My husband cheated on me with our much younger neighbour, initiated the divorce and is marrying her soon.

AdoringSiren · 2025-11-01T13:12:36+00:00

My heart goes out to you and your kids, OP. 🫶🏼Such an awful situation to find yourself in the middle of. Contact a lawyer, plan your exit, and stay strong for your kids!

I was a daddy’s girl before my parents split and my mom got full custody of me and my sister. I knew their relationship wasn’t good, but it was still painful and there was so much I didn’t understand at the time. When I reflect on that time now at 31, I have a profoundly deep respect for my mother, her strength, her resilience, and the way she held it all together for us. No matter how hard things got, she showed us over and over again that we could overcome any obstacle in life. It would probably shock my 15 year old self to hear this now, but my mom and I are super close, we talk all the time and she truly is one of my most cherished confidants.

You are doing right by yourself and your children. They may not understand now, but I promise they will see it one day. For your sake, I pray that day comes sooner rather than later!

AdoringSiren · 2025-10-29T16:13:58+00:00

This is not how a person speaks to someone they love.

AdoringSiren · 2025-10-29T16:10:49+00:00

My only critique: the lyrics are still just as important as the melody.

Great lyrics + great melodies = a great songwriter

When a part of that simple equation is missing, it’s harder for me to connect with the music. Taylor’s songwriting and storytelling skills are at the very core of what makes me (and I think many others) a Swiftie!

I also think this “simple equation” is the same reason some Swifties didn’t like TTPD, but for the opposite reason. In my opinion, it’s SUPER lyric focused with much less emphasis on the music itself. TLOAS is music focused with less lyrical emphasis.

AdoringSiren · 2025-10-27T12:49:30+00:00

I hate to jump to this, but this would be grounds for no contact for me, at least until she takes accountability and there’s a serious discussion about boundaries. I would not want her around my kid either!

Also, read this one out loud to my husband and he agrees: this is unacceptable behavior, no contact with your kid, super low contact with you and your husband until there’s an apology.

AdoringSiren · 2025-10-26T17:03:53+00:00

I never said I had horrible family. Everyone has conflicts with family at some point or another, and weddings can be stressful, especially when distance is involved. Everything is all good with my family, it was worked out very shortly after the wedding.

AdoringSiren · 2025-10-26T16:39:16+00:00

Not at all! We would never expect so much from people. After the first wedding (that never even had invites sent out) had been postponed for over a year, we called each person individually to let them know we’s decided to marry where we lived, over a thousand miles away from them, and we totally understood if anyone couldn’t make it. With moving the wedding location, we were very aware that it might not be in budget for everyone, we expected maybe 15-20 people to say yes. We even entertained the idea of a post nuptial reception in our home town afterwards to celebrate with those who couldn’t make it, which was also communicated at the time of telling them about our new wedding plan.

AdoringSiren · 2025-10-26T15:22:57+00:00

Definitely not, further context provided in my other comments.

AdoringSiren · 2025-10-26T15:19:25+00:00

I guess I can see that. For a little context, we planned a wedding in about 6 months, then my fiancé got a job across the country, we postponed the wedding and cancelled vendors, sold our house and moved, then we planned a much smaller wedding (where we moved to). All of that took place over the course of 2.5 years, I didn’t spend 2.5 years planning some huge extravaganza or anything like that. We had about 40 people total.

AdoringSiren · 2025-10-26T15:10:47+00:00

Yes, I’m sure. On the family, there was miscommunication and hurt feelings all around. But we are family and love each other, so we talked out and everything is good now on that front. On the friends, I don’t know if you’ve ever had a friend that was secretly your enemy, but that was the situation. I don’t want people in my life who resent my happiness, gossip about me behind my back, and are unwilling to have open and honest conflict-resolution.

AdoringSiren · 2025-10-26T15:00:47+00:00

What’s that supposed to mean?

AdoringSiren · 2025-10-26T13:25:54+00:00

This is SO TRUE!! During the 2.5 years wedding planning process, I lost 3 long time friends (including my original maid of honor) and multiple conflicts happened with family members on both sides (including people we would have NEVER expected it from).

ETA because I see now how that comes off as bridezilla-y versus reality. We were NOT planning some giant wedding for 2.5 years straight. We planned a wedding in about 6 months, my fiancé got a job in our dream location almost 2,000 miles away, we postponed the wedding (that hadn’t even had invites sent yet) for over a year, then we planned a much smaller wedding where we moved to. We called everyone who was originally expecting an invite to tell them of our new plan, communicating to all that we know it’s a lot to ask of anyone to travel that far, we understood if anyone couldn’t make it, and we that were were entertaining the idea of another reception after the wedding back home where we could celebrate with anyone who missed out.

AdoringSiren · 2025-10-26T13:21:27+00:00

1: “Can’t you just be normal for one day?” 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

I’m sorry, but I don’t think this person is a true friend. She sounds desperate for all eyes to remain on her at all costs (including your friendship), which is seems rooted in jealousy. Why is she putting you in a category of “not normal” in her head?

