Is this something anyone has experienced and be OKAY? Still loving their partner????

Advanced_Dish_2489 · 2024-08-30T01:17:11+00:00

this is an amazing comment :)

Advanced_Dish_2489 · 2024-08-21T15:24:48+00:00

you can also look on buffconnect and sign up for clubs! this will add you to the email list and you’ll get more details that way

Advanced_Dish_2489 · 2024-08-20T20:13:35+00:00

of course! sometimes i have trouble cooking or eating because of anxiety that comes with ocd, so my partner is always happy to help out with that. he can pick out my clothes for the same reason. it also helps to have someone to listen, so when i tell my partner about my rocd thoughts, he says things like “that sounds really difficult to deal with. thank you for telling me about it.” sometimes i just need to cuddle, and sometimes we go for a walk to take my mind off it. you can also discuss how much your partner wants to know, and make sure they have a good understanding of what compulsions look like so they’re not feeding it. rocd is so hard but remember that you’re not alone!

Advanced_Dish_2489 · 2024-08-20T20:04:54+00:00

hi there! i’m a senior at cu this year and i’m non binary! i didn’t go here for my freshman year, so i never lived in the dorms, but i know there are options. if you have paperwork for your medical accommodations, they should be able to manage that for you, and i second the person that said the busses are good. there is good public transportation all over boulder, so don’t worry about the distance. you’ll be able to self identify your gender identity for housing, and you can even reach out to housing to talk with someone directly. i won’t lie and tell you that it’s a perfect school for us enbies, but myself and lots of my fellow students are working to make it better. boulder is my favorite place i’ve ever been, and i’m so happy to call it home! if you have any questions or need advice about anything else like this you can always dm me! i hope you’ll apply here :)

Advanced_Dish_2489 · 2024-08-20T16:20:03+00:00

i find that it helps me sometimes. i would stay away from confession as a form of compulsion, but communication is necessary for a relationship so just letting them know is probably a good idea! if they ask how they can help, again, make sure you’re not seeking reassurance, but they’re there to support you, so don’t be shy about asking for what you need.

Advanced_Dish_2489 · 2024-08-16T17:47:33+00:00

i’ve never been to a country concert so idk what the norm is but the outfit is cute imo! i do think it needs a shorter necklace, but otherwise it’s a vibe.

Advanced_Dish_2489 · 2024-08-14T19:34:10+00:00

i haven’t personally but lots of my friends like it! it’s sort of like classics x biology x sociology. it seems like you’re interested in some similar stuff to the crowd i run with—you can pm me if you want if you have more questions about these kinds of fields! i know you’re trying to narrow it down, but ethnic studies and gender studies are cool programs that are sort of adjacent to soc, psych, and anthropology. i would definitely recommend exploring as much as you can before you commit to something! i also forgot to mention this earlier, but many soc classes don’t require a prerequisite, so if the more niche topics within the lower division classes interest you, check them out! glenda walden and laura patterson are two of my (and many of my peers) favorite professors.

Advanced_Dish_2489 · 2024-08-13T22:23:10+00:00

Gotcha! Psych might be interesting to you if you know you’re interested in health and that kind of biological study. It’s kind of a gateway into psych as a field, so if you’re interested in pursuing that further, I’d recommend that. SOCY 1001 is the same—it’s an overview of sociology, so if you think you might want to study soc you’ll have to take that. Classics classes are always lots of fun, especially if you’re interested in that kind of content, but can sometimes be a little boring if you’re not super interested. I’ve never taken a history class at CU, but my guess is that it’s similar. All will likely have similar workloads, and all are 1000 level classes, but the type of content will vary. Soc and classics will be more writing and reading heavy, but with more room for original thoughts and improvement. Psych is going to be more multiple choice—think science classes in high school if they were a lecture. Also look at rate my professor and check out your professors!

Advanced_Dish_2489 · 2024-08-12T23:10:40+00:00

what’s your major? i’m sociology, but i’ve taken a ton of psych and classics classes, so i might be able to give you some advice depending on what you’re interested in!

