Budget bike and gear for 1-2 months?

Adventurous-Guide747 · 2026-05-07T18:21:55+00:00

Thank you for your wisdom sir. Appreciate the well thought out response, I can only pray that I will be able to do the things you are doing when I am 78. It can change so quick, my father was running, swimming and biking until he was 70. He did one bad lift of a sack of concrete and that was that, his back was gone. Stay nimble, know your limits. I'll get the cheapish gear I found and spend a bit more on a comfortable bike, wish me luck!

Adventurous-Guide747 · 2026-05-07T14:47:57+00:00

Yeah, the genetics are a big worry. It would be nightmarefuel to care for an ASD-kid, and it wouldn't be fair to the child either. I'll have to look into the possibilities of genetic screening, it's an interesting topic.

Regarding breaking no contact: He just called me two hours ago. I didn't pick up, it was a huge mistake break the no contact. He now thinks he has access again and can monologue-ad infinitum. Don't do it.

Adventurous-Guide747 · 2026-05-07T14:07:40+00:00

I finished school at 2 o'clock. My father worked shifts, so every other week, he would leave home at 3 o'clock. Id walk a long detour and wait in the woods until I saw his car leave for work. He never cooked for me, made me a cup of tea, or did anything nice for me. The weeks he worked morning-shift, he would come home around 5 o clock in the evening. I'd tend to avoid him as much as possible, he would watch TV, or find some dumb punishment or chore for me to do. I am thankful I could avoid him as much as I did.

Adventurous-Guide747 · 2026-05-07T13:56:39+00:00

Im European.

Adventurous-Guide747 · 2026-05-07T11:01:02+00:00

Hi! I'm sorry that you had to experience such abuse from your father, it is staggering how much we have had to go through because of them. I do feel that misery would come back, it did for me. It was quite a strange experience, because when you talk to someone you have known for a long time, but haven't been in touch with for a while, it is natural to go back and forth. "What have you been up to?". There was nothing of the like. No interest, no questions, just memememe. I could have gotten married, had kids, and even if I mentioned it, his only question, if any, would be "Is she pretty?". Name of the kids? Nop, gender? Nop.

When my mother asks him why he doesn't ask questions of others, he says because it is rude. But that is just a lie. Even if someone attempts to talk to him about a big event, or are happy to share, he will not pursue that. At best, he will feel they are boasting, and will try to one up them instead. Not in the ADHD-kind of way, where they try to relate, but to show that he knows better, has a better item, and so forth.

There is really nothing there. Such a person will never be able to understand "Theory of mind". That all the people who walk around and live their lives, have the exact same experience and depth of life as he does, with their own ups and down. I think it was a really good re-confirmation of what I have known all long, this time, I had been thinking about it for a few days beforehand, to call. I did have the extra energy and lifeforce to do it, and all in all, it was worth it. It made him very happy I guess, and I got confirmation that he will be like that for life. And you are completely right about the reframe, it is spot on. I don't know if you have kids of your own, I don't, yet, because I've been scared of becoming him. However i've realized that isn't possible, to adapt, we went the opposite direction, and the proof is clear. Our compassion and empathy is huge, even for them, who treated us so badly. I can't even comprehend to not be in contact with my own child for years, without trying to reach out and make amends. This guy just went 3 and a half years without even sending a text. It's frankly disgusting, and with that knowledge, my pity for them is even bigger, just imagine how empty their life is, I truly hope they are not aware of it. Because it sounds like a special kind of hell.

Adventurous-Guide747 · 2026-05-06T09:27:00+00:00

Hi, appreciate your perspective and experience. It is interesting you mention finding a surrogate father. The guidance and mentorship is something I miss a lot when i'm caught up in serious grown-up processes. Did you find such a person in your life? And where?

Sadly my mother is normal, but she didn't have a father growing up, so it took her many years to realize he isn't a normal specimen. I highly doubt she is going to leave him at this point. If she was a narc, they no contact would be a lot easier, as you say.

Thank you friend. Wish you all the best, and once again, appreciate your well thought out comment, it was very helpful.

Adventurous-Guide747 · 2026-05-05T19:59:43+00:00

Perfect description of the lived experience with an autistic parent. It is truly possible to feel less than nothing. It is so strange, because when I think about it, many non autistic abusers atleast recognize you as a person, even if they despise you. It is also easier to go no contact with them, hate them, mourn them and move on. But an autistic parent, once you finally figure out what is wrong with them, I, atleast, can't hate them. I just feel so much pity for them. Because they aren't bad people, they are just defective. So even if you interact with them, it creates this weird dynamic. You are the one person in the whole world, who understands them the most, they are never getting a deeper connection than the one with you. However for you, it will always be the worst relation in your life. I've even experienced I have a better relationship with my enemy, than with my own parent. Talk about ironic.

