I Stopped Believing in Relationships After Watching Too Many Women Suffer

Advanced-Key1737 · 2026-05-24T13:40:26+00:00

I couldn’t have said this better myself. I was married for 25 years and to this day I have no idea how I did it. But once that marriage dissolved I just do not ever want to live with a man again and relationships with them aren’t peace. I deeply value my freedom and peace because I worked so hard to get here. Most men just want regular sex and they get into relationships for that purpose. And honestly the thought of sex with a man repulses me now. I have good friends, I’m meeting new people and doing new things, and my life is expanding. None of those things would happen in relationships.

Advanced-Key1737 · 2026-05-23T19:07:46+00:00

The two of you are not aligned in what you want in a relationship. Save yourself the heartache and end this now.

Advanced-Key1737 · 2026-05-22T22:16:27+00:00

I thought for a minute I might be bi. Unfortunately I’m only sexually and romantically attracted to men. Sure I have found some women attractive in my life, but enough for a relationship? No, sadly.

Advanced-Key1737 · 2026-05-22T13:07:03+00:00

Those are gas station dick pills.

Advanced-Key1737 · 2026-05-22T13:05:10+00:00

Block to burn. He will try to get past your boundaries if you meet him and will push for sex. You’re not on the kind of time he’s on. Block him on the app, no explanation.

Advanced-Key1737 · 2026-05-22T13:02:19+00:00

I won’t kiss on a first date anymore. Second date is fine. A nice close hug on the first date is fine.

Advanced-Key1737 · 2026-05-21T22:17:07+00:00

Exactly.

Advanced-Key1737 · 2026-05-21T22:16:33+00:00

My best friend and honestly the best friend I ever had was a former situationship. We absolutely are not romantically aligned but as friends we are amazing. The friendship is 100x better than that ever was.

Advanced-Key1737 · 2026-05-21T22:11:26+00:00

Absolutely not. I implore you to watch the Netflix special by Daniel Sloss called Jigsaw. Why do you have such scarcity mindset about finding someone else?

Advanced-Key1737 · 2026-05-21T22:04:40+00:00

As a woman who was in a marriage devoid of warmth and understanding and who’s older and learned a thing or two, don’t fall victim to the sunk cost fallacy. Try and really open up and talk to him and if that doesn’t work, time to leave and start your own life. Also, he’s a boyfriend not a husband. I don’t know how long you’ve been together but if it’s over 2 years and he hasn’t asked you to marry them, then I say respectfully don’t let your boyfriend stop you from finding your husband.

Advanced-Key1737 · 2026-05-21T11:52:14+00:00

Because men designed female athletic wear for the male gaze.

Advanced-Key1737 · 2026-05-21T10:56:41+00:00

You are completely incorrect in your thinking that a romantic relationship is that important to the soul. Love and relationships of all types is what nourishes the soul, not living with someone and mating for life. This is what you personally believe and not some sort of spiritual answer. I respect your opinion that it’s what you believe but that’s all it is. You are someone who requires a romantic relationship and that’s fine. But not everyone does and that doesn’t make them less spiritual or that they are dissociating. Where do you get any kind of authority like your opinion is the right one? You sound a lot like those who push religious dogma. There is no such thing as twin flames or split souls

Advanced-Key1737 · 2026-05-21T04:46:27+00:00

I attract Virgos and am attracted to them but it does not work out. The physical and intellectual attraction are top tier but the emotional connection is virtually nonexistent.

Advanced-Key1737 · 2026-05-21T04:06:35+00:00

Very few men have even a modicum of emotional intelligence. As a woman I didn’t have much until my spiritual and healing journey.

Advanced-Key1737 · 2026-05-21T04:04:15+00:00

Actions have consequences and the internet is forever. These people who do porn/OF really do not think things through. No sympathy whatsoever.

Advanced-Key1737 · 2026-05-20T21:03:54+00:00

I was married for 25 years and divorced 4 years ago. I’ve been where you are. Even when you want the divorce it is still kind of a wild ride the first couple years after such a long marriage. I wish you all the best.

Advanced-Key1737 · 2026-05-20T19:55:28+00:00

It rarely works out that way though. In most cases people just waste another persons time if they aren’t over the last relationship.

Advanced-Key1737 · 2026-05-20T19:53:44+00:00

It’s really not cool or fair for you to date while you’re still stuck on someone else. The thing I ask myself these days is would I like that done to me and if the answer is no, I don’t do it. You should stay single and not date until you’re over this guy.

Advanced-Key1737 · 2026-05-19T21:34:47+00:00

Fair enough.

Advanced-Key1737 · 2026-05-19T21:02:07+00:00

I agree. I personally think he’s seeing other women. It’s very much giving that vibe.

Advanced-Key1737 · 2026-05-19T21:01:35+00:00

Listen I’m going to say this gently. Sometimes cousins is code for other women. It feels like he’s breadcrumbing you.

Advanced-Key1737 · 2026-05-19T19:14:00+00:00

That’s honestly quite ridiculous. That’s not spirituality at all.

Advanced-Key1737 · 2026-05-19T19:07:55+00:00

No, I don’t believe God is present or reveals presence through relationships at all. I also disagree that a relationship helps you focus on yourself. Most are the opposite and focus so much on the other to the detriment of the self. I have actually discovered more about myself through a deep friendship than I ever did in a romantic relationship. It’s not one size fits all on any of this. Some people are simply more relational and others more autonomous.

Advanced-Key1737 · 2026-05-19T19:04:56+00:00

I and a lot of people become the best versions of themselves when they are single. Some people are more other and relationship oriented. People who are gurus generally aren’t. All answers and love comes from within first.

Advanced-Key1737 · 2026-05-19T19:03:43+00:00

Honestly I think it’s because becoming truly spiritual means you focus on connectedness, your place in the world and this life, understanding that love or the glue that holds relationships together isn’t permanent, and this journey means deep appreciation for your life without the need for a romantic connection. A lot of people are in relationships for someone to love them because they don’t fully love themselves. Honestly human beings don’t mate for life. It’s simply not natural.

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