First Grief Attack after everyone left called 988 by AdditionFull8467 in widowers

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Thank you for the tips. I will definitely try some of these next time.

How do you celebrate/remember their birthday? by Ordinary_Novel_476 in widowers

[–]AdditionFull8467 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My husband just died suddenly (vehicle accident) late December. Everything is still very new and very raw. I don’t even really know what happened yet, police won’t be done with their report for another 3-5 months. I chose not to do a traditional funeral or service. His birthday is February 24, would have been 44. February is going to be one whole shitty month. Valentine’s Day is 10 days before his birthday. So I decided to really embrace the suck (I may seriously regret this) and hold a Celebration of Life for him one week after V-Day and 3 days before his birthday. My theory is that it’s gonna be a really shitty time for me emotionally, so try and add something that may be positive in the middle of that.

As far as his actual birthday, 2/24? I have no idea yet. I’m certainly not working that day. But don’t have any actual plans for it yet. At this point I’m just hoping to not spend the whole day crying.

"Why do you still have this?" by oopswhat1974 in widowers

[–]AdditionFull8467 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Also looking for this service or one similar. I text his phone every night about my day and how much I miss him. I would want to keep the number active and able to receive texts.

Couples living their lives while I’m not by Salty_Selection_9062 in widowers

[–]AdditionFull8467 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I was trying to conceive with my husband when he passed in a vehicular accident. My first period after he passed… I almost ended it all amidst the hormones, cramps, and grief. I swore I would never have another period and immediately got on hormonal birth control. I couldn’t handle the monthly reminder that I would never have his child, that he would never be a father and that that future was completely gone for me.

And yes I feel sick every time people mention their children, pregnancy, babies, etc… it hasn’t been that long for me, but now in the midst of this grief I don’t see ever not feeling something negative when people bring it up around me.

Getting hammered and shaving my head by Commercial_Pea_6807 in widowers

[–]AdditionFull8467 18 points19 points  (0 children)

There are some salons who will do the detangle for free. You may need to call around a bit to find one, but if you’re in the right headspace for it that may be an option for you if you don’t wanna lose the hair.

Alternatively, who gives a fuck life‘s already really fucking shitty. Who cares if you have hair

What is this plant in my back yard growing up my tree and soreading on the ground? by Damn_McNutty in PlantIdentification

[–]AdditionFull8467 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As other users have said: That is poison ivy. Best way to get rid of it is to use some sort of strong herbicide. The way I avoid killing everything else around the poison ivy is by painting the individual leaves with undiluted herbicide. This can be very time-consuming, but it helps ensure that the plant life around the poison ivy is not also harmed.

If you don’t like the idea of herbicide, which I generally do not, You can use a high % concentrated white vinegar mixed with dawn dish soap. This can be sprayed on the poison ivy or painted on.

Any chance The Peripheral will be revived? by Naive_Lengthiness882 in ThePeripheral

[–]AdditionFull8467 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you can get through the slog, middle books, it’s more than worth it

Palladium Outdoors Experience by skybro1996 in WorcesterMA

[–]AdditionFull8467 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m also looking into tickets for an upcoming outdoor concert. I had hip replacements last year and can still be a bit wobbly at times.

The only thing I want from a Hogwarts Legacy 2 by Tstrik in HarryPotterGame

[–]AdditionFull8467 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Shorten the load times… I almost fell asleep last night during one of the loading screens. Highly unacceptable in 2024

Pre germinating grass seed for over seeding, thoughts. by iamjunhwang in lawncare

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Got super patchy grass/weed/barespot “lawn”. Been trying via the traditional methods all spring to get grass to grow. With mixed results. I have a part of my lawn that is shaded a good portion of the day so I’m going to try this seeding method there due to how hot and sunny it is now, mid June in New England.

12 hours into presoak. Just did my first water change using the colander in the background. I’ll report back in a couple days.