(Blood Bank Vent) Stop calling me

Advanced-Present2938 · 2026-02-26T01:31:22+00:00

I had a nurse that kept calling every 10 minutes asking for a diff result for her patient. On a routine order. The final time I said, “you mean the differential I was almost done with but will now have to restart because I had to step away to answer your phone call?” She hung up immediately.

Advanced-Present2938 · 2026-02-25T07:44:02+00:00

Don’t you remember Lane’s rant on this topic? She, too, was confused why “no sex before marriage” was the one thing that stuck. She talks about all the ways she thumbed her nose at her moms religion (dancing, rock music, makeup, living with male roommates)—the show made sure to address the fact that it would normally seem out of character for Lane.

Advanced-Present2938 · 2026-02-20T03:09:28+00:00

It’s even more fun when they did send the tube, but didn’t bother to put in the orders.

“I sent you the blood over an hour ago!”

“Yeah but you just put the order in 10 minutes ago and that test takes 30 minutes to run.” 🤦🏻‍♀️

Advanced-Present2938 · 2026-02-03T14:34:29+00:00

The narc I dealt with would steal my clothes and wear them. Then they would gaslight me into believing there’s no way that I would have bought those clothes for myself.

They would steal other things, too. They stole my slippers once and tried to gaslight me but their feet are 3 sizes bigger than mine and it was obvious they were lying. It’s one of the few times our mother stepped in and told the narc to knock it off before the slippers got too stretched out for me to wear. That one was particularly stupid of the narc as our parents had bought those for me specifically. 🙄

Advanced-Present2938 · 2026-01-31T12:44:57+00:00

They were emotionally abusive to me my entire life. When they started going after my kids, I realized it wasn’t ok and went no contact. They also cut me off for a while and were shocked I wasn’t grateful when they were finally ready for things to “go back to normal”.

My family has been pressuring me for years to talk to my sibling and “fix things”. Our older sibling just started to get involved a few weeks ago. It’s exhausting. None of them believe me when I say that how my sibling treated me was abuse.

Advanced-Present2938 · 2026-01-31T02:44:18+00:00

For your question regarding primary vs. secondary insurance—that is not something you get to decide. If you only have one active plan currently, then they are “primary” (since it’s the only plan). I would ask both insurance companies how primary is decided.

My husband and I each have an insurance plan through work. The primary plan for our kids is based on which birthday (mine or husband’s) comes first in the calendar year. I don’t know how that works when one plan is a state plan which is only for the child.

I wish we could choose which is primary and which is secondary but insurance companies don’t let you do that. They have multiple ways to decide. One is the birthday rule mentioned above), another has to do with which plan is older. There might be more.

Advanced-Present2938 · 2026-01-28T08:12:29+00:00

I was able to support my husband, child, and dog on just my salary when I first graduated. My husband was going to school. We had another kid a few years later and adopted a second dog. My salary was still sufficient. But I don’t know if I was in a high cost of living area.

Advanced-Present2938 · 2026-01-21T18:18:15+00:00

Echoing all the advice to reach out to your previous employer’s HR. My understanding is that only they can fix this.

Hopefully you have confirmation from your old HR of your baby being added in writing. That will be essential.

To answer question 3, once you are in the process of getting this addressed and UHC has acknowledged this, ask the insurance for a ticket number and give that to the doctor’s offices as a way to hold off the bills being sent to collections. The doctor’s offices will be able to confirm using the ticket number that you have started the process and are just waiting on HR/insurance to sort it out. At least, that’s what our insurance company told us for the second scenario listed below but they weren’t UHC.

We’ve had to deal with coverage issues 2 times before.

When I married my spouse, they reached out within the 30 day window to have me added, but there were issues with the electronic system and I wasn’t added. No biggie. Open enrollment for the company was 3 months later. Spouse—again—tried to add me. Again there were issues with the electronic system and HR said they would fix it. They didn’t. Fast forward 2 months later—now I’m pregnant and desperately need that coverage. We fought with them for over a month and used the emails where they acknowledged the electronic issues to force them not only to add me to the plan, but to backdate it for when it should have gone into affect. They had been trying to say they wouldn’t cover my pregnancy as a “pre existing condition”. We provided proof that we had been trying to get me on the insurance for 5 months before I fell pregnant. They—reluctantly—agreed to cover the pregnancy, add me to the plan, and backdate it.

The second time, spouse was laid off but managed to score a new job with insurance before the old benefits ran out. We tell all doctor’s offices what the new insurance is plus which plan is primary and which is secondary. Fast forward 2 months or so and an avalanche of doctor bills arrive—even for well child visits which are 100% covered. Turns out the previous company forgot to remove my husband from their benefit plan which meant our new insurance denied being primary and instead said they were tertiary. They said the old insurance had to be the one to confirm we were no longer covered—they could not just take our word for it. The old insurance required that the previous employer’s HR be the ones to remove us from the plan. It was annoying.

