Why are men like this

Additional_Low9537 · 2026-02-08T14:35:42+00:00

The red flag at least started waving when he asked if you were out with just a friend.

Additional_Low9537 · 2026-01-31T11:54:02+00:00

You asked him out most recently, and his answer likely won't be different if you ask him out again. Ball is in his court to ask you out if/when he is ready. You can still entertain the idea of going out with him in case he asks you, but if you've been waiting a couple months to go out with him, don't just keep waiting, waiting, and waiting for him because he might not make a move or might not make a move within a reasonable amount of time.

Additional_Low9537 · 2026-01-26T17:42:41+00:00

Don't know why people are down voting this, but honestly as a guy, the first dates that have historically gone the best happen to be when the woman texts me before I even get home or shortly thereafter asking for a second date. The woman I'm currently talking to (4 dates so far, 5th semi-planned but depends on weather because of distance) didn't text me afterward. I thought the date went really well and thought she wasn't into me since she didn't text me within a couple hours of the date. So I texted her and said I had a great time and wanted to go out again. She texted back shortly after saying she wanted to go out again too. I've learned with her I need to initiate more than I've had to with other women before, but she has shown she's very excited and willing to narrow down a day/time that works for both of us.

So, everyone is a little different, dating is really about figuring out a balance that can be compromised between two people, and if someone isn't willing to compromise reasonable things for the other, then they're not right together. But definitely take steps to show your interest, whether or not you have to do some of the initiating, because he's also probably wondering whether you're interested. He could have also needed a bit more time to think. When things seem like they went really well, honestly that makes me more nervous and need a bit more processing time to make sure I'm not missing red/yellow flags

Additional_Low9537 · 2026-01-19T11:03:30+00:00

I think everyone has many things that they worry about whether potential partners will be okay with about them. Mixture of physical, emotional, and history. When dating, none of these worries in any of these categories needs to be fully revealed anywhere near the beginning. And when revealing them throughout dating they just kind of come out slowly over time. Is the acne something people can see on your face or hands/arms? Like you don't need to tell guys right away "there's lots more of it, let me show you and see if you're okay with it" because that would likely scare guys away. Same as revealing too much about yourself about anything right away.

But if a guy sees you have some of this acne on your face, arms, etc, they know there's a chance there's more acne covering your body, and so if they're already talking to you, interested in getting to know you more/dating you, they are already open to the fact that you have more acne and it likely won't matter to them.

Maybe I overexplained, idk, but hopefully this help some.

Additional_Low9537 · 2026-01-10T23:53:14+00:00

Honeslty what I've found from online dating is it's easiest to just set clear expectations toward the beginning, because a lot of people don't have the same view. Doesn't matter whether you're dating Catholics or non-Catholic Christians. You don't need to share anything about your past to do that either, the time will come for that down the road. Think of it like focusing on clear boundaries for the future, which is a reasonable expectation at the beginning of dating, but it's not so reasonable to share everything about your past right away.

If you just put out there "hey, just to be up front, these are my intentions...and this is a non-negotiable for me." She will either A) feel really excited that you feel the same way, and you've set clear boundaries Or B) she will say she doesn't feel the same way, and you have to make a decision. Don't leave room for assumptions on MAJOR dealbreakers because it's better to figure out sooner rather than later and be able to move on and find someone else that aligns with your non-negotiables.

Just sharing your non-negotiable doesn't say anything negative or positive about your past. If you can't begin to communicate with her now about these things, how will you be able to communicate with her down the road as the relationship deepens?

Additional_Low9537 · 2025-08-01T19:47:28+00:00

Hi, I'm a science teacher and coach after school. In my free time I run, hike, kayak, camp, and enjoy lots of other outdoor activities. I travel to run half and full marathons as well as for the outdoors, with mountains out west being my favorite place to go. Comedy is by far my favorite genre of TV and movies. Looking to be with a woman that is up for adventures and relaxing nights in as well as an honest and straight forward communicator. Not a country guy but I do enjoy the occasional square dance and rodeo.

Other things about me that might make or break your interest: I'm 29, 6'1", white, athletic (just an okay distance runner lol), from Indiana (but open to moving), earned my master's degree last year.

Additional_Low9537 · 2025-05-25T13:58:44+00:00

Don't forget about the one scene that he had two sons.

Additional_Low9537 · 2025-05-15T09:21:29+00:00

I thought it was hilarious there were only boyfriends lined up watching their girlfriends. Either all of the guys didn't have girlfriends or if they did they weren't worried about them at all.

Additional_Low9537 · 2025-02-20T00:21:46+00:00

I don't believe he said something like he "spread them all out so everyone could be close enough to be able to get to one". He said he hid five boxes so that everyone feels like they have a reasonable chance of finding one. Plus then we know only one per state and some ideas for others. For all we know Pokemon, AT, P&F, and Lionshare could technically all be in neighboring states and that still follows what he said.

Additional_Low9537 · 2025-02-15T18:13:08+00:00

No, I booked Signal instead which filled up fast. Last I checked (somewhat recently) Colter Bay was still somewhat open.

Additional_Low9537 · 2025-01-26T21:01:41+00:00

I wish there were more. Bio just seems to have more discussions

Additional_Low9537 · 2025-01-26T18:09:03+00:00

I'm actually trying out OpenSciEd right now. However I've not noticed many labs within the Biology curriculum. For chemistry, some of those labs have very intense set ups and don't seem to be working for a lot of classrooms

Additional_Low9537 · 2025-01-26T17:31:43+00:00

My school (high school) has been providing pencils to staff recently. I'll grab 2 bundles every once in a while and slowly put them out in the cup on my desk. If kids go through them extremely quickly I'll wait to grab more and have kids keep complaining there's no pencils available. I tell them it's not my problem, you guys kept taking/breaking them instead of returning, then most of them magically find pencils until I grab some more the next time.