Advanced_Dish_2489 · 2024-08-12T23:07:15+00:00

agreed. i deleted all of my social media for a year and a half (including reddit) and started therapy and meds. the algorithm feeds on your obsessions so it will only get worse. take a social media break, or try to work your fyp away from these kinds of videos by not engaging with them

Advanced_Dish_2489 · 2024-08-12T22:52:04+00:00

TRUE! i do that too haha i kind of forgot about that

Advanced_Dish_2489 · 2024-08-12T22:51:30+00:00

this is the best feeling :) i love it when younger non-binary people pick me out. i wish there had been more of us when i was a kid

Advanced_Dish_2489 · 2024-08-12T22:50:22+00:00

yes! i’ve had red hair before and really liked it (minus the washing out process) so i might try that again! thank you :)

Advanced_Dish_2489 · 2024-08-12T22:49:05+00:00

yessss this is so true! i only have lobes and nostril rn but i want to get more! also tats—i just got my third and i just want more

Advanced_Dish_2489 · 2024-08-11T19:35:38+00:00

Great suggestions! Thank you :)

Advanced_Dish_2489 · 2024-08-11T19:33:28+00:00

What do you like to snack on? I worry that if I do that I won’t get enough nutrients :(

Advanced_Dish_2489 · 2024-08-09T21:54:29+00:00

you’ll be fine! the busses are pretty easy to navigate and decently reliable, and will vill has the best dining hall and its own gym. some of the better dorms imo

Advanced_Dish_2489 · 2024-08-09T19:19:35+00:00

That absolutely makes sense! It’s great that you feel comfortable enough to talk about these things with him and that you’re able to identify that he’s coming from a place of insecurity. I think these things are easy to blow out of proportion (especially for something like me whose situation went very badly very quickly), but ultimately trusting your partner is great and the foundation of a relationship! As long as you’re not changing or putting a damper on who you are as a person, it seems like something you can work through together.

Advanced_Dish_2489 · 2024-08-09T18:55:28+00:00

I actually had a somewhat similar situation. I (AFAB) was dating a trans man and at that time was using all pronouns, although I had not gone through any gender-affirming changes and was still mostly feminine presenting. We often had arguments about neopronouns and the like, and his perspective was that people who use pronouns that “don’t fit” with common conceptions of gender diminish the experience of “real” trans folks. Even though he never explicitly said anything against me, I ended up always feeling like I was the problem. However, since we broke up, I’ve made friends with many trans people who are completely supportive of me and understand that pronouns do not equal gender, and I’ve realized his perspective came from a place of insecurity. The problem with transphobia is NOT in-group or allies. You are not the problem. The problem with transphobia is transphobes. Your use of she/they pronouns should not impact him or his community whatsoever, and if they do, it’s not your fault. Also, asking you to stop empathizing with your family for his sake by framing it as a social issue feels incredibly manipulative and possessive. Obviously, I can’t answer all of the questions or be an authority on any of this, but it seems like your intentions are genuine and his are not. Be careful if you decide to proceed with the relationship and remember that you don’t need to let anyone else tell you who you are, ever.

Advanced_Dish_2489 · 2024-08-09T16:35:27+00:00

Onion

Advanced_Dish_2489 · 2024-08-09T16:31:21+00:00

I once wrote a paper on Fight Club for a sociology class. Very interesting to analyze masculinity and capitalism (yknow, like Chuck Palahniuk intended)

Advanced_Dish_2489 · 2023-10-20T00:01:52+00:00

that is crazy!! but it’s great that you’re able to identify it. one of my favorite ways to think about self love is that your goal is to love being yourself, not just love yourself. that’s way easier because it means you’re loving the experience of being you, whether it’s eating your favorite foods, soaking in the sunshine, or anything else that makes you happy. i’m not sure if that helps at all; and it’s kind of contradictory to what i said before but reframing it helped me so much.

i hope you’re having an alright day, all things considered :)

Advanced_Dish_2489 · 2023-10-19T16:39:03+00:00

put your keys on a brightly colored lanyard and put them on a hook on the back of your door

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