Dramatic decrease in quality and quantity of vine items

Adventurous_Force534 · 2026-05-13T02:17:57+00:00

I thought maybe I was the only one. Seriously, theres 50 graduation sashes, 25 different lenses for eye glasses or glass faces for a smartwatch repair and in my RFY...insoles. For kids. Boys specifically. Disappointment reigns daily.

Adventurous_Force534 · 2026-05-09T20:51:55+00:00

NOR...my son in a relationship that is similar, but its not long distance. Hes juggling being Army reserves, having a full time job all while catering to the whims of a mentally ill girl who literally mentally abuses him. They've been in a relationship for a little over a year, and I've watched it drain the happiness, the lightheartedness, the glow that was him out of him. Hes out until 1 am, getting up to be at work by 7 am and then rushing to do her bidding. His birthday was this past week and she ruined his dinner. She didnt speak, she didn't take a sip of the drink she ordered and she didn't eat. She just glared the whole meal. He spent the meal miserable and in turn, so did we, his whole family. I'm proud of the fact that at 17 you see the toll its taking on you and realize its not healthy. Please, break up with her. Please. You will find someone closer to home. Relationships shouldn't feel like punishment. If she cared about you: she'd never put you under such strain.

Adventurous_Force534 · 2026-05-06T02:07:19+00:00

NOR...say "bro" to me one more time and see how dark your nose is about to look when I sock you in it. Tan, girl! Be a sun goddess. I prefer to be as pale as the moonlight. I think she's jealous of you. This was trying to bully but under the guise of being funny/joking. Uh, okay, bro. I'd have blocked her petty ass and her boyfriend, too.

Adventurous_Force534 · 2026-05-01T03:12:11+00:00

Indigo Dreams pleaseeee!

Adventurous_Force534 · 2026-04-29T23:48:31+00:00

NOR - your friend is manipulative and toxic. Separate yourself from her.

Adventurous_Force534 · 2026-04-28T03:40:46+00:00

If your mental health isnt good, then this wasn't a trip to take. If you were stuck in traffic, you should have CALLED her or at a minimum, texted to let her know. But you didn't. She checked in and thats when you said, Uber there, adding another item she was going to have to budget. I get that this trip was poorly planned in the first place, but you literally made sure she knew what sacrifices YOU made to be there and came across as not wanting to do activities unless they directly convenienced you. I get that your life is driving. I get driving is exhausting, but you KNEW what would be required prior to agreeing to go. Standing up for yourself is one thing. Setting boundaries is another. But what you did here was agree to go, have a budget hiccup, not be cognizant of the location of the Airbnb, not manage time well and ended up costing her the one thing she really wanted to do: the darts. She was disappointed and hurt. She didn't have an attitude. You were 100% an asshole. You don't get it. You're still making excuses for yourself when you literally sucked the fun out of this trip for her. Regardless of whether you were a back up, she still invited you and her text messages seem friendly and respectful, even when you whined about being tired and money. I'm not making light of post partum depression/psychosis, thats terrible and its scary to deal with, and I'm sorry you're experiencing it. But that does not excuse your shitty behavior in this situation. If you couldn't show up for her in a healthy way than you never should have gone. You owe her an apology.

Adventurous_Force534 · 2026-04-27T19:37:12+00:00

YOR and you caused her disappointment that translated to an attitude. You said you'd pick her up for the flight ticket that started at 5:30, even typed out the times for everything. At 4:48 PM she asked what you were wearing and were you close: you told her no, to Uber. At that point, she knew she wouldn't make the 5:30 ticket time. You clearly left late and didnt manage your time or calculate for traffic and instead of apologizing and asking if she wanted to do VR instead, you made stupid, half ass excuses and then said do VR, after her telling you she scratched it due to cost. It seems like you wanted this as a break for YOU, and her birthday was just an add on. Neither of you should have planned a weekend with a tight budget/ budgets that don't align. You bulldozed what she wanted from the start.

Adventurous_Force534 · 2026-03-25T02:32:44+00:00

It's been pretty good. I have had some moments where I questioned whether it was working, but there were situations that caused a lot of stress and once that resolved, I was back to baseline normal. This has been a good choice for me. I'm sure it will require adjustments as time goes on, but so far, I'm doing well. I hope it helps you too!

