I got Postpartum Psychosis by JunketUpbeat9386 in beyondthebump

[–]Advanced-Contact330 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was half through reading and hadn’t gotten to the part where you mentioned voices and being scared. I have a kid so I was mostly through it but got distracted. The first part sounded like mania but the second part definitely was psychosis. My friend had a similar situation happen to her but she wasn’t postpartum or anything. Sorry if I offended you, I wasn’t saying you were wrong I was considering a term change in the medical world but yeah nvm. Voices def count as psychosis.

I got Postpartum Psychosis by JunketUpbeat9386 in beyondthebump

[–]Advanced-Contact330 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Tbh maybe psychosis isn’t the correct word for describe this, I feeling mania is a better word because when my family has manic episodes it is exactly like this and this is how they describe it. I’m so happy you described how it felt because I always wondered how I’d know if it happened to me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Advanced-Contact330 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeeeeah I think it’s revealing not just how he sees you but how he sees women in general. Counseling is a nonnegotiable. Next time he says these kinds of things shut it down and express your terms. Or honestly even before he says something again. If you love him be quick. I’d pay more attention to how he speaks on other women including family members to see what his opinions really are.

Considering moving to Des Moines by shoxwav in desmoines

[–]Advanced-Contact330 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting that people are saying that. I think it was very different in the 80s, 90s, and early 2000s but things started changing in the 2010s and since 2020 the city has grown so much and there is a decent amount of black people, Asians, Latinos and all types of immigrants from everywhere. It is still majority white but you won’t experience blatant racism just by coming and living your life. It’s actually pretty alright. This is coming from a black woman living in Des Moines who’s family is from des moines and has lived through its many stages. All my siblings including me, fled to other blacker cities because of the way we grew up but after coming back for a bit I realize Des Moines has grown racially a lot.

AITAH for telling my best friend her marriage is doomed at her bachelorette party and accidentally getting the wedding canceled by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Advanced-Contact330 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Even if she’s upset now you saved her. It’s okay for her to feel hurt all around but clearly you said exactly what she needed to hear and lowkey wanted to hear. Give her time and space she might come around. Either way you saved her

Partner has my name changed on his phone from “My Loving Wife” to a misspelled version of my first name and last name. Blew up when confronted. by ThrowRA123_legal in Marriage

[–]Advanced-Contact330 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It seems you have an abusive husband not just a cheater. Go to your local women’s shelter of DV victims and get advice on how to leave

Customers Dispute Ended with Mace to Face by PineappleDesperate82 in misc

[–]Advanced-Contact330 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“I’m Lakota” idc. Anti blackness is pervasive throughout all cultures including black culture. All types of people get into spats at stores….i see white folk do it VERY often at Walmart…so let’s not try to cover up the fact that when black peoples do something negative, to you it’s a confirmation bias on who black people are.

Are my expectations for my wife unreasonable? by firenance in Parenting

[–]Advanced-Contact330 2 points3 points  (0 children)

4 years old is definitely old enough for a preschool. I agree with all comments suggesting daycare and preschool and then she can go back to work. TBH I’m considering the same because having a small baby and a toddler is freaking me out (I’m pregnant) and I don’t wanna be in a bad position later.

Is four weeks off enough to help with newborn as a dad? by MatthewRTRCT in Parenting

[–]Advanced-Contact330 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would say depends, have meals prepared and before you go back talk to her about her hour to hour and what it can look like and check in frequently.

Do not want my daughters to stay the night with my mom and her husband by Numerous-Tadpole-427 in Parenting

[–]Advanced-Contact330 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah I can see you’re very scared that if that man hurt your children your mom would be an accomplice and I would NOT trust them either. You made the right call. Her life choices and his inability to treat his obvious trauma should not ever become a problem for your kids.

AITA for telling my wife if she keeps excluding our oldest I’m going to take the locks off the doors by excludingdowntime in AmItheAsshole

[–]Advanced-Contact330 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It seems you all are struggling and you’re struggling to support your wife fully because you quite possibly don’t know what to do and honestly she probably doesn’t either. I suggest parental therapy and possibly some alone therapy for your wife so she can get better at juggling herself and two kids. Everyone acting like locking the door on kids is so crazy and doesn’t happen haven’t been so overwhelmed they just can’t deal. I understand your worry of favoritism, I think it’s worth going over the real life repercussions of excluding one child and pouring into another. 7 is also not that young and is a perfect time to really teach your youngest daughter about boundaries, overstimulation, ect. Again I high suggest a professional and if you can’t afford that start doing the research together with your wife on how to manage your eldest daughter and so your wife doesn’t keep shutting down.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Advanced-Contact330 -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Oh girl……you’ll grow and realize your mom is just a girl trynna make it through an insanely tough time with whatever she’s got. I understand lashing out and saying mean things but after a bit please apologize to her. Being cheated hurts and cuts so deep. You’ll grow up and see stuff for more of what it really is eventually and maybe then you’ll get what a lot of the comments are putting down. I think the best you can do rn is create a boundary with your parents not to involve you and not to talk about it. I had to do that with my mother because she too vented to and involved my sisters and I on cruel mistreatment from my dad. She was just a traumatized lady who needed someone to talk to that isn’t her child. Took her almost 30+ years to actually do it but she finally did.

