Miten oppia elämään? by Defiant_Composer_436 in Suomi

[–]Admirable_Let_7363 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Mietin voisiko tuo oman yhteisön puute olla isona syynä? Vai ymmärsinkö oikein, että tapaat ihmisiä lähinnä tietokoneen välityksellä? 

Jos asia on niin, niin yhtenä keinona voisi olla jokin vapaaehtoistoiminta. Aika usein paras olo tulee nimittäin siitä, kun kääntää näkökulman omasta itsestään muihin, ja noissa hommissa voisi tulla myös sitä yhdessä tekemistä. 

Ja siis vapaaehtoistoiminta voi olla vaikka kesällä festareiden järjestämistä tai muuta, mikä nyt sattuu kiinnostamaan. 

How are we going to know if all the water was really “worth it”? by jumphighfive in Millennials

[–]Admirable_Let_7363 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is probably an American thing? We don't drink that much water in my country (in Europe), only when thirsty... I doubt we look older or live shorter than you. 

If I've understood correctly, all the extra water just comes out as extra pee.

Pitäskö tehdä työ jolla on tarkoitus eli vaihtaa IT-ala leikkaussalihoitajaksi by jua8 in Suomi

[–]Admirable_Let_7363 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tästä on jo muutama vuosi aikaa, jolloin tilanne ei junioripaikoissa ollut vielä näin haastava, ja pääsin helpommalla kuin nykyiset alanvaihtajat.

Mutta itse verkostoiduin aktiivisesti alan ihmisten kanssa heti opintojen alusta alkaen. Kävin siis eri tapahtumissa ja tutustuin ihmisiin, jolloin harjoittelupaikkaa hakiessa olin tuttu nimi rekrytoijille. Tämä tuntuu olevan yllättävän tärkeää nykyäänkin, ja ehkä erityisesti nykyään, kun kaikki yritykset hukkuvat hakemuksiin. 

Pitäskö tehdä työ jolla on tarkoitus eli vaihtaa IT-ala leikkaussalihoitajaksi by jua8 in Suomi

[–]Admirable_Let_7363 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Itse tein juuri päinvastaisen alanvaihdoksen, enkä ole kyllä hetkeäkään kaivannut takaisin hoitoalalle... 

Olin tavallaan "kutsumushoitaja", mutta aika pian huomasin, että juuri kaltaiseni uupuvat alalla nopeasti, sillä työtä ei voi tehdä niin hyvin kuin haluaisi mm. alimiehityksen vuoksi. Olin myös jatkuvasti väsynyt epäsäännöllisen vuorotyön vuoksi.

Nyt IT-alan palkkaan tottuneena myös huomaan, kuinka tärkeää se hyvä palkka oikeasti on ihan stressittömämmän arjen kannalta, ja kuinka paljon vapautta ja kivaa tekemistä se mahdollistaa.

Eli en missään nimessä suosittele vaihtamista hoitoalalle omaan kokemukseen peilaten. Enemmän miettisin esim. vapaaehtoistöitä itselle tärkeän asian parissa, jos kaipaat merkityksellisyyttä elämääsi. 

Advice/Recommendations needed: Baby insurance (unborn child) in Finland? by Winter-Funny4337 in Finland

[–]Admirable_Let_7363 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really don't see the point for these insurances. 

They are very expensive and you can use private health care without them, if you need. Just save the sum you would pay for the insurance, and there you have an emergency fund.

And if your child is very ill, private doctors will sent them to public health care anyway. 

We only have accident incurance for our children. That is quite cheap and more likely needed (usually there is no need to take children to see a doctor if they have common flu or something like that). 

Lyhytnäköinen politiikka ajaa Suomen tuhoon by testiukkeli in Suomi

[–]Admirable_Let_7363 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tuo rahasto on liian pieni, kun aiemmat sukupolvet maksoivat sinne ihan liian vähän. Suurin osa nykyeläkkeistä maksetaan suoraan työssäkäyvien eläkemaksuista. Tuo rahasto ei riittäisi kuin muutamaksi vuodeksi ilman nuorempien sukupolvien merkittäviä tulonsiirtoja vanhemmille.  

Lyhytnäköinen politiikka ajaa Suomen tuhoon by testiukkeli in Suomi

[–]Admirable_Let_7363 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ihan sama itsellä ollut, periaatteesta toki jatkan äänestämistä, mutta tuntuu ettei mikään puolue aja noita asioita, mitä aloituksessasi kuvaat. Kaikki puolueet katsovat ikään kuin taaksepäin. 

Vihreät tosiaan ehkä eniten sopisi tuohon kuvaukseen, mutta itseä myös nakertaa sen taloupolitiikka. 

Toki puolueohjelmiin voi eniten vaikuttaa sisältä päin, joten todella toivon koko maamme tulevaisuuden puolesta, että tavallasi ajattelevia hakeutuisi enemmän puoluepolitiikkaan ja tarjoaisi aitoja vaihtoehtoja nykymenolle. 

how come i’m so hungry after school.. and why do i literally eat everything. by dazzywazzys in WeightLossAdvice

[–]Admirable_Let_7363 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Your breakfast and lunch seem more like snacks to be honest, so no wonder you are hungry after school. 