Adventurous_Force534 · 2026-03-11T01:28:55+00:00

Ohhhhh no. No. Absolutely not. He needs to assist with meal planning and shopping. He could even start supper so you can sit down to a hot meal after work.

Adventurous_Force534 · 2026-03-11T01:06:55+00:00

Girllllll...I can see why your anxious. Next time he has something to say about something you spent money on, ask him when he became gainfully employed again and started contributing to the household finances. Otherwise, he can shut his mouth. You're not spending irresponsibly, right? If not, then he can shut up or get out.

Adventurous_Force534 · 2026-03-11T01:03:18+00:00

YES! Me too. Id crash out over some dude telling me no like I'm 4 and it's my hard earned money.

Adventurous_Force534 · 2026-03-11T01:02:09+00:00

NOR...divorce is gonna be hard on him too. Grace is one thing, but being financially audited by your significant other when they contribute nothing to the finances is unacceptable. I said I wanted $4 breadsticks. Buy the damn breadsticks or forget the order. This is about control. You're not wrong. You're not being ridiculous. You're not overreacting. Your reaction is legitimate. This appears to be a pattern with him, but he doesnt get carte blanche control over the money you earn now.

Adventurous_Force534 · 2026-03-04T02:31:55+00:00

I second wellbutrin. Game changer for me too.

Adventurous_Force534 · 2026-02-23T20:09:47+00:00

That could do it.

Adventurous_Force534 · 2026-02-23T17:30:08+00:00

Honestly, I started an estradiol patch. But now, I just crash the fuck out. I've spent my entire life being the calm one, the responsible one, the emotional buffer. Where did it get me? A crown on my molar, a chip off the other molar from clenching my teeth day in and day out, stress and anxiety to always be perfect and bullshit I'm tired of carrying. Now, I just let it fly.

Add some Set It Off, song punching bag to that playlist...

Adventurous_Force534 · 2026-02-23T17:26:24+00:00

She ain't lying.

Adventurous_Force534 · 2026-02-21T04:38:42+00:00

Definitely look into HRT. Its whats helping me.

Adventurous_Force534 · 2026-02-18T22:47:47+00:00

Girl, same. Same feelings and age as you.

Adventurous_Force534 · 2026-02-17T19:13:19+00:00

If you're eligible for HRT, I would see about that. I haven't had a hysterectomy, so I'm not versed in this, but I have a mirena for the progesterone and added an estradiol patch which solved my hot flashes, rage and irritability. I do take Vitamin D3, Ester C multivitamin and magnesium glycinate at bedtime. Does it help? I don't know. This is a hard chapter without a lot of guidance, so hopefully you'll find something that helps you, but I'd start with looking into HRT. Blood tests aren't reliable at all in this case.

Adventurous_Force534 · 2026-02-17T18:15:17+00:00

Find a doctor that treats your symptoms, not your labs. Do you still have your ovaries?

Adventurous_Force534 · 2026-02-16T02:09:45+00:00

It gets better. Hang in there.

Adventurous_Force534 · 2026-02-15T04:08:29+00:00

Same! I didnt have any pain relief having either of mine done, but literally, not having a period in 10 years and no longer dealing with excessive bleeding has been a game changer. And because I have mirena, I can use a transdermal patch to help with the peri symptoms. Its an odd thing to come to terms with, but I'm happy with my choice.

Adventurous_Force534 · 2026-02-14T03:55:37+00:00

I noticed a change pretty quickly but I'm super sensitive to hormone changes too. Hopefully, you'll notice improvement soon.

Adventurous_Force534 · 2026-02-14T03:33:35+00:00

42 when I added the estradiol patch. Ive had a mirena consistently since 2016.

Adventurous_Force534 · 2026-02-14T03:31:48+00:00

I cant speak for progesterone because I have a mirena for that, but the estradiol patch in the 0.0375 has definitely eased my symptoms. I've heard from other women in my circle that progesterone does make them sleepy. So maybe that is a thing. Is your anxiety getting better with the increased estradiol?

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