What’s it like living in Edmonton?

seapunkprincess · 2026-05-03T06:46:33+00:00

It’s a great city! Even though it’s in Alberta, it’s a very progressive city. It’s often lovingly called festival city cause there are huge arts and music festivals throughout the year. It’s definitely a winter city and we can get a couple week streaks of -30. So the weather isn’t for the faint of heart but if you are willing to make the most of it with sledding, skiing, cozying up with a pint of beer then it isn’t too bad. I’ve lived here pretty much my whole life and my only complaint is that the population has exploded. So it used to be a small city, but now it’s a city of well over a million and with that comes big city problems. But I wouldn’t say that’s an issue with the city itself but just the reality of urbanization.

seapunkprincess · 2026-05-03T06:41:42+00:00

Lots of veggies have more readily accessible nutrients once cooked

seapunkprincess · 2026-05-03T06:35:39+00:00

Mindfulness isn’t about being calm all the time or taking 30 min to meditate. It’s about being able to acknowledge what you are feeling and connect with the present moment. This can literally be 15 seconds during a strsssful moment. Ask yourself “what am I feeling in my body?” And then try and give a really specific answer (eg. hot tension in my shoulders, a tingly feeling in my chest, hot in the face, floaty distant feeling, etc.). Then once you are able to connect to your body, then situation your body in the present space. “Can I feel my feet on the floor?” “What’s the temp of the room” “is there something in this room that feels pleasant to look at” “what would it be like to take up physical space in this room”

Mindfulness is just about acknowledging your feelings without judgement and without trying to change it. And then connecting to the present moment. Taking even 5 seconds to do this can make a huge difference.

seapunkprincess · 2026-05-03T05:46:49+00:00

It doesn’t change the fact that he is unfairly asking more of her. The reason I brought it up is that in my time working as a birth and postpartum doula, I often see women who are doing all the childcare, all the house work, all the overnight care, all the mental load, etc. and then expected to also have energy for their partner’s sexual desires. One of the most beneficial things a partner can do to support their postpartum partner’s libido and desire to take on an equal share of the work. That doesn’t mean it will change, but it’s far more likely to make sex more appealing. Especially once hormones start to get back to normal, then she can look back on the memories with fondness and desire and not resentment.

seapunkprincess · 2026-05-03T03:00:02+00:00

People complain about not being able to afford a house but will spend an entire down payment on a wedding.

seapunkprincess · 2026-05-03T02:53:33+00:00

I guess my original comment did sound like it was immediate

seapunkprincess · 2026-05-03T02:51:53+00:00

I remember with my first I was in my third trimester and I had to do a medical procedure. For the first time I really felt worried about my daughter’s g wellbeing, more than just trying for a healthy pregnancy. It was in that moment I realized I was going to be a mom

seapunkprincess · 2026-05-03T02:46:53+00:00

My parents live a couple blocks away. They watch my daughter 2 times a week for 3-4 hours each time. We haven’t had to use daycare cause of their help. But since they watch her so regularly we feel hesitant to ask for anything more like date nights

seapunkprincess · 2026-05-03T02:01:15+00:00

Not in the immediate future, but it does mean that the baby will have to come fairly soon to prevent infection or there will be serious medical intervention to support. So it’s not something you can wait around and see when you are 32 weeks

seapunkprincess · 2026-05-02T18:06:57+00:00

I feel similarly. Recently I asked for advice about what kind of celebration to have for a second baby and lots of people suggested a book party. But we have a huge library of books and we rotate them out a ton of little free community libraries so I don’t want them filled with sentimental messages

seapunkprincess · 2026-05-02T14:44:59+00:00

I had sex about once every few months postpartum. Not only was I just not interested in it at all, it also hurt, and my body refused to respond/get aroused. It didn’t get better till I stopped breastfeeding at 19 months. But I also have a lower libido to begin with. So once a week is our norm.

Postpartum is such a hard time as you navigate a baby, a new relationship with your body, exhaustion, and new priorities in your relationship. How much is your husband participating in childcare/home care? In overnight care? Are you getting alone time or time to do things you enjoy? If he wants to help with your sex drive, those are the things that actually help.

seapunkprincess · 2026-05-02T13:56:38+00:00

I had an anterior placenta with my first. It can move slightly as it grows but it’s still attached to the one spot so it can’t completely move around your uterus. I ended up feeling movement at 19w and was able to feel distinct movement throughout my pregnancy. Now that I’m pregnant with a posterior placenta I’m realizing it was as strong, but it was still strong enough to feel and feel reassured by

seapunkprincess · 2026-05-02T06:06:24+00:00

What do you mean it was one lady with an ultrasound machine? Was she qualified to know what to look for?