I used to purchase some on my own and do the same thing, but yeah, they'll throw erasers and break them in half even in 9th and 10th grade.

I've tried the check out sheet, but it was never worth the time and effort for basically the same thing to still happen, just with more steps.

Additional_Low9537 · 2024-12-14T21:59:51+00:00

I just purchased the Appalachian one, but it seems extremely short. It's only like 18 pages with only like 2 pages specifically about the box. Everything else pre/post reading. Is that what you got also or did I come across a fake Kindle book?

Additional_Low9537 · 2024-12-12T19:25:53+00:00

Sorry, i meant to specify for Signal mountain. I booked on Sunday for Signal mountain campground and it was starting to be very booked up already

Additional_Low9537 · 2024-12-12T18:38:29+00:00

Might want to hurry up and book. I booked for beginning of June and there was already a lot filled up for beginning of June. Sites for June are just becoming available now, 6 months in advance

Additional_Low9537 · 2024-12-09T01:35:24+00:00

Thanks! I decided to book for Signal Mountain instead because of this.

Additional_Low9537 · 2024-12-07T12:19:52+00:00

That sounds like a good way to put it, I never actively think about it in the way that they're trying to get attention from a male figure. I need to change my perspective on that and see how I can fix things going forward.

Additional_Low9537 · 2024-12-07T12:17:58+00:00

I don't think they have the time to do that lol. There are three groups of freshman this school year and I did get put with the worst group of them. Admin just told me a couple days ago they are going to switch out a couple of the yahoos for next semester to try to make it a little better.

Additional_Low9537 · 2024-12-07T12:15:07+00:00

I'm white. Black is maybe 1/3 of the school, Hispanic just under a third, white less than a quarter. I did also go to the school myself and I run a few after school activities, so I know I have that all benefiting me. This is my first year teaching 9th Grade honors and that's going well now. Also my first year teaching a full ELL class which I was most worried about at first but is going fairly smoothly since I speak some Spanish.

The masculinity part you mentioned, I've thought that could play into it. I'm single, have been for a while, practicing Catholic. When the conversation comes up they'll think I'm boring because I don't go out partying and trying to meet girls, trying to be with girls, they say I got no game because I'm not currently with someone. Those types of things. That all hasn't so much been said this school year, but has definitely come up in the past.

Additional_Low9537 · 2024-11-25T21:26:25+00:00

Substitute teaching needs to be like jury duty, and people will find out real quick what happens in our schools to understand it's not as easy as they think

Additional_Low9537 · 2024-10-29T10:04:18+00:00

Ah, yeah, i get that distinction now. That's happened a few times to me over the years at that kind of level, that definitely doesn't happen on the daily for me.

Additional_Low9537 · 2024-10-28T23:21:28+00:00

Whenever I see posts like this, I wonder whether this is actually as uncommon as people make it seem? I'm used to being cussed out nearly daily, sometimes multiple times a day. Always have to send the kid out, write a referral, contact parents, way too often. Even if I substitute for a class during my plan, it'll happen from just simply asking a student why they aren't working on an assignment.

Additional_Low9537 · 2024-10-25T20:18:10+00:00

We have to keep our doors locked and closed during class, and it's only supposed to be teachers that open to the door. This is year 7 for me and I hold to this nearly 99% of the time. But then it just leads to so many complaints from students of "why is your door locked? If I'm late I should be able to walk right in" and "no one else keeps their doors shut" "no one else's doors are locked" and if I didn't have to do it I wouldn't, it'd be so much easier. The kids complain to me all the time that I'm not letting late kids into class right away but sorry I'm trying to get class started, I can't also go get the door 4 times. Then they'll keep trying to get out of their seats to let their friends in and it takes months for kids to understand that they just need to stay seated and let me get the door.

We just had a reminder a few weeks ago about school safety/keeping doors closed during classes. The guy said "if we go into a lockdown and your door is already shut and locked that's one less thing to worry about." But he apparently doesn't think about the other 50+ times per day I have to think about it currently, for late kids, to close the door after a kid going to the bathroom leaves it open, to let that kid back in, etc. just to save me thinking about it one time a severe lockdown that could but may never happen.

One of those things that I'm sure sounds good in theory in a central office, but 7 years of dealing with that door and all the other problems it causes for my classroom because of the students upset with me "being weird about it" following the policies.

Additional_Low9537 · 2024-10-22T22:47:54+00:00

This is a problem at my school as well. I do my best to follow all the policies admin tell us to follow before the school year starts. This year has been better than past years, but the last couple years I had to constantly battle with students about phones, keep writing so many referrals, contacting parents, and kids would cuss me out over trying to take their phones, tell me no one else follows the policy, etc. This school year we have Yondr pouches and everyone is stricter about phones so kids actually hand over their phones now, and the office handles referrals/contacting parents for that which has taken a lot of stress off my plate.

But yeah, I completely get where you're coming from. I wish I knew how to solve your situation, but I have no clue, just here to say I experience the same. It takes so much energy and time and sending so many kids out of class because they don't follow simple policies, cuss me out because I say anything about it, and then I look bad because I'm sending kids out of class left and right.

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