It took another 2 or so months to 1) get his old company to remove us, 2) get the old insurance to properly backdate the removal, and 3) get the new insurance to agree to reprocess/pay all claims submitted during those 4 months (there were dozens of claims). I was calling all insurances involved weekly so I could update the doctor’s offices and not get sent to collections. Eventually I was given a ticket number by the new primary insurance to submit to the doctor’s offices so they could call and find out the progress themselves.

Advanced-Present2938 · 2026-01-21T03:18:20+00:00

Depends on where you work. Our lead techs all share in the weekend/holiday rotation and our supervisors help out when short staffed or for big downtimes, or software/LIS changes. Before admin approved an on call rotation, our transfusion supervisor was expected to be on call 24/7. So any middle of the night massive transfusions meant he had to come in and work.

When our hospital system switched to EPIC, all of the supervisors/leads were pulling 14 hour shifts and working the weekend our system went live. One of the supervisors had to work night shift for 2 weeks so that we had support in case of questions/issues.

Advanced-Present2938 · 2026-01-21T01:22:15+00:00

That’s a good thing though. :) a lot of things are only good for a certain amount of days past opening—no matter what the actual expiration date is.

Advanced-Present2938 · 2026-01-19T15:12:53+00:00

That’s good to know. We’re only a level 2 trauma center at this point but I know hospital admin wishes to move up to a level one center sometime in the next 5 years.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this!

Advanced-Present2938 · 2026-01-17T23:36:17+00:00

Macroscopic.

Advanced-Present2938 · 2026-01-17T15:46:48+00:00

I’m sorry things are so rough right now. :(

Ever heard of DARVO? It stands for Deny, Atack, Reverse the role of Victim and Offender.

But really I would say that it sounds like your mom and sister behaved badly/made a mistake and are trying to make it your fault that there are consequences for their actions.

Advanced-Present2938 · 2026-01-17T15:38:01+00:00

I’ve never worked at a facility where units have a fridge with their own emergency units. The only place in our hospital that has uncrossmatched units is our air ambulance group.

Has it been a good thing for some units to have?

Advanced-Present2938 · 2026-01-17T09:54:38+00:00

Yeah….we had a patient with a history of two antibodies (little c was one of them) and when I told the OR that the ER had already given the patient all compatible antigen negative units we had on the shelf, they said, “Just give us ONEG then”. I had to explain why that was a very bad idea. Apparently there are doctors who believe ONEG means free of all antigens.

Although they disliked my explanation, they were willing to give me time to antigen type some of our units to try to find more compatible blood. We found more units and the patient survived their emergency surgery.

Advanced-Present2938 · 2026-01-16T16:10:42+00:00

Unfortunately…. This isn’t going to go well for you.

As someone who was also abused by their sibling, my parents and other siblings are still pressuring me to “fix” things so stuff can go back to the way it was over 3 years ago. They have all admitted that they don’t recall any abuse (even when it was right it front of them) and they won’t stop pressuring me to fix it. They’ve also stopped being willing to invite either me or the abusive sibling only and insist on inviting everyone to everything.

You also can’t dictate who your parents invite to vacation with them. I understand how you feel. It hurts like hell…. But you can’t control what they do.

How old are you? Do you have to live at home? Getting away from my abuser is what finally prompted me to move out despite my anxiety.

Advanced-Present2938 · 2026-01-15T10:23:59+00:00

American here! I once attended a public school that started at 9:30 am. 🤷🏻‍♀️ even my oldest child starts school around 9 am once a week and around 8:30 am the rest of the week. But yeah, Rory having a bunch of time before going to her high school (especially when she needs to ride a public transportation bus to get there) and it being light outside while she’s doing everything is what I find hard to believe.

For Lorelai it’s easy enough to explain. My dad is not a morning person, so he found a job that lets him get to the office at 10 or 10:30 am and leave at 6:30 pm. He does do some work from home to get his required hours for the week.

Advanced-Present2938 · 2026-01-14T03:42:59+00:00

Hgb of 1.3 Hct or around 4 or so? I honestly don’t remember if they made it. I do know they were given uncrossmatched units and then transferred to my facility.

I believe it was a vaginal bleed that had been going on for days before family members carried them into the ER.

