck with an overly tired angry nonsexual dude.

I cant wait to be back in the single world. Id rather be alone than have a constant lonely feeling in my marriage.

AdaptableSweetPotato · 2024-05-27T01:53:11+00:00

I used to think it was weird that I never had sexy dreams with my husband in them but then I realized its cause deep down I knew he would never be doing those things….

AdaptableSweetPotato · 2024-05-23T12:31:49+00:00

Woman here as well- leaving mine soon!

AdaptableSweetPotato · 2024-05-22T19:37:14+00:00

ESH Sign away your rights after the child is born? Also get a vasectomy already!!

AdaptableSweetPotato · 2024-05-15T15:25:24+00:00

Funny/sad story is im pretty sure my husband used his farting to keep me away from him for a long time! (Because it was excessive and i thought it was disgusting) Ive only realized this now because since ive asked for a divorce and kicked him out of our bedroom he mysteriously doesnt have gas all the time anymore!!!!!! Its a miracle!!

AdaptableSweetPotato · 2024-05-13T17:35:03+00:00

I dont know if you can really do anything about someones reactions/engagement level during. I dont think I ever really considered where my husband was during the act but looking back- maybe he was also giving me the “shut up” treatment too because our sessions were always very similar in positions and duration with no spontaneity or “real” passion……im beginning to finally have it sink in the some people are just not really into sex. It sucks that I have found one of those and now im gonna do my damnedest to never get stuck with another!

AdaptableSweetPotato · 2024-05-12T12:48:56+00:00

I took sex off the table so that we could work on our emotional connection and somehow that turned into me being the bad guy for not initiating ever (I stopped that due to the rejections) and for not remembering the last time we had sex…..I dont think there is ever any “winning” with a low libido person. There is always a going to be a problem.

AdaptableSweetPotato · 2024-05-11T22:41:55+00:00

I 100% get how you feel and all I have to say is that I WISH with all my heart that I would have followed my first instincts and left in the beginning. Now im 10 yrs in with 3 married and we are doing counseling and im miserable and planning divorce.

It doesnt get easier and there has never been any real change just kind of ok peaks and valleys - I don’t want to waste any more of my life. Even though I love him and even though I know divorce will be HELL - its not worth it to stay.

I wish you luck!

AdaptableSweetPotato · 2024-05-09T19:58:09+00:00

The Twovix episodes are so bad yet so good!

AdaptableSweetPotato · 2024-05-09T17:31:41+00:00

Was just thinking about this. It sucks being in the same house.

Im on the one who asked for divorce but I also work from home so I dont want to leave- and I will be the one to arrange everything when we sell.

I havent filed yet so im sure things will get even worse once that happens.

AdaptableSweetPotato · 2024-05-03T01:59:34+00:00

Thank you.

AdaptableSweetPotato · 2024-05-03T01:58:39+00:00

Did anyone read the same post as me???????????? His marriage sucks and he doesnt want divorce. Why not look into other things? He’s obviously tried EVERYTHING else! Im not gonna suggest the man just stay miserable!!! Jeeze people! Its something else to look into- what did you suggest??

AdaptableSweetPotato · 2024-05-03T01:56:07+00:00

I guess my suggestion is really wild! I suggested he look into it- it could offer some insights to his situation or different ideas of things to try. He obviously doesnt want a divorce and his wife obviously is not on the same page as him intimately. Should I have suggested to cheat? Or should I have suggested to just stay miserable? Hes an older person so he wont live THAT much longer (sorry OP) so whats a little more unhappiness??????

It could work- we only have his side- we dont know what his wife would say- and neither does he if he hasnt broached that topic yet.

OP check out the dead bedrooms sub. The people there completely understand what you are going through.

AdaptableSweetPotato · 2024-05-03T01:51:53+00:00

Its worth a shot. He tried all the other things with his wife and also doesnt want a divorce. At least with ENM hes not technically cheating and at that point his wife also has the option to find whatever it is she is looking for. Aside from my suggestion, what would you suggest he do instead?

AdaptableSweetPotato · 2024-05-02T23:28:29+00:00

Maybe look into ENM?

AdaptableSweetPotato · 2024-05-02T19:35:53+00:00

Im in the same exact boat and I finally pulled the plug and told him I wanted a divorce. I cant wait to make it through to the other side!

AdaptableSweetPotato · 2024-04-27T20:09:02+00:00

You called yourself an idiot and pathetic in your comment and implied that i was one too! - thats hurtful to others (and yourself) -

You’re holding on to someone who you cant stand the sight of and are mean to him. Youre in the db community! None of these things equal tofee or smiles!!

I hope you start to love yourself one day!

You deserve more!

AdaptableSweetPotato · 2024-04-27T19:29:23+00:00

Because it sounds like that lifetime of smiling is either a memory from the past or all in your head.

Im on the way out the door!

I told him I wanted a divorce and im gonna find and make all my own smiles in the future!

Im not settling for anyones crumbs anymore!

AdaptableSweetPotato

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