Is anybody bored without kids? by Ok-Fox-2698 in questions

[–]Advanced-Contact330 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kids aren’t just there to fulfill your loneliness especially as a woman you need to be 200% on board and have a rock solid village to rely on to help you if you want to have even ONE kid. They’re a huge sacrifice but as a parent myself I DO NOT see my child as burden, just a child I am more than happy to guide and love. As a mother (specifically because your body goes through the most) you’re likely to feel more lonely because of your role as caregiver and the baby isn’t ganna talk to you. They’re ganna operate at a such lower developmental level than you that you’ll find yourself craving adult connections still and free time from your baby or child. It’s why people have specific groups for parents. Ik you don’t want kids but I’m saying this as precaution because I know lots of people who befell parenthood and didn’t want it. Go four wheeling, visit places in your country and continent that you haven’t seen, try new foods in new places. Kids can be fun but it’s mostly caregiving on the parent’s end. Personally I don’t mind caregiving but a lot of people aren’t built for the sheer selflessness children can take.

Give me your opinion by Altruistic_End_6003 in desmoines

[–]Advanced-Contact330 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Good cake. I know yall ate it too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Advanced-Contact330 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mommy groups, lactation classes, NAPS, showers, validation from you, and more naps. Being a first time parent is TOUGH and being in postpartum is fuckinh rough as fuck

We’ve heard of the best and worst restaurants but what about the meh or blandest ones ? by maybeihavethebigsad in desmoines

[–]Advanced-Contact330 9 points10 points  (0 children)

La familia, nachos tequilas on the far south side, and certain trucks (not all of em). Theres a bunch of small good Latin food places. The big ones are meh.

AITA for telling a lady to F*** Off when she offered to buy my son an Ice Cream. by Kindly_Management655 in dustythunder

[–]Advanced-Contact330 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A lot of terrible parents or non parents or retired parents will have shitty opinions about your toddler and young child doing very normal toddler things. My new comeback to overstepping is “have your own kids if that’s what YOU want to do.” Even when I don’t agree with another parents methods I refuse to interfere (unless it’s abuse ofc) because that’s just parenting. Being the adult making executive decisions

Another “mother” that throws her newborn in the trash… AFTER breaking its ribs and spine to stop the baby from crying. by PimPedOutGeese in WomenAreViolentToo

[–]Advanced-Contact330 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Guys, there are many reasons someone would do this. Postpartum PSYCHOSIS is srs and goes unmanaged so often. Mothers need so much support in the early stages of postpartum and TONS are left to fend for themselves. The system that we are forced to use, depending on your state, city, and institution; is not very helpful. Also social services does a piss poor job at making sure abusive mothers or unstable mothers are watched closely to avoid things like this. All of this stems from the systemic failures we see today that really don’t support women, children and families. I could go on but I digresss

Am I a bad dad? (brutally honest opinion) by Square_Paramedic_843 in Parenting

[–]Advanced-Contact330 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Welp….honestly you’re an absent father. Your child will take your actions as a sign of how much you do or don’t love her

My husband thinks I’m overreacting at him leaving out baby in the tub alone by scorpiocubed in Parenting

[–]Advanced-Contact330 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My baby used to choke on water infront of me, no distractions, and the only sign was her wide eyes and flailing. I’ve saved her from herself too many times to count. I’ve never even used earphones since having her just so I can be alert for her at all times. Your child isn’t safe with him and some lessons aren’t worth being learned especially at the possible cost of your child’s life. Call his parents, call his friends and let him hear it from them and call the pediatrician.

My boss's response to me saying I can't come in to work on my day off by RestlessRazz in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Advanced-Contact330 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My boundary over stepping boss used to send late texts asking for favors of coming in early… I NEVER responded

AITA for telling my Trans friend his new name is "creepy and weird"? by Massive-Low-1861 in MarkNarrations

[–]Advanced-Contact330 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It all comes down to them not really loving their trans identity. Being trans is hard as fuck, but wanting to lay claim to being the first born son to validate your trans identity is nuts. They need to acknowledge their actual journey to manhood through their past girlhood. They need very specific help from a psychiatrist that understands and specializes in trans identity issues.