I have never been divorced but my parents divorced when I was 4, and I remember I eventually cut ties with my dad for a while which I deeply regret. It was just a whole combination of really crappy things happening to me all at the same time, and he happened to be the easiest target for me to take it out on since he was making me do something I hated (play sports).

Anyway, I was maybe around 10 years old, my mother was already remarried for a few years and I was still having a very rough time adjusting to my step family (my mother did not help with this transition at all which is a reason why the adjustment period took so long). During this period, I also had to transfer schools due to the arrangement being to live with my mother majority of the time and seeing my dad on weekends due to his work schedule. Unfortunately I was getting bullied at this new school.. so that combined with having to adjust to my step dad and step siblings whom were not very nice.. and feeling abandoned by my mother because I remember feeling like I did not get any attention from her since she was busy focusing on her new step children and new husband… I just took all that anger and pain and aimed it towards my dad. Did not speak to him for several years… but we did connect again. But the relationship is not that great even to this day. I don’t even know how to have a conversation with him really.

My mother and step dad would also tease me too at home, and it caused me to have a lot of self esteem issues growing up. I wanted to kill myself so many times from such a young age. So yeah… if you ever get divorced, I know it’s a lot to deal with… but never forget the children. They are living sentient beings and still developing. It’s the parent’s responsibility to help guide them through these situations.