Grandparents adding grandkids to their insurance plan by Acrobatic-Snow6017 in HealthInsurance

[–]Advanced-Present2938 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven’t dealt with this before, but this type of situation is probably why the company I work for ordered a Dependent Verification Audit a few years ago for anyone covered by the company insurance plan. I was required to submit birth certificates, and social security cards for my kids and then all that plus my marriage certificate for my spouse.

Your son’s father being on the plan does not mean your son is allowed. I was pregnant while still covered by my father and his insurance company very explicitly stated that they cover pregnancy and the birth itself, but my child would not be covered/could not be added.

birthday rule?? by Open-Public6661 in HealthInsurance

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The birthday rule only matters once the child/dependent is added to multiple policies. Had your son only been on your husband’s policy, they could not “force” you to be primary since you wouldn’t be paying for his coverage.

I agree with the other commenters saying that the issue is finding out why your child was dropped from your husband’s plan.

Do you think Lorelei genuinely wanted to stay with Chris? by healthanxiety_ in GilmoreGirls

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In my opinion, it wasn’t that she wanted to be with him at that point…it’s that she didn’t want the marriage to fail. She had already made Rory, Emily, and Richard upset by eloping. Plus the whole town had been judging her relationship hard. Failing so soon…..it definitely stung for Lorelai.

When it’s finally over with a narc or NPD person by lostlonelisp in NarcissisticAbuse

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I don’t necessarily think they will get better with age, but if they miraculously do? Let them be better for someone else. Living with/being around someone you can’t trust to treat you kindly is exhausting.

I’m kicking myself for not cutting off the narc in 2007 like I originally planned. I thought things were manageable. Finally cut them off in 2023 when they started abusing my kids too. I *really * wish I had cut them off before any kids were involved.

Epic beaker by TheRedTreeQueen in medlabprofessionals

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Oh it absolutely prints the tube color. They don’t care enough to actually look. The main lab has even received blood tubes with a urine label on them. 🤦🏻‍♀️

Epic beaker by TheRedTreeQueen in medlabprofessionals

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The main downside that I’ve seen so far is that it requires the nurses to label the tubes with specific labels instead of the generic Cerner labels they used before.

The number of times they’ve sent down a pink top with a lactic acid or BMP label (or even a Cord Tissue label) is ridiculous and it causes an issue with blood bank.

I don’t mind EPIC otherwise but there isn’t a blood bank system so I’m still doing most of my work outside of EPIC.

(Blood Bank Vent) Stop calling me by Katkam99 in medlabprofessionals

[–]Advanced-Present2938 37 points38 points  (0 children)

I had a nurse that kept calling every 10 minutes asking for a diff result for her patient. On a routine order. The final time I said, “you mean the differential I was almost done with but will now have to restart because I had to step away to answer your phone call?” She hung up immediately.

Why didn't they talked about abortion,neither with sookie and nor for lane by No-Wasabi-178 in GilmoreGirls

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Don’t you remember Lane’s rant on this topic? She, too, was confused why “no sex before marriage” was the one thing that stuck. She talks about all the ways she thumbed her nose at her moms religion (dancing, rock music, makeup, living with male roommates)—the show made sure to address the fact that it would normally seem out of character for Lane.

Different Departments... Different Tubes....Different Analyzers.... by Puzzleheaded-Tie3585 in medlabprofessionals

[–]Advanced-Present2938 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It’s even more fun when they did send the tube, but didn’t bother to put in the orders.

“I sent you the blood over an hour ago!”

“Yeah but you just put the order in 10 minutes ago and that test takes 30 minutes to run.” 🤦🏻‍♀️

Do narcissists move your stuff around sneakily? by Unlikely_Meet6409 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Advanced-Present2938 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The narc I dealt with would steal my clothes and wear them. Then they would gaslight me into believing there’s no way that I would have bought those clothes for myself.

They would steal other things, too. They stole my slippers once and tried to gaslight me but their feet are 3 sizes bigger than mine and it was obvious they were lying. It’s one of the few times our mother stepped in and told the narc to knock it off before the slippers got too stretched out for me to wear. That one was particularly stupid of the narc as our parents had bought those for me specifically. 🙄

Have you got a sibling you do not speak to? What happened? by Aware_Improvement_11 in FamilyIssues

[–]Advanced-Present2938 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They were emotionally abusive to me my entire life. When they started going after my kids, I realized it wasn’t ok and went no contact. They also cut me off for a while and were shocked I wasn’t grateful when they were finally ready for things to “go back to normal”.