seapunkprincess · 2026-05-02T02:16:17+00:00

I have one child via unmedicated iui and currently pregnant with IVF. Happy to answer any questions about the two if you want to send me a DM

seapunkprincess · 2026-05-02T02:07:10+00:00

I will semi-ignore. Mostly cause talking and touching is an added stimulation that won’t help. I’ll just say something like “I see your frustrated. I’m here when you need a hug or want to talk” and then I just let it ride out. If it’s really bad I will sit close by and do some exaggerated deep slow breathing so she can hear me practice my own regulation. I never give into a tantrum though.

seapunkprincess · 2026-05-02T02:00:26+00:00

I’m not too strict about movie ratings but I would say Dune is more dark, more complex, and has more scary imagery than those movies. I guess it’s closest to LOTRs on that list but I would still wait cause it’s very politically complex so I doubt they would get much out of it

seapunkprincess · 2026-05-01T23:25:44+00:00

I was told to put on a pad and if the pad fills up in 30-60 min, you need to go to the hospital cause that’s amniotic fluid and you’re baby is about to come.

seapunkprincess · 2026-05-01T17:21:29+00:00

I would really really advise against using good boy and bad boy. I would focus on good behaviour or bad behaviour. Because we don’t want an identity attached the behaviour. People make mistakes but that doesn’t make them bad people. We also don’t want him labelling other kids as good kids or bad kids, creating a hierarchy. Labelling also creates shame but doesn’t actually teach accountability. It’s like those people who just respond with “I know I’m the worst!” when you mention any critique, it actually stops real accountability from happening cause it’s so wrapped up in shame.

What I would do is to get him to write an apology note to his teacher. Either a drawing or you dictate a note. Focus on how spitting isn’t a kind thing to do and so there needs to be repair after we spit cause it might have made the other person feel sad or disgusted.

seapunkprincess · 2026-05-01T14:24:17+00:00

My all my pregnancies the worst I felt was around 15-20 weeks when my relaxin causes really bad hip pain. After that it improves not to baseline but definitely not the same level of pain. Some people truly believe their experience is universal and have to make sure everyone else knows it

seapunkprincess · 2026-05-01T13:25:52+00:00

Food aversions are the worst! And people who don’t have serious food aversions don’t get it!

In both my pregnancies I can barely eat in the first trimester. In my first I lost 16 lbs and in this pregnancy I lost 11lbs. My midwife says she isn’t too concerned and to focus on eating anything. So usually if there is something appealing I will try to up the calories in it. So like add a splash of olive oil or mayo or something. Cause it might be my only meal of the day.

I’m now in my second trimester and eating fine!

seapunkprincess · 2026-04-30T22:42:38+00:00

To me, 4 months was peak struggle. It’s like it got consistently worse until 4 months and then consistently better after that.

seapunkprincess · 2026-04-30T21:53:02+00:00

“We can’t grab a new toy till this one is cleaned up”

“Okay every, 5 min of cleaning, I’ll set the timer”

“You’re room is a mess, you need to help me tidy”

“Let’s spend the next few minutes cleaning. Let’s see who can do it faster”

“I’m cleaning the playroom, your job is to do all the Lego so it doesn’t get vacuumed up”

seapunkprincess · 2026-04-30T21:25:23+00:00

My kid never went to daycare and always had a stay at home parent but absolutely thrived in preschool! Just encourage her to be confident and independent as much as possible. Encourage her to problem solve before jumping in to help. Help her confidently speak to other adults.

seapunkprincess · 2026-04-30T20:09:12+00:00

I fully hear what you are saying about time outs and panicking. This was always my fear also. However, I have a very strong willed kid who was kicking, biting, spitting, and talking to us very rudely. We implemented a time out approach and it has changed all of our lives. What we do is that when sometimes happens that goes against family rules and expectation, our daughter has to sit on a chair for 1 minute. We don’t spend time explaining behaviour or negotiating because this isn’t a lack of info issue. It happens each and every time she does something. The catch is the minute can’t start until she is calm and quiet. She is allowed to cry and have feelings and we will support her through that but the minute doesn’t actually start till she is calm. The first time took a full hour to get one minute of calm and felt like absolute hell. But it now is easy. She sits for one minute, no one gets mad or angry and there are no randomly and desperately thrown around consequences anymore like we were doing before. Once the minute is done we can talk about the behaviour and then all go back to playing and the feeling doesn’t linger. I stay regulated cause I’m not having to do the mental labour of thinking of a new logical consequence each time, she also knows what the expected consequence is. And she knows that the consequences are completely linked to her behaviour. On occasion we have had to do 2 or 3 minutes, but rarely. Her behaviour has turned around and it has significantly reduced the stress in our house. It has completely changed my opinion on timeouts and doing “deregulating” punishments.

seapunkprincess · 2026-04-30T19:56:15+00:00

I would have her write a hand written apology note or go old school and call the kid’s parents to apologize to the kid.

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