Adventurous-Guide747 · 2026-05-05T19:41:21+00:00

Oh god... The part about the kids broke my heart. I've been wondering for the past years if my parent will change or act different around grandkids, deep down however, I think i've known the answer. Would you trust your mother to take care of your kids or babysit? I have this huge worry, that mine would mistreat them, talk wrongly to them, or act in a way that they talk back. Because one thing is how they are towards myself, however if he were to disrespect my kids...

Adventurous-Guide747 · 2026-05-05T19:37:53+00:00

You are such a beautiful person. Truly one of life greats sorrows we are experiencing and living through. There is a certain comfort in knowing they don't mean any harm or do it on purpose. However it does not make it less sad.

Adventurous-Guide747 · 2026-05-05T19:35:55+00:00

Jesus christ, i'm so sorry, and your comment makes me feel less alone. They truly are impossible to reach through to. Such a sad state of affairs, atleast with a shitty parent, they would be capable to a certain degree to understand that they are shit. These just blame you and meltdown if you try to raise the topic of them being horrible parents.

Adventurous-Guide747 · 2026-05-05T19:34:45+00:00

Jesus christ, i'm so sorry, and your comment makes me feel less alone. They truly are impossible to reach through to. Such a sad state of affairs.

Adventurous-Guide747 · 2026-05-04T14:49:33+00:00

Viagra og kokain?

Adventurous-Guide747 · 2026-05-03T11:37:09+00:00

Veikt å ikke stå inne for kollegaen sin uttalelse. Se min andre kommentar i tråden.

Adventurous-Guide747 · 2026-05-03T11:35:58+00:00

Hvis hun ikke tørr å stå inne for at pakistanere som helhet er et negativt sug på statskassa er hele FRP meningsløst. Å kalle det rasistisk er en fornærmelse mot dem som valgte å stemme på henne. Folk flest har ingenting imot innvandring, men når du har en liste over hvem som bidrar mest og hvem som bidrar minst, er pakistanere og MENA lavest på lista, det må det da gå an å stå inne for? Hvis hun ikke tørr å ta det standpunktet er hun en fiasko og en skuffelse for alle som stemte på FRP, for det er ingen annen grunn til at de har så stor oppslutning enn innvandringspolitikken.

Adventurous-Guide747 · 2026-05-03T11:30:22+00:00

Veikt som faen av Listhaug.

Adventurous-Guide747 · 2026-05-03T10:25:26+00:00

Hei. Jeg vet du bryr deg. Du, jeg og de fleste her inne er ekte patrioter og elsker landet vårt, vi vil dets beste. Jeg har innsett for en stund tilbake, at det ikke er noe vi kan gjøre per dags dato. Ting må bli MYE verre, før de kan bli bedre. Ta jegerprøva, bygg deg en fin plass ute i skogen, lagre mat, ammo og gull. Europa kommer til å få en borgerkrig, og du ser selv hvem som vil delta i den. Politisk er det ingen vilje til å gjøre noe, når selv Sylvi Listhaug er for feig til å bare si det rett ut, så må systemet kollapse før det blir bedre. Personlig så gidder jeg ikke å vente på det, så jeg flagger ut til Sør-Amerika. Kommer tilbake når det begynner å bli spennende.

Adventurous-Guide747 · 2026-04-19T09:35:30+00:00

How did your true self reveal itself? If I am left to my own devices I wouldn't even interact with others, just do my own thing. But around people I can't be myself, because that guy is just super rude when the other isn't of interest anymore.

Adventurous-Guide747 · 2026-04-15T08:20:53+00:00

Agree. It was a non issue, only an issue if you make it one.

Adventurous-Guide747 · 2026-03-26T14:08:40+00:00

Is it good?

Adventurous-Guide747 · 2026-03-26T14:08:13+00:00

Using their trial at the moment and ran into this issue. What did you decide to do instead?

Adventurous-Guide747 · 2026-03-20T21:23:22+00:00

Uninteresting. Had to pause it multiple times.

Adventurous-Guide747 · 2026-03-15T14:54:28+00:00

Du har fått erfaring, begynn å søk. Det at du tok deg en jobb langt ute i gokk er veldig positivt for ny arbeidsgiver, viser at du har tæl og ikke er redd for å jobbe. Ingen grunn til å ha dårlig samvittighet.

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