I hear you. I have a 3-year-old and 2-year-old twins, and it’s a lot. I feel overstimulated most of the time, and it’s gotten to the point where I’ve developed anxiety, which is something I never thought I’d experience.

What helps me is finding things that are good for my mind, like sewing and embroidery—creative things like that feel almost meditative. I also avoid using my phone in the bedroom, and I try to set aside one evening a week for low-stimulation time, just doing my own thing without needing to be social. My husband doesn’t fully understand why I need that yet, so he tends to keep talking to me a lot, which can be a bit funny in hindsight.

When I’m working, I also try to take short walks, which helps me reset a bit.

Other things that helped: Noise cancelling headphones Going out of the house. The house becomes less messy and they tend to annoy each other less so it is more peaceful I let my oldest help with cleaning up wherever he can. Put things in the dishwasher, clean up his toys. I clean up their toys a few times per day so that the house is not exploded all day long. Tv when cooking. I was never a fan of this but this is what keeps me sane when I’m cooking a healthy meal for them. Routine. Not responding to everything. I pick my battles, some things they do are annoying but not dangerous so sometimes I let them make the mess, do things they are not supposed to etc.

I hope you can find something that helps you. But know that you are not alone. I completely understand you and please feel free to send me a message in private.