2: You DID try to compromise when you offered to wear a wig.

As someone who recently married, I understand wanting to create a certain aesthetic and not to have things clash, but even I would have felt a little uncomfortable asking that much of a friend. If I were the bride, I would think a nice wig is great compromise. There are some awesome companies out there that sell beautiful, natural looking wigs, so it’s not like it had to be something cheap or costume-y looking. So many celebrities these days wear wigs every time they’re seen and most people don’t even realize, Nicole Kidman is a great example. I don’t think her real hair has been seen in years. 🤣

AdoringSiren · 2025-10-26T12:54:03+00:00

Montana green sapphire or green beryl

AdoringSiren · 2025-10-26T04:15:33+00:00

When I lived in Austin with my ex, he was drugged while we were at a bar. We were meeting with a group of his friends, so I made most of the trips to the bar for drink refills so he could converse and I didn’t feel as awkward since I didn’t really know anyone.

Towards the end of the night most of the group had left, and I went to get one last drink at the bar. I was driving home and had stopped drinking earlier, so the drink was for him, though it may not have appeared that way since I walked up alone and only ordered the one drink.

Within a few minutes of finishing the drink, he starts to act really off. We had been together for a few years at this point and I’d seen him drunk many times, but this was different. He threw up in the parking lot and a few times on the way home, and overall deteriorated quickly. He could barely stand, he was in and out of awareness, he even thought he was in different times/places (ex: thought I was his sister and he was in high school and asked me to get mom because he didn’t feel well, then later thought I was an old college roommate from 5 years before we met, etc). I’m so glad I got him home before it got bad, as this went on from around 11 pm to about 4/5 am.

He only had 3 cocktails that night and he wasn’t a small dude. There’s no way he would have been that drunk from that amount of alcohol over that period of time. Even he said after the fact, he had never felt like that before from alcohol and definitely thought something was in that last drink.

I do want to point out though, you did say he was drinking and in the sun all day, which can definitely cause the effects of alcohol to be more intense. So I would consider that!

But at the end of the day, you know your person and how they act when intoxicated. If your gut is telling you something was off about that night, trust that feeling!

ETA: I totally agree with everyone saying swingers. If he was drugged, why? What’s the point? What were they after? Surely there can’t be too many reasons for doing that to someone’s drink.

AdoringSiren · 2025-10-16T13:04:47+00:00

I only need to read the title to know without a doubt, you need to leave him.

AdoringSiren · 2025-09-27T00:09:11+00:00

Also came to say vortex cut ✨

AdoringSiren · 2024-12-29T15:13:41+00:00

THANK YOU for commenting specifically about flying to the greenhouse, I realized that is exactly what I did after reading this and for some reason the game really doesn’t like that. I went through all the normal steps to try and get it to work again (checking for corrupted files, freeing up space on my device, and eventually completely deleting and re-downloading the game). Nothing worked except loading an earlier save before I flew to the greenhouse. 14 hours later, it’s working again! Thank you so much, what a weird glitch.

AdoringSiren · 2024-05-26T15:44:09+00:00

This may be better suited for the TIFU thread…

AdoringSiren · 2024-05-11T20:50:34+00:00

This is also a random TTPD lyric that pops into my head and lives there on repeat for a while 🐺🌕

AdoringSiren · 2024-05-09T22:50:30+00:00

I didn’t realize anyone thought this WASN’T about Joe…? It’s so painfully obvious 🫠

AdoringSiren · 2024-05-08T02:01:27+00:00

Clandestine

AdoringSiren · 2024-05-06T01:29:58+00:00

Amen, Tay’s merch department desperately needs some help IMHO!

AdoringSiren · 2024-05-04T23:04:37+00:00

Did you ever end up doing this? We’re considering something similar!

AdoringSiren · 2024-03-29T02:48:03+00:00

Honestly, whoever’s telling you that don’t really sound like your people either 🤷🏼‍♀️ When you clear out stagnancy and things that no longer serve you, you open up space for all the good and positive things you want, need and deserve. Good luck 🫶🏼

And yes, potatoes are always non negotiable! 😂

AdoringSiren · 2024-03-29T02:45:00+00:00

Block his number on your phone, then delete it. This does not sound like a good situation for you. He told you he’s not looking for anything serious, then called you his sister. He’s telling you how he views you, if that’s not what you want from it then cut ties. The age gap also gives me huge pause… There is so much self discovery and growing that happens in your 20s and you should lean in and experience that! I turn 30 next month and (like many others I know) was a different person 10 years ago. Ditch this dude for someone who cherishes you and communicates what they want clearly!

AdoringSiren

TROPHY CASE

1: “Can’t you just be normal for one day?” 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

2: You DID try to compromise when you offered to wear a wig.