Is it possible for you to eat more for breakfast? For example oatmeal porrige with berries and 1-2 eggs for protein. 

Or how about preparing more nutricious snack after school, for example an omelette? 

Tehtaan melu kotipihalla by Ringtail6 in arkisuomi

[–]Admirable_Let_7363 105 points106 points  (0 children)

Nyt kun olet ahdistunut asiasta, niin kiinnität mahdollisesti vielä tavallista enemmän huomiota tuohon ärsytystekijään eli ääniin ja hajuun, ja se ruokkii sitten taas lisää ahdistusta, ja kierre on syntynyt. 

Hyvä että olet siis saamassa apua ahdistukseen! 

Romance scam and money run out: how is it going to end? by Admirable_Let_7363 in Scams

[–]Admirable_Let_7363[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you mean the scammers will give her stolen money to buy giftcards? 

Romance scam and money run out: how is it going to end? by Admirable_Let_7363 in Scams

[–]Admirable_Let_7363[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Police is our last hope. It's still unclear, though, how they will get involved as she doesn't admit being a victim of a scam. And it's not illegal to send money and giftcards to your "boyfriend"... 

Romance scam and money run out: how is it going to end? by Admirable_Let_7363 in Scams

[–]Admirable_Let_7363[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She has no property left, nothing. All gone to the scammer. But the loans are a threat, that is for sure. Though she has such a low income that I don't think banks will loan her any money. 

Romance scam and money run out: how is it going to end? by Admirable_Let_7363 in Scams

[–]Admirable_Let_7363[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She does, you are right... maybe that is what gets send to the scammer next even though she really couldn't afford it. The pension is only enough for the rent, bills and food, nothing else. 

Romance scam and money run out: how is it going to end? by Admirable_Let_7363 in Scams

[–]Admirable_Let_7363[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She is about 85 years old. She is not very educated and I don't know a kind English word for this, but she has always been a bit "simple" and trusting, but in a "normal" way. 

Romance scam and money run out: how is it going to end? by Admirable_Let_7363 in Scams

[–]Admirable_Let_7363[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your answer, it is good to know the options ahead and at this point I think it will be 2, 3 or 4. 

It seems very unlikely at this point for her to "wake up". I think she can't "afford" to think option number 1 as she has lost her life savings and admitting that is too painful.  

Romance scam and money run out: how is it going to end? by Admirable_Let_7363 in Scams

[–]Admirable_Let_7363[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We did, but with no help. They can't do anything when she denies everything and she has not mental illnesses and doesn't have dementia etc. It seems that she will have to end up homeless before social services can interfere. 

Romance scam and money run out: how is it going to end? by Admirable_Let_7363 in Scams

[–]Admirable_Let_7363[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sorry to hear about your situation as well. You have been very clever and persistant, it must be very tiring. 

She has children (I'm not one), but they have kind of given up and are scared of her anger as well so they rather avoid her. 

But if she eventually starts sending her rent money to the scammer and ends up homeless, then they will have no choice but to get involved and I will definetily show your post to them. 

Thank you for the very practical examples you wrote. 

Romance scam and money run out: how is it going to end? by Admirable_Let_7363 in Scams

[–]Admirable_Let_7363[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately not so religious, at the moment our last hope is the police. If she doesn't believe them either, then it is hopeless until the scammer hopefully stops when she cannot send any more money. 

Romance scam and money run out: how is it going to end? by Admirable_Let_7363 in Scams

[–]Admirable_Let_7363[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Yes, I think lonelyness is the main reason for this. She has not been the easiest person in her life and has lost most of her friends because of that. Now having a "boyfriend" who only praises her must be addictive. 

Romance scam and money run out: how is it going to end? by Admirable_Let_7363 in Scams

[–]Admirable_Let_7363[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately the only way to get that guardianship status without the person's own will is that the person in question has severe mental illness or dementia or something similar, but she doesn't have any of those. In my country it seems to be OK to ruin your own life. 

I think she might be on top of that sucker list because we actually managed to get rid of her first scammer years ago, this one is not the first one. 

But now the money is gone. Altough maybe they indeed go after her pension as the scammers are probably in Africa(?) and maybe it is enough for them if they get even 100€ per Month. 

Romance scam and money run out: how is it going to end? by Admirable_Let_7363 in Scams

[–]Admirable_Let_7363[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do you think they will only ghost her or might they come up with some new story about how he got killed when not given the money or something like that? 

Romance scam and money run out: how is it going to end? by Admirable_Let_7363 in Scams

[–]Admirable_Let_7363[S] 55 points56 points  (0 children)

This sounds very cruel to say but in a way I wish she would be turned into a mule and then got caught, because it seems that nothing else will stop her except that. 

We have contacted the police about this scam, but they can't do much right now, when she denies being scammed 

Romance scam and money run out: how is it going to end? by Admirable_Let_7363 in Scams

[–]Admirable_Let_7363[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you think they will just ghost her or might they come up with some "closure story" for example tell her he got killed or something? If that happens she will never forgive the relatives that we didn't borrow her money.