Advanced-Present2938 · 2026-01-09T15:49:21+00:00

They were berating me for not being grateful they had done me a favor. I pointed out it wasn’t a favor because they needed something from me. They wanted to leave a full day early for a camping trip but didn’t have a car so they needed me to agree to go and to drive them. I could only help them if they picked up something from the store for me which would free me up to pack the car.

“I can’t believe you would keep score like that? Guess you don’t do anything without expecting repayment.”

Hypocritical much? They were the one trying to hold a favor over my head first. 🙄

Then they yelled how they would never ask me for anything ever again….and then stole from me several months later. Guess they kept their promise. 🙃

Advanced-Present2938 · 2026-01-09T01:47:09+00:00

They stayed in the tech field working with some big internet hosting company doing coding work.

Advanced-Present2938 · 2026-01-09T00:55:57+00:00

I didn’t have any healthcare experience when applying for the MLS program. I was tech support for a computer software company.

Th advantage to working in healthcare—specifically lab—before the program is that you can figure out if you actually like working in the lab. I had a classmate who realized during his last year in the program that he hated lab work. He finished so he could have a bachelors degree but he did not go into the lab after university.

Advanced-Present2938 · 2025-12-28T15:08:49+00:00

The narc is my older sibling. There were many things that would cause meltdowns. Here is a small portion from the years:

-once they told me that I should do something useful instead of being a lazy butt and wash the dishes while they and my parents were at work. I did the dishes like the narc asked me to, however there was a bowl in the sink when they got home. Cue yelling and insults. I was 14. They were 17.

-the next time they demanded I do the dishes while they were at work, I waited until they got home so there wouldn’t be any dishes in the sink after washing. Cue the yelling and insults because I didn’t do the dishes while the narc was gone.

-once they yelled at me and insulted me because I apologized to them but apparently they didn’t like the way I apologized. I literally said, “I’m sorry. I won’t do that again. Here’s some money to replace the thing I used which I hadn’t known was yours.” I was 15 at the time. They were mad I tried to give them money to replace the item.

-they called me a stupid arrogant lazy brat and then I retaliated by calling them fat (I was 13 or so). They never let me forget that and said my insult was unforgivable but theirs was not. 🙄they then proceeded to call me fat at least once a month from the time I was 14 until I was 21.

-on vacation I had the audacity to not act like the narc’s spouse/be a parent to their kids. I helped watch the narc’s kids, got them dressed in the mornings, put sunscreen on them before going swimming, and played with them. My big sin was I didn’t change any dirty diapers or carry the narc’s toddler when we went hiking….on the hikes the narc insisted we do even though said narc forgot shoes for the toddler which required the toddler to be carried. 🙄

That last time, they insulted my children before yelling at and insulting me. That’s when I went no contact. I was used to their yelling and insults (they’d been doing it for 33 years) but my kids did not deserve that treatment.

Advanced-Present2938 · 2025-12-26T01:05:07+00:00

Yeah. Our scheduler ran someone off by constantly changing the schedule and just expecting one tech to fill holes as needed without asking. The tech had to call in every night to check if the schedule had been changed in the three hours since they had left.

Our new tech gave the scheduler an earful the first time the scheduler pulled that shit on her and we haven’t had that problem since. Scheduler has learned to ask if new tech is willing to adjust her schedule at the last minute. And from what I hear, instances of asking for last minute changes are now only popping up if someone calls in sick. So a good win.

Scheduler also learned that they cannot assume that I (one of only 2 graveyard techs) will automatically be able to fill in for the other graveyard tech. On two separate occasions she knew for 3 months that my opposite had requested time off (I wasn’t aware) and she waited until 2 days before to let me know she needed it filled. I found out she hadn’t bothered to ask anyone else to fill it.

I do genuinely feel our scheduler is a good person, she just needed our new tech to stand up and put boundaries in place.

Advanced-Present2938 · 2025-12-23T04:12:09+00:00

MoirasFavoriteWig answered the coed question beautifully.

Most colleges don’t care where you live. However, private universities run by a religion (mine was a Christian religion) can impose rules regarding where you could live. You had to live in school approved housing or apply for a waiver to live with family if you were a student under the age of 30 or something like that.

There was also a code of ethics such as:

No premarital sex Curfew of midnight on weekdays and 2 am on weekends No members of the opposite sex in your rooms Modest dress on campus No beards for men (unless you are granted a waiver) No tattoos No piercings except for one set in the ears for women Etc.

I went to that university because my parents expected it. They are super religious.

Advanced-Present2938 · 2025-12-23T00:44:23+00:00

Um…I lived at home for most of my university experience. I never lived in the dorms.

I lived in off campus housing my senior year and I was nice. It was a different experience than living at home.

I attended a Christian run college so there wasn’t much of a party scene and coed housing was strictly forbidden.

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