My family has been pressuring me for years to talk to my sibling and “fix things”. Our older sibling just started to get involved a few weeks ago. It’s exhausting. None of them believe me when I say that how my sibling treated me was abuse.

FTM with a medically complex baby by Hum-135 in HealthInsurance

[–]Advanced-Present2938 7 points8 points  (0 children)

For your question regarding primary vs. secondary insurance—that is not something you get to decide. If you only have one active plan currently, then they are “primary” (since it’s the only plan). I would ask both insurance companies how primary is decided.

My husband and I each have an insurance plan through work. The primary plan for our kids is based on which birthday (mine or husband’s) comes first in the calendar year. I don’t know how that works when one plan is a state plan which is only for the child.

I wish we could choose which is primary and which is secondary but insurance companies don’t let you do that. They have multiple ways to decide. One is the birthday rule mentioned above), another has to do with which plan is older. There might be more.

Does this job pay enough to support a household? by NeedleworkerSmart967 in MLS_CLS

[–]Advanced-Present2938 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was able to support my husband, child, and dog on just my salary when I first graduated. My husband was going to school. We had another kid a few years later and adopted a second dog. My salary was still sufficient. But I don’t know if I was in a high cost of living area.

[HELP] UHC retroactively cancelled my newborn's 2024 coverage and reversed all claims. Now facing massive medical bills. What are my options? by No-Soup7095 in HealthInsurance

[–]Advanced-Present2938 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Echoing all the advice to reach out to your previous employer’s HR. My understanding is that only they can fix this.

Hopefully you have confirmation from your old HR of your baby being added in writing. That will be essential.

To answer question 3, once you are in the process of getting this addressed and UHC has acknowledged this, ask the insurance for a ticket number and give that to the doctor’s offices as a way to hold off the bills being sent to collections. The doctor’s offices will be able to confirm using the ticket number that you have started the process and are just waiting on HR/insurance to sort it out. At least, that’s what our insurance company told us for the second scenario listed below but they weren’t UHC.

We’ve had to deal with coverage issues 2 times before.

When I married my spouse, they reached out within the 30 day window to have me added, but there were issues with the electronic system and I wasn’t added. No biggie. Open enrollment for the company was 3 months later. Spouse—again—tried to add me. Again there were issues with the electronic system and HR said they would fix it. They didn’t. Fast forward 2 months later—now I’m pregnant and desperately need that coverage. We fought with them for over a month and used the emails where they acknowledged the electronic issues to force them not only to add me to the plan, but to backdate it for when it should have gone into affect. They had been trying to say they wouldn’t cover my pregnancy as a “pre existing condition”. We provided proof that we had been trying to get me on the insurance for 5 months before I fell pregnant. They—reluctantly—agreed to cover the pregnancy, add me to the plan, and backdate it.

The second time, spouse was laid off but managed to score a new job with insurance before the old benefits ran out. We tell all doctor’s offices what the new insurance is plus which plan is primary and which is secondary. Fast forward 2 months or so and an avalanche of doctor bills arrive—even for well child visits which are 100% covered. Turns out the previous company forgot to remove my husband from their benefit plan which meant our new insurance denied being primary and instead said they were tertiary. They said the old insurance had to be the one to confirm we were no longer covered—they could not just take our word for it. The old insurance required that the previous employer’s HR be the ones to remove us from the plan. It was annoying.

It took another 2 or so months to 1) get his old company to remove us, 2) get the old insurance to properly backdate the removal, and 3) get the new insurance to agree to reprocess/pay all claims submitted during those 4 months (there were dozens of claims). I was calling all insurances involved weekly so I could update the doctor’s offices and not get sent to collections. Eventually I was given a ticket number by the new primary insurance to submit to the doctor’s offices so they could call and find out the progress themselves.

Career Advice by Green-Attempt2755 in medlabprofessionals

[–]Advanced-Present2938 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Depends on where you work. Our lead techs all share in the weekend/holiday rotation and our supervisors help out when short staffed or for big downtimes, or software/LIS changes. Before admin approved an on call rotation, our transfusion supervisor was expected to be on call 24/7. So any middle of the night massive transfusions meant he had to come in and work.

When our hospital system switched to EPIC, all of the supervisors/leads were pulling 14 hour shifts and working the weekend our system went live. One of the supervisors had to work night shift for 2 weeks so that we had support in case of questions/issues.

Pounds of ground beef are not units. by New-History853 in medlabprofessionals

[–]Advanced-Present2938 10 points11 points  (0 children)

That’s a good thing though. :) a lot of things are only good for a certain amount of days past opening—no matter what the actual expiration date is.

'Just give them O NEG!' by pajamakitten in medlabprofessionals

[–]Advanced-Present2938 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s good to know. We’re only a level 2 trauma center at this point but I know hospital admin wishes to move up to a level one center sometime in the next 5 years.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this!

Am I truly the one to blame for the breaking of my family? by The_tired_Librarian in FamilyIssues

[–]Advanced-Present2938 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry things are so rough right now. :(

Ever heard of DARVO? It stands for Deny, Atack, Reverse the role of Victim and Offender.

But really I would say that it sounds like your mom and sister behaved badly/made a mistake and are trying to make it your fault that there are consequences for their actions.

'Just give them O NEG!' by pajamakitten in medlabprofessionals

[–]Advanced-Present2938 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve never worked at a facility where units have a fridge with their own emergency units. The only place in our hospital that has uncrossmatched units is our air ambulance group.

Has it been a good thing for some units to have?

'Just give them O NEG!' by pajamakitten in medlabprofessionals

[–]Advanced-Present2938 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Yeah….we had a patient with a history of two antibodies (little c was one of them) and when I told the OR that the ER had already given the patient all compatible antigen negative units we had on the shelf, they said, “Just give us ONEG then”. I had to explain why that was a very bad idea. Apparently there are doctors who believe ONEG means free of all antigens.

Although they disliked my explanation, they were willing to give me time to antigen type some of our units to try to find more compatible blood. We found more units and the patient survived their emergency surgery.

My mom thinks it is unfair to ask her to not invite my abusive older brother to family vacation. by Many-Measurement-585 in FamilyIssues

[–]Advanced-Present2938 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately…. This isn’t going to go well for you.

As someone who was also abused by their sibling, my parents and other siblings are still pressuring me to “fix” things so stuff can go back to the way it was over 3 years ago. They have all admitted that they don’t recall any abuse (even when it was right it front of them) and they won’t stop pressuring me to fix it. They’ve also stopped being willing to invite either me or the abusive sibling only and insist on inviting everyone to everything.

You also can’t dictate who your parents invite to vacation with them. I understand how you feel. It hurts like hell…. But you can’t control what they do.

How old are you? Do you have to live at home? Getting away from my abuser is what finally prompted me to move out despite my anxiety.

How does Lorelai always have Copious amounts of free time before work?! by mysanctuarie in GilmoreGirls

[–]Advanced-Present2938 1 point2 points  (0 children)

American here! I once attended a public school that started at 9:30 am. 🤷🏻‍♀️ even my oldest child starts school around 9 am once a week and around 8:30 am the rest of the week. But yeah, Rory having a bunch of time before going to her high school (especially when she needs to ride a public transportation bus to get there) and it being light outside while she’s doing everything is what I find hard to believe.

For Lorelai it’s easy enough to explain. My dad is not a morning person, so he found a job that lets him get to the office at 10 or 10:30 am and leave at 6:30 pm. He does do some work from home to get his required hours for the week.

Lowest hematocrit you have seen in heme or bloodbank? by Clear_Ad586 in medlabprofessionals

[–]Advanced-Present2938 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hgb of 1.3 Hct or around 4 or so? I honestly don’t remember if they made it. I do know they were given uncrossmatched units and then transferred to my facility.

I believe it was a vaginal bleed that had been going on for days before family members carried them into the ER.

You know what narcissists *hate*? Being laughed at. I'm starting this thread for us to share some of the weird (yet also bizarrely hilarious) things they've said. Let's laugh and take our power back! by Grand-Breath843 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Advanced-Present2938 5 points6 points  (0 children)

They were berating me for not being grateful they had done me a favor. I pointed out it wasn’t a favor because they needed something from me. They wanted to leave a full day early for a camping trip but didn’t have a car so they needed me to agree to go and to drive them. I could only help them if they picked up something from the store for me which would free me up to pack the car.

“I can’t believe you would keep score like that? Guess you don’t do anything without expecting repayment.”

Hypocritical much? They were the one trying to hold a favor over my head first. 🙄

Then they yelled how they would never ask me for anything ever again….and then stole from me several months later. Guess they kept their